Does TRUE friends tell?

trejon

Since losing weight my friends are quick to tell me how big I was and how they worried about me but said nothing at all :noway: . I have now put back on 10lbs and I can see the looks and hear the comments. If they are such good friends why would they not tell me for my own good. Did/does your friends voice their concern about your weight and health?

SabrinaJL

Nobody has said anything to me and I wouldn't have wanted them to. I own a mirror and a scale and I know how fat I am. If someone had said something to me before I was ready to do this, I would have just gotten my feelings hurt. In my experience, if someone isn't ready to hear something, they're not going to take it well when you try to tell them.

SLambertAlaska

I think that if they are true friends they like you just the way you are, no matter what you weigh or how you look. So I understand that they didn't tell you before. BUT, if they are giving icky looks and making comments about regaining the 10, you have to evaluate if they are trying to be helpful to you as a friend, or if they're not so much a friend as you thought . . .

MakingAChoice

I think that if they are true friends they like you just the way you are, no matter what you weigh or how you look. So I understand that they didn't tell you before. BUT, if they are giving icky looks and making comments about regaining the 10, you have to evaluate if they are trying to be helpful to you as a friend, or if they're not so much a friend as you thought . . .

Excellent post, I have to second this. Real friends will enjoy your company and not be judgmental no matter what you weigh.

Rubie81

Nope, my friends never said anything. My mother on the other hand...
Coming from her it didn't bother me. What did bother me was that after I started losing weight she never said one positive thing to me. Not, good job, or looking good. Nada. The other day she actually said, 'looks like you need to flatten that tummy.'

cenafan

My best friend is VERY honest. She says....she loves me whatever I weigh...but she wants me to get healthy. She doesn't use the word thinner...but that is what she means. It's said out of love so it doesn't hurt my feelings. Of course...it's not a big secret to me regarding the size of my behind. LOL

BrittanyGQ

Of course my friends like me for me, and likewise...however, I think the majority of people (myself included) kind of keep their mouths shut for fear of hurting anyone's feelings. I mean, if you're overweight, 99% of the time you know it. But that being said, I really don't mind my CLOSE friends telling me if I've put on some weight. Sometimes I really don't realize how noticeable it is until someone throws that in my face. And yeah, it really sucks to hear, but once it's in my face and I can't ignore it, it's a GREAT motivator!!