Advice

smelmel

I wasn't sure where to post this but anyway here goes.
I used to be around 80/90kgs for many years and thanks to MFP I am now down to 63kg which I like. I am pretty thick skined and can take jealous critacism off certain friends who say "oh your 2 skinny" and so on, but last night our 2 familys went out for dinner and the negative comments were just too much, I think when were alone it's not as bad but the thing is I only have 1 child and she really gets along with her kids and dont want to take that away from her as I am a stay at home mum and dont have heaps of freinds with kids, now after all that my question is do these people ever give up and deal with the fact that this is the way I look, I know it's probably because I have always been big and they are not used to it but it's gotta be at least 6 months since I have been "skinny" . thanks for any advice:flowerforyou:

EDBENAGLIO

Just like anything they will get used to it. after a while they will kinda only remember you the way you are now and the old you will be in the past. hang in there smile and wait it will happen.

ajbeans

Honestly? I think you need to tell them to lay off. Firmly, but not getting heated or over-emotional, just say that you are happy, you are healthy, you feel good, you like yourself, and they need to stop being so rude. Tell them that it's hurtful when they say those things, and remind them that you don't say mean things to hurt their feelings, so you'd appreciate it if they wouldn't do it to you. They're not going to stop if they don't know it's upsetting you. They can't read minds. But they do need to be told, because that behavior can't go on.

And if you tell them that it's rude and the behavior continues, you can always find new mommy friends. You don't HAVE to hang out with rude people. Even if they are family.