OT - need some advice

Mireille

Okay, about 6 months ago I opened an account on facebook and was excited to locate old high school friends. Well about 2 weeks into it I got a message from a guy that I met about 14 or 15 years ago. At the time, I lived in small town, came to big city to party, met him and exchanged addresses. I think we kissed but that was it! Anyhow, in his msg he basically told me he was still in love with me and wanted to get back together. I was really creep ed out and rejected him as a friend and deleted my account.

A couple of months ago, my girlfriends convinced me to reopen my account and they figured he wouldn't contact me again. Well, they were wrong. He sent me a msg today.
This is what he wrote:

"Mirielle,
>
> Sorry it took me so long to write you that letter... I obviously tried too hard to express... no pun intended... how great I felt to have met you... put lyrically in reciting all that we talked about. I want to really make it up to you so we could get together again even if it means staying plutonic, especially when your smile has been very uplifting on top of all else that I really admire about you... and eversince... I have been hoping to get a another chance to redeem myself and will do whatever I can out of respect to make turn out the right way.
> "

So, obviously the guy has a couple of issues. The msg is just weird and doesn't make sense.
I've made a few changes to my account and he can no longer send me msgs and my e-mail address
is no longer visible.
He obviously knows my name and I'm a little scared he's gonna 411 me and call me.
I just don't want the drama.

My question is:
Should I ignore him or should I kindly send him a note to leave me alone.

Anyone been in this kind of situation?

Mireille

Okay, about 6 months ago I opened an account on facebook and was excited to locate old high school friends. Well about 2 weeks into it I got a message from a guy that I met about 14 or 15 years ago. At the time, I lived in small town, came to big city to party, met him and exchanged addresses. I think we kissed but that was it! Anyhow, in his msg he basically told me he was still in love with me and wanted to get back together. I was really creep ed out and rejected him as a friend and deleted my account.

A couple of months ago, my girlfriends convinced me to reopen my account and they figured he wouldn't contact me again. Well, they were wrong. He sent me a msg today.
This is what he wrote:

"Mirielle,
>
> Sorry it took me so long to write you that letter... I obviously tried too hard to express... no pun intended... how great I felt to have met you... put lyrically in reciting all that we talked about. I want to really make it up to you so we could get together again even if it means staying plutonic, especially when your smile has been very uplifting on top of all else that I really admire about you... and eversince... I have been hoping to get a another chance to redeem myself and will do whatever I can out of respect to make turn out the right way.
> "

So, obviously the guy has a couple of issues. The msg is just weird and doesn't make sense.
I've made a few changes to my account and he can no longer send me msgs and my e-mail address
is no longer visible.
He obviously knows my name and I'm a little scared he's gonna 411 me and call me.
I just don't want the drama.

My question is:
Should I ignore him or should I kindly send him a note to leave me alone.

Anyone been in this kind of situation?

Phoenix_Rising

Never been there.
But given the background, I'd ignore him and see if he goes away.
What a creepy guy!

ladywalkalot

Can you change your phone number to "private/unlisted" in the phone directory so that it can't be given out?
i wouldn't make any contact with him at all though. if that is your picture for MFP, you might want to change it also if you are that creeped out by him......

Good luck and keep your "antenna" up!!!

peej76

Yeah, that's a little creepy. I'm constantly getting adds from people who I've never heard of in my life, I'll even check their friends list to see who we know in common, but usually there isn't any. I think it's because of that people you may know tool. Anyway, I would just ignore him. It sounds like you've already set your account so he doesn't have access to it, if he still tries to contact you, then just do the polite thing by telling him you're not interested.

Shannon023

Yiikes Mireille!

Tell him to go play in traffic and that you're happily married. Or you can say you're with me!

magichatter06

Okay, about 6 months ago I opened an account on facebook and was excited to locate old high school friends. Well about 2 weeks into it I got a message from a guy that I met about 14 or 15 years ago. At the time, I lived in small town, came to big city to party, met him and exchanged addresses. I think we kissed but that was it! Anyhow, in his msg he basically told me he was still in love with me and wanted to get back together. I was really creep ed out and rejected him as a friend and deleted my account.

A couple of months ago, my girlfriends convinced me to reopen my account and they figured he wouldn't contact me again. Well, they were wrong. He sent me a msg today.
This is what he wrote:

"Mirielle,
>
> Sorry it took me so long to write you that letter... I obviously tried too hard to express... no pun intended... how great I felt to have met you... put lyrically in reciting all that we talked about. I want to really make it up to you so we could get together again even if it means staying plutonic, especially when your smile has been very uplifting on top of all else that I really admire about you... and eversince... I have been hoping to get a another chance to redeem myself and will do whatever I can out of respect to make turn out the right way.
> "

So, obviously the guy has a couple of issues. The msg is just weird and doesn't make sense.
I've made a few changes to my account and he can no longer send me msgs and my e-mail address
is no longer visible.
He obviously knows my name and I'm a little scared he's gonna 411 me and call me.
I just don't want the drama.

My question is:
Should I ignore him or should I kindly send him a note to leave me alone.

Anyone been in this kind of situation?

I read your MFP profile and it says that you are married....maybe you should put it on your facebook (if you haven't already) so maybe he will get the hint. I had a guy at work who wouldn't leave me alone even though I kept telling him I had a bf.... but I guess he has finally got the picture.
You could always try and ignore the messages by not responding back so you don't "fuel the fire". Sometimes you can report people's accounts if they keep bugging or harrassing you. You might be able to do that on Facebook, I have one but I don't get real in deep with it to know if it has one of those buttons or not.

Hope this helps :flowerforyou:

BreaNix

That is super creepy!

Ignore him, you don't want to add any fuel to the fire or give him any reason to try to contact you again.

Juliebean

Just send him a note that politely tells him that you aren't interested or you're married. I feel like if you ignore it he will keep pursuing the issue and you clearly don't want that!

tashjs21

Let me at him...

Seriously, I'd ignore him and if that doesn't work just reply "Married, Not interested" Hopefully he isn't so dense he can't get the hint.

kimber607

Hi

Ignore him, don't respond...he'll get the point sooner or later

Kim

Mireille

Thanks everyone!
I hate this feeling. I dislike any kind of drama in my life.
My account does say I'm married and there are jokes about me trying to control my hubby on the home page.

He just sent a msg to a friend of mine confusing her with my old roommate from 15 years ago.
She e-mailed me asking who he was and forwarded his msg to me.
He wrote"

" Wow... it's been a very long while... I hope life has been great for you altogether. I wrote to Mirielle just a short while ago and apologized for not sending her a response letter that whole time which was because... well... I tried too hard to be as close to being the perfect companion for her, that I admit. Amazingly... I felt very much in love with her and was afraid of that also thinking that shouldn't happen, but there were no other reason not to... just the abstract of time."


I have removed my picture, no access to my friends, to access to nothing. Hopefully this will give him the hint.
His msg's don't make sense and I'm wondering if he's sick enough to think that I'm ignoring him because he thinks I'm mad at him for not writing 15 years ago!!!
Wow, this a great example of what can't happen when meeting strangers. One lesson I'm going to have to repeat to my daughters.

Thanks for listening and here's hoping he moves on.

damselfly25

I'd say this guy can't take a hint...I've had one like this, mine's name was Ernie..shudder...anyway, he'll take any response as a sign of interest. Best to ignore him and keep a copy of all his correspondence with you just in case. Not that I think he'll do anything wacko but better safe than sorry.

calatibo

He a big nut job.

Ignore him and ask all your friends to do similar eventually he will get tired of not getting a response and leave well alone. Otherwise report him and ask for his aco**** to be monitored or something, it is a form of mental abuse after all...and don't you americans have some kind of law against stalking?

Mireille

He a big nut job.

Ignore him and ask all your friends to do similar eventually he will get tired of not getting a response and leave well alone. Otherwise report him and ask for his aco**** to be monitored or something, it is a form of mental abuse after all...and don't you americans have some kind of law against stalking?

Yeah, I think it's best if I ignore him. He can no longer view my friends or send msgs. I'm okay unless he shows up at my door.
I'm not sure about American laws but here in Canada, I can report him if he persists.


Thanks everyone, this means a lot to me.

Mireille

I'd say this guy can't take a hint...I've had one like this, mine's name was Ernie..shudder...anyway, he'll take any response as a sign of interest. Best to ignore him and keep a copy of all his correspondence with you just in case. Not that I think he'll do anything wacko but better safe than sorry.

Exactly what I'm afraid of.
Thanks for the advice! I will keep everything!:flowerforyou:

calatibo

He a big nut job.

Ignore him and ask all your friends to do similar eventually he will get tired of not getting a response and leave well alone. Otherwise report him and ask for his aco**** to be monitored or something, it is a form of mental abuse after all...and don't you americans have some kind of law against stalking?

Yeah, I think it's best if I ignore him. He can no longer view my friends or send msgs. I'm okay unless he shows up at my door.
I'm not sure about American laws but here in Canada, I can report him if he persists.


Thanks everyone, this means a lot to me.

I should really check these things before i type...but why change the habit of a life time,

lina1131

Have your husband write him a message saying that he didn't appreciate him contacting you.

Mireille

Have your husband write him a message saying that he didn't appreciate him contacting you.

lol
My dh is just like me, hates drama. I'm hoping that I've heard the last of him. Crazy guy really freaked me out today.
I'm feeling a little better now that I've made adjustments on my account.

:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

kerrilucko

I would ignore his messages. Replying shows that you have an interest in him in some way. If he somehow does call you, I would just say to him that you are not interested and are in fact married. Also note that his harrassment of you is not appreciated. I doubt he will call you though, sounds like he will get the picture if you simply ignor his emails.