Vent- Comfronted my best girl...

WalkingGirl1985

She is my best friend..hands down. We have our ups and downs..theres a problem..always have to come between us. I'm not usually the type that likes to confront friends or family and try to keep things to myself. I don't like to fight, even if they do something that I don't approve of.

My friend, maggie..is a smoker. I don't have a problem with that. BUT what I have a problem with and my fiancee does as well since we live together..is she lives right next door and smokes in her apartment. This is a smoke free building and smoking is only allowed in a smoke zone we have right outside...first, she did light up when I first moved in upon our first meeting when she invited me over for coffee..and told her kindly, there is no smoking allowed. Says she kind find it in her copy of the lease..then there were times she want to smoke inside and i didnt say anything for a while and kept my mouth shut and i went next door, since i used to be a smoker and didnt want it to tempt me..

Then..after a while i confront her and she denies it. This goes for a year..even today. Then when my fiancee and i smell smoke coming from her apartment like we always do every night..for the last 3-4 months i don't say anything until my fiancee tells me..you should confront her...shes smoking, we can smell it..affects us too..so i sent her a text..was the hardest thing i had to do..I really care for her...i had to show tough love to my best friend.

Now she says to leave her alone, she says some mean things back...blah blah not my day.

Tarah1357

Sounds like if she is one of your best friends then she should be more respectful to you and just hear you out. I understand your situation. I've confronted a very good friend of mine in the past over something ridiculous and she got all crazy about it and we didn't speak for a few months. I'm sure it will work itself out, but I think she should try to be more adult about it. (in my opinion)

Good luck!

Elokyn

I know how you feel..my best friend will not speak to me right now just because her bf lied and told her I said something I never said. I think your situation is totally reasonable. She's the one doing wrong, and lets stop for a minute and think about something other than the rules : http://www.google.com/search?q=apartment+fir+caused+my+cigarette&rls=com.microsoft:en-us:IE-SearchBox&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&sourceid=ie7
Forgive my bluntness but she's putting your lives at risk...that's more than 20 stories of it just on one page..the most recent one only 3 hours ago...THAT'S WHY IT'S A RULE! .You're a good friend even if she wants to be a not so good one...Know that you are a good person

FabiolaEnvy♥

i know exactly how you feel. i had something like that with my best friend not to long ago. just cause i couldnt make it to her birthday due to work... :S
she said... many means things. i just let her talk like crap to me. but then i told her when you wanna be mature you can talk to me. till than bye. she had the nerve to tell me. that i wasn't mature and i was stupid and naive.

when i didnt say anything bad about her.

she said she could find better friends than me. i said then go ahead.

now she been trying to get a hold of me... want me back in her life. but i had it... this has been the 5th times she broken our friendship.


so i know its tough...
but you know what i have to say... friends come and go. but true friends last forever. (no matter the situation)
i know the feeling. on losing a best friends. its not very fun at first. but after a while you start to realize either she was the greatest friend you ever had or that she wasnt really the best cause you dont need a friend like that..

im the same way i dont tell people if i have a problem with them i just keep it in.

i wish you best. you deserve a good friend that wouldnt leave you just of some stupid reason. you deserve better than that. dont worry