I hate my job...should I quit?

elfie9863

ON THE OTHER HAND.... I worked at a job for many years that I DETESTED WITH MY WHOLE BEING!! I had two girls to raise and I "sucked it up" for way too long. I really regret that now. Personally, I would rather jump out into the unknown than deal with s**t anymore...I think I am just at the age I am so done with taking crap from people.

Its a totally personal decision, and only YOU know how bad it is. I truly contemplated doing some bad things to myself to get out from under t he constant stress and borderline craziness I went through.

Don't trade some low rent , non career oriented job for your sanity.

I know this.

PlanetVelma

You're question should be "I have crappy co-workers, how do I deal with them". Don't quit, because as much as you think you don't need that reference, you probably do. Be professional - who cares if it's "just" waiting tables. There are a lot of people out there who would be more than happy just waiting tables because they don't have a job right now!

Part of being a "grown up" is dealing with people you don't like at work. Trust me even if you found your "grown up job" there are always going to be people like that no matter if you're waiting tables or cleaning teeth. It's how you deal with them.

Confront the girls you are having issues with, ask her (NICELY) what is the problem, that this is the work environment and it's better if everyone gets along. I've done that - just as long as you do it in a nice way, everything will work out for the best. Talk to your manager and ask if there are things that you can do to make yourself a more valuable employee. Go out of your way to go above and beyond your regular duties, give them no reason to give you a bad reference.

Finally, register with a temp agency, find another job, give your two week notice and be sure you give everyone a HUGE smile on your last day and tell them what a pleasure it is working with them but you are on to bigger and better things.

k_wills

Try and resolve your problems!!!
Make an appointment and sit down with the manager to discuss how you're feeling, think about what the real problems are...And come up with some suggestions for improvement.

How do you get on with your co workers? What can you do to improve relations with them? Maybe your unhappiness makes you seem stand-off-ish towards them.

The problem with leaving a job is that you always take yourself with you!

Dreamerlove

Thanks everyone for replying. I know I should be a "big girl" and not quit. I have never just didn't show up, but that's what this place makes me WANT to do. I have a long job history. 5 years and one place, 2 at another and 2 at this one. I just know (not is a cocky way) I deserve better (and so does everyone else). The way they treat people here is ridiculous. They will call you fat, call you names, start rumors about you. THIS IS THE MANAGERS. So it's not only about "my work ethic" these things are what is making me want to quit. I have an interview next week but you never know, I may not get it. Thanks for reminding and encouraging me to be better and not quit. The only reason I will stay (if I do) is for my sweet husband, I don't want to put stress on him. I still don't know what to do.

RoadDog

It a lot easier looking for a job, when you have a job. Find employment elsewhere, then quit!

fromaquasar

Um are you looking now? For a new job I mean? Throw yourself into that. keep it as your burning secret that gets you through the crap days, you WILL be moving on - and then once you find one triumphantly quit. No bills stress.

jojosmojitos

“If you work for a man, in Heaven’s name,
WORK for him. If he pays you wages which
supply you bread and butter, work for him;
speak well of him; stand by him and stand by
the institution he represents. If put to a pinch,
an ounce of loyalty is worth a pound of cleverness.
If you must vilify, condemn and eternally
disparage – resign your position; and
when you are outside, damn to your heart’s
content, but as long as you are part of the
institution do not condemn it. If you do that,
you are loosening the tendrils that are hold
you to the institution, and at the first high
wind that comes along, you will be uprooted
and blown away, and probably will never
know the reason why.” - Elbert Hubbard

I think that is a great quote! I am not happy with my current job right now either, but it pays the bills and need to remember things like this when I am feeling like giving up. I would offer my advice to you in this situation, but since I am not exactly sure what I should do, the most I can say is: the worst thing you can do is nothing.

nalia08

If you are currently stressed from having a job you hate, there will double the stress because now you will be unemployed and have financial hardship to add to it. It's not worth it. Just keep praying and stay focused on leaving. It's the Devil trying to steal your joy! I had jobs like that, I knew in my mind that I could do better and wasn't limited to what was in front of me! You are young. When the going get's tough, the tough get going, LOL!

Wait it out until other money sources are coming in....and then and only then should you pull a no show!

AreneeS22

well, I was actually in the same situation (still am kinda)... I am a server also, and I HATE the company i work for... they do not care about their employees at all. About a year ago I was so fed up (plus the added stress of things outside of work) that one night I simply didnt go in. I didnt think it would be too hard to find another job, but I was wrong... went 2 months without work, and during that time I fell behind on bills, things were more stressful at home, and I ended up very depressed... Luckily, my old job took me back and after the way I felt being out of work those 2 months, having to deal with all the crap at work didnt seem as bad anymore. Am currently looking for another job,... and it is hard and it may take some time (and patience) but you WILL find something better... just have to look at it this way, at least you have a job (no matter how bad it is) when theres so many people out there right now that dont... Just stay positive

BunnybeeJG

ya just go. I feel the same way but i'm basically to the point where i'm with them til the end ... its very hard to find jobs out here... in the state i'm in you can't even get a temp agency to help bc they are to capacity and there just ... aren't any jobs. and now they are closing more stuff down and putting thousands more out of work which is only going to make the jobs that are available no matter how degrading and menial.. even harder to get. so it pretty much sucks. I guess quit if you can live without food and gas...:sick: everything seems really horrible right now... i honestly hope it gets better... cuz at this rate its really scary. stick with it and make it better... get to know your coworkers better and become friends... that's the only thing that gets me going at work...

BunnybeeJG

and most of my customers make me feel worthless on a daily basis so... :brokenheart:

AbiNichole

Everyone here is saying that you should stay working until you find another job and I agree. I'm currently in the middle of a career transition as well. I think it's important to treat your career search like a part time job. If you're really serious about moving jobs you should put 2-4 hrs in daily and even more on the days you have off. I work M-F 10 hrs and I'm able to devot 2-4 hrs every week day and 4-6 hrs on weekends to my job search. Get serious and you'll get results in NO time.

And NEVER let how someone treats you or stress affect your health. What you put in your body is in your control :-)

bjerkins

I had a job I hated. I quit and did not regret it. It was not worth the stress. I firmly believe you should love what yo
u do. of course these are different times.
Y

Tuplatano

Work really hard at finding another job, but don't quick until you have a backup plan. Life is short and is not worthy of being in a place you feel miserable. if it will put you on financial hardship don't quit until you find that other job. If you need to take control of your finance here is a link to my financial advisor. Daveramsey.com or google dave ramsey total money make over. He totally change my life. Good luck. I know how you feel my wife been going thru the same thing or similar, working at a place where there is no respect or lack of professionalism. The economy is bad but I'm sure you can find something out there. I know lots of people that stay at suck jobs just because they get comfortable with it and start to think is okay by adopting to been put down, but them they are always complaining about the job as soon as it hit 5 pm, I'm not saying this is you. But it can get to a point that the negative outlook at work can affect you emotionally and affect the one around you. So spread those wings and find something better than your current job.

Dreamerlove

For all of those who encouraged me to NOT quit my job yesterday..Thank you! I sucked it up and went, I guess the good Lord knew I was upset bc it wasn't that bad. Tonight will be worse, but I need to go grocery shopping and buy some things, so I guess I would rather be miserable for like a couple hours rather than non-stop. I think I was having a mental breakdown......Going to work out after I finish lunch!

jojosmojitos

I am so glad it went better than expected! Maybe tonight will too. Good luck!

Johnnyswife

I've only quit one job without having another one lined up and it was a big mistake. I was still living at home thankfully, but it still bit into my finances because I didn't want to totally depend on my parents.

I looked for two months before I finally got something else.....it was horrible, I only lasted there four days, quit and went back to my old job and had to practically beg for it back (even though they were complete A-holes which is why I quit in the first place).

Suck it up until you find another....knowing the end is near should make it a little more standable.

I did the same thing and it took over 6 months to find a new one, and another to get to the pay rate I was making. New potential employers want to know why you left and if they call the place for a refrence and find that you quit, they might not want to take a chance on you for fear you might quit on them.
Thats all I have to add, everyone else already gave great advice.