Binge eating, another form of self harm?
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Yasmine91
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I am one of those people who have self harmed in the past and still struggle. It has increased lately since I told my bf that I was raped about four months ago, he didn't take it well and so decided that we go on a break. Why I dunno, I assume it's a guy thing or maybe he's just a selfish coward.
I have binged for the past two days as I am fed up, I hate my bf and the man who ruined my life, I'm just sick of being screwed over time and time again by other people.
I have been cutting but I am starting to go a little too far, to the point where it is now extremely noticable. And I just dont want the hassle from my folks, so maybe, subconciously, I feel that my binge eating is a form of self harm. I'm not sure why but I think it just may be a substitute for cutting, but it doesn;t make it any better than the other.
Can anyone maybe clear it up for me or maybe try see what I'm getting at, does it make sense? because it's driving me insane.
I have binged for the past two days as I am fed up, I hate my bf and the man who ruined my life, I'm just sick of being screwed over time and time again by other people.
I have been cutting but I am starting to go a little too far, to the point where it is now extremely noticable. And I just dont want the hassle from my folks, so maybe, subconciously, I feel that my binge eating is a form of self harm. I'm not sure why but I think it just may be a substitute for cutting, but it doesn;t make it any better than the other.
Can anyone maybe clear it up for me or maybe try see what I'm getting at, does it make sense? because it's driving me insane.
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I think you need some professional help and maybe talk to someone in real life who can get you that help.
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I highly recommend you find a counselor who specializes in self harm to talk to. I don't know about England, but in the states there are community health agencies that are low to no cost. Or since you're in college I would try and go to the student health center. Having someone to talk to about self harming behaviors whether it's cutting or binge eating can be very helpful. I would also talk to someone about the rape. You can't deal with those things alone. Good luck to you! I wish you the best and hope you get the help you're looking for!0
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it makes sense to me, both are behaviours which have that numbing effect - you go into trance mode and hurt yourself or stuff yourself so you don't have to deal with your emotions.
I've done both in the past and that's how it was for me anyway.
It would totally make sense that they are related.
It sounds as if you have a lot of negative stuff going on for you, is there any chance you can see a counsellor to work some of it through? Your bf sounds as if he is worse than useless for support and you could use some
hoping that you manage to find something that helps you through this
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Yes this could totally be another form of self harm. I have struggled with EDNOS for a long time, and when I am upset I don't eat. So I get where you are coming from with this
I started writing a journal to help with a lot of my issues, and if you keep track of when you are binging along with what is going on in your life you may find your trigger.0 -
I'm so sorry that happened to you. Good riddance to the unsupportive bf. Let him go...you can do so much better! Definitely get some help from a therapist - you're reaching out and that's a great start. You can't control what's been done to you but you can control your reaction to it...God bless and I hope you're able to get the help you need to make healthy choices for your body and mind. ((((hugs))))0
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I've never been a cutter, nor have I had any leanings in that direction, but I know a lot about a lot and all self-hurt behaviors stem from a lack of self-worth, self-value, and pain that is not expelled, but rather turned back on one's self. You have been abused, rejected, and left to deal with feelings that are WAY bigger than You can even fathom, much less work out on your own. If You can't afford a counselor, try any self-help (I hate that word, but it tells the story) group that You can. You are not the only one, You are not even the only million . . . we do all types of negative behavior to punish ourselves because of our self-loathing which we generate through ignorance (lack of knowledge) of the Truth of ourselves. Learn the Truth of the beautiful, wonderful, limitless person You are and of all You have to give. Put your left arm on your right shoulder & our right arm on your left. Close your eyes & squeeze, saying, I Love You, Yasmine. Rock yourself. Cry if tears come. Do it often. It took me a while at that practice for the love I have within to soak into my understanding of me, but I can say with no hesitation that I've learned to love myself and through that process, how to give honest love to others, too. Feel free to msg me if You'd like to keep up; I have no certificates or leters after my name, but as before: I know a lot about a lot.
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Given that I am not a psychologist although I have a Bachelor's in Psychology and at some point I will finish my Masters in Counseling. But, anyhoo I am glad that you are aware of your feelings. I am not going to tell you what to do, because this is a situation only you can find a solution to. However, I will tell you that it is a good idea to continue to blog, write in journal, or talk to someone (a counselor if you can find one) about your feelings. A counselor may be able to help you figure the triggers that cause you to binge eat or cut yourself. It seems like you understand what you are doing and why you are doing it. Some individuals will cut themselves or overeat to cope with issues related to low self-esteem and as a result of post-traumatic stress syndrome. I am not saying you have post-traumatic stress syndrome cause I am not a licensed professional counselor, who is qualified to diagnose anyone. However, I believe that you could consider this option maybe you can talk to a counselor and if you go to college I would use this as a resource, because maybe it won't cost as much or is covered by your fees at school. I am not sure if your school offers counseling if you are in college that is. This is just an option to consider. As far as your boyfriend goes, I don't really like the fact that he wants to abandon you when he should support you. If he cares about you he should be able to be there to support you in situations like this. He maybe in shock right now. But, he needs to decide soon if he wants to continue a relationship or if you want to continue one with him. A boyfriend that runs in times of trouble can be a bad sign of things to come. Hope this helps in the mean time take care of yourself and when you need support come on here and blog, talk to your friends, and if need be find a counselor to help you. Be Safe!!!!0
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You need to talk to someone. call 1.800.656.HOPE that is National Sexual Assault Hotline .
This website also has lots of help http://www.rainn.org/
Get help.Ive been where you are
ive just noticed where you are from,so i dont think the link or # i gave you will work.do a google search and you can find the same things.Hurting yourself will never take away the pain.Please find the help you need0
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