OMG! My mother-in-law is driving me crazy!

cwilson715

Hey Everyone! I posted a blog a few weeks ago talking about my in-laws moving here and that they where staying with us. I cooked a few days and now she is insisting on cooking and she puts butter, lard and fat in everything along with salt. I only lost 2.2 lbs last week which is great but I hadn't lost under 3lbs every week prior and this week I haven't lost anything. Help! I am going to have to start cooking my own dinners what do I do? Plus I feel like I haven't seen my husband at all this week. UGH!

cwilson715

Hey Everyone! I posted a blog a few weeks ago talking about my in-laws moving here and that they where staying with us. I cooked a few days and now she is insisting on cooking and she puts butter, lard and fat in everything along with salt. I only lost 2.2 lbs last week which is great but I hadn't lost under 3lbs every week prior and this week I haven't lost anything. Help! I am going to have to start cooking my own dinners what do I do? Plus I feel like I haven't seen my husband at all this week. UGH!

Shannon023

Yiiikes! :flowerforyou:

How much longer is she staying with you?

ramonaschack

UGH touchy situation. Maybe you could explain how you are promoting healthy eating habits in your children and do not prepare food with butter, lard and/or salt. That you appreciate her wanting to help out but that you would rather do the cooking and maybe she could help out with someting else.

tanzmamma

awww my in laws cook everything in butter and oil too................. but since they know I'm working so hard, when I am around they have healthy choices for me (and THEY eat the fat stuff lol).

I would just speak up. Say hey, this is REALLY good and I wish I could have some but I am really determined to lose this weight....

LokiFae

Eek. I know that that can be a tough situation. My husband, son, and I lived with his parents for a few months after I gave birth. Hence, the 50-or-so pounds I gained, because she cooked all the time!!!! (That sentence didn't make sense, but I don't know how to fix it. ) It is a touchy situation, but since they're staying with you, say, "It would really be such a treat if you would watch the kids while I cooked dinner. Usually I can't have a second of peace!" The reason she's probably cooking is because she wants to feel helpful because they're staying there. I would turn it around to her being WAY more helpful if she watches the kids while you cook. Also, say that you and your husband like to cook together (even if you don't. He can sit in the kitchen and talk to you while you cook dinner and you could have at least a little time together.) If none of that works, just say thank you for her cooking, eat just a little bit, and fill up on a big salad. If you refuse to eat what she cooks, you may make more problems for yourself, so just take a tiny serving and taste it, compliment her, and move it around on your plate and fill up on the good stuff. Good luck! It won't be forever. :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

spaul82478

I totally feel you... I had this same problem when I was married.. THEY were very negative about me loosing weight becase it inconvineced them.. BUt its your home and if you have a great relationship with them.. just say politely that you would like to continue cooking healthy and you love that your helping but, my body just can not handle the foods your preparing. IF you dont mink you may cook whatever you'd like but I will be more than h appy to cook my own foods. HOpe that works.. Best of luck to you. :bigsmile:

shkaki

I run into this all of the time with my friends and family. I just stay strong and say "I'm sorry i am particular about the foods that I eat, thank you so much for cooking for the family, but i'm just going to make myself something that will help me be successful in my weight loss". if you be persistant that you're going to eat healthy, they will stop bothering you about it, and maybe even start to try some of the healthy foods. Just remember if you only stick to your guns sometimes, then they will have an excuse to say "well you ate it last time, how come you can eat it this time." If they love you and you show how important it is to you, they should be nothing but supportive!