I give up.

smilebhappy

Hi there,
I'm sorry you are having a tough time but please Do Not Give Up!! You Can (& will) do this
Somedays are tougher than others & sometimes you may take a few steps backwards but in time
you will get better & better.....just take baby steps at first.

Please hang in there......friend me if you like :flowerforyou:

{{Don't set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you.}}

karensoxfan

... i was at about 238 in december... had a doctor tell me that i should consider taking in lower calories and then upping them slowly to help my metabolism. i managed to get down to 225 and then made a concious decision to keep doing what i was doing and take that advice and since then have lost 8 more ...

My advice to you was going to be to talk to your doctor. Not for mental health, but your primary physician, to ask for his/her advice on your plan. I'm glad you've already done that and are taking that professional advice to heart.

What you wrote is ambiguous though, as to how low did your Dr. recommend setting your calories. Did s/he recommend starting at 500 cal/day? Or was the advice more general and that's where you decided to start? I've never heard any Dr. recommend anything below 1000 cal/day, but (obviously), I don't know you or your Dr. I do know in general, that 1000 cal/day is a more widely recommended minimum to work from, but for your weight, I would guess that 1200-1300 would be a better starting point to lose weight, slowly & gradually decreasing that as you lose more until you reach your goal weight. Then, you'd start adding some calories to maintain the loss.

But back to my original advice. Talk to your Dr. again. Explain what's been happening with your calories and weight, and ask for either more specific advice, or a referral to someone who can provide that detail for you (maybe a nutritionist?).

Take care. (((hugs)))

BunnybeeJG

I was having such a bad night. Lack of sleep and such....I wasn't giving up bc its too hard I was getting frustrated that people wanted me to eat more when I'm perfectly happy with what I'm doing now. I know it seems dangerous but for my height I'm obese and I need to start off this way to get it going. I love the gym actually. I work retail and its a huge stress reliever and besides its not as if I'm eating nothing. I'm eating. I'm eating good foods. Food I like depriving yourself never works anyway. And I eat more on days I work out. To even it out mostly. I don't go up to the 2000-3000 that somtimes seems to be recoomended by mfp from extra exercise but ya. What's killing me is that everyone is trying to take control over this too for me. And I'm getting frustrated. I have to get ready for work. Today I find out if we're closing too

vickyplum

Please dont give up!! your doing something for you and you have lost 8lbs already that's great in itself!!

I yo-yo dieted for years and then at the begining of last year I decided enough was enough!!
If your feeling good with what your doing keep doing it this is your journey and no-one elses
and as has been said before every journey is diffrent!!
I hope you stick with it and you will get to where you would like to be!!
All my best wishes for you!!

V xxx

BunnybeeJG

Its hard to find hobbies ...I paint sometimes and write. I used to sing I used to perform but work and such has become ...the routine. I don't have a car. So that's always a problem. So I just go to the gym. I love it there. Cuz I can just relax

carocurl135

Its like quitting smoking. You quit, it sucks, you start again. You quit, it sucks, you start again.
And then one day, you quit, it sucks, but you keep quitting. And then it is a week, then a month, then 7 years later.
I have been sporadically dieting, losing weight, exercising, gaining weight for years and years, like all of us do.
And then one day over a year ago, I said, thats it, I am 211 and almost 40 and this cannot go on. I am done with this. And I quit quitting.
I have lost 54 lbs, I eat less, and better, and I go to the gym 5 days a week. I literally worked my *kitten* off. It is hard, and some days I dont want to go but I do.
Some days suck, the scale just sits there and stares back. But some weeks it jumps. It has taken a long time to get it off but it is off and it is going to stay off.
One day at a time. Thats all there is to it.
It will stick one day. And then it will be years later, and you are healthy and happy and still alive!