Food diary hiders....Why?

EricJonrosh

I'm thinking of deleting my friends who hide their food diary. Especially those who are losing an amazing amount of weight but we can't see what they're eating. It's just not fair because they could be doing something unhealthy, and I'm putting my diary out there for even non-friends to see (I think).

Is there something I'm missing?

Do you hide your diary and why?

jen1516

I like looking at other people's too. I'm new and like to get ideas from others. I keep mine open for all mfp members.

NurseChristy3

I agree...either they dont actually LOG or they're lieing! LOL

allroundthesun

Oh, here we go again. :grumble:

Tennessee2019

I so agree with you. The only way to lose weight is to be honest with yourself (& othrs on this site) about what you eat on a daily basis. We are all after the same goal here & if we can view each others diaries, we might notice a pattern (healthy or not) that might be missed by the person posing their diaries.

sharesb

perhaps they are not happy with their own eating habits...?

Mine is open for my friends to read and comment on (good or bad) but not for the general public to "diary snoop" ~ when I first started I had it so no one could see it but once I felt more comfortable on here I opened it up to mfp friends.

ukq727

Some part of me thinks it's about not being totally accountable. There are some who eat whatever and then say well as long as I am under my calorie intake for the day I am ok..right...???!!! Wrong. Just simply ask those friends of yours who don't publish there diary to do so but let it be their decision to do so. I also am totally in awe of people who claim they burn 1200 calories a day doing something like aerobics for 45 minutes..impossible so your burning all your calories so your eating like 3000 calories a day...really people come on now stop it.

NatHowden

Mine is visible for all my friends to see. I don't really care if I can't see theirs or other peoples. If people are cheating, that is their cross to bear, not yours. How does it affect your journey anyway?

red01angel

Some people on this site are rude, and extremely holier-than-thou. I got sick of all of the unsolicited comments and "advice" from randoms.

dr1981

It is disappointing to see so many closed diaries.

LJCannon

Some people may be afraid of being questioned or judged ? And some people are just more private about things than others are.

My Diary is open(i think) but I generally post my nutrition on another site It is because I am more active there, and until last week my computer was so SLOW that it took an eternity to post my food in both places. I got a new, faster computer last week so I may start tracking here at least part time, since several people have asked about what I eat.

LittleMissAngi

I got tired of all the criticism. I don't even know these people and the one day, I have treat is the one day strangers look at my diary and send me a message "you shouldn't have eaten that cookie"

Who are you to tell me what to do?

I know my body, I know my limits, and if I decide to have a small cookie once in a while, I think I am allowed.

kelika71

Mine is open and on weekends, I don't always log. That's me.

Why is it open? Eh, no biggie. After all, it's MY account, MY choice, MY settings. See a trend? If someone chooses to have it private, let them. If you're so curious, perhaps ask them.

I've seen some people get some pretty nasty comments about their choices. God help the person who thinks they're going to tell me anything about mine, unless they care to pay my grocery bill, cook my meals and such!

To each their own...it's their account, not yours. Also, if they're not eating enough, is it harming you? No.

If you have questions concerning my diary or choices, you may ask. Suggestions are welcome, too. That's where I draw the line with mine. Unless I ask for criticism, it's not welcome with me.

zeeeb

i don't even do a diary most days... just don't want to spend THAT much time logging everything and counting calories obsessively.

every now and then i'll do a diary for a couple of days, to check up on myself and check on my calories, but i have a "paper" diary that i write my food into without calculating the calories, it's so much quicker, and easier, can do it while i'm in the kitchen and it takes seconds.

i come on here more for the information available, and reading the forums than counting calories. i refuse to be a calorie counting junkie... as long as i know i'm about right, i'm happy.

KarenWantsABikini

I agree with Red angel, each to their own, I know i am doing the right thing, im counting my calories, Im eating the right foods and im losing weight, but i do get a little tired of all the "experts' out there asking if you logged the teaspoon of milk in your cup of tea, or did you drink it black ??? Each to their own. I chose private.

allroundthesun

Some people on this site are rude, and extremely holier-than-thou. I got sick of all of the unsolicited comments and "advice" from randoms.

Several posters in this thread itself prove this point quite well.

AsaThorsWoman

Some people on this site are rude, and extremely holier-than-thou. I got sick of all of the unsolicited comments and "advice" from randoms.

I had this problem. BirdsOfAFeather would come onto a post where I lost like 2-3 lb on a weigh in and say something like "Ya, you're losing weight, but you're doing it all wrong. Everytime I look at your diary you eat candy and fast food." I do eat candy and fast food, but I eat in a balanced manner, and at the time whe was doing this I was so broke I couldn't afford food, so when pharmaceutical reps brought tacos and cake, I ate it. And brought some home. So **** her.

My diary is still open though. That crap is rare.

WomanofWorth

I absolutely agree and have a pretty tough time telling someone good job for being under their calories when I can't see anything. It seems insincere when I could, through my feedback and lack of information, be reinforcing crappy behavior. :huh: :noway: :ohwell:

iluvmine

I just unhid mine, I found my self adjusting my calories intakes (confession) now that it's un hid I feel like I have to be more honest with what I recorded. Kind of a motivation for me to get back on track knowing people will be able to see what I eat for the day!

CallMeMamaBoo

Well mine is open to my friends...It helps me feel accountable but as soon as someone tells me that I shouldn't eat my chocolate than they are gone off my friend's list LOL

I could see where some people don't want to hear unwanted advice or criticism so they hide it. But like I said, it keeps me accountable and I like to think that I am allowing others to get more ideas of the things they should be eating so I feel like I am in some ways doing my part in helping someone on their journey. AND! when and if I hit a wall and don't know what to change, I know that others can see what I eat and sweat and can possible help me further progress. It seems to me that their would be more positives to keeping your diary open then to hide it.

MEH!

amandabrady

Mine isn't public and I don't really see why it needs to be. It is a tool for me to keep track of what I eat, what's in what I eat, etc. I don't ask for help with my eating habits and to be honest I don't look at other peoples' diaries. I'm not seeing the connection between me making my diary public and you having a successful journey towards a healthy lifestyle...

krise31

Oh please! It doesnt mean a person isnt logging or eating badly. I blog and I post status' and give my opinion on various things but because I dont open my diary for all to see I should be shunned and thought of as doing something wrong? Thats completely close minded and makes no sense. I know for myself I keep my diary closed because I dont feel the need to let everyone know what I'm putting in my mouth everyday every single meal. I am transparent enough on my blog and why cant people navigate their weight loss journey on their own terms? They should take you off their friends list for not being respectful of their choices. The key word in this post fyi is THEIR.

red01angel

I have to add that if any of my MFP friends want to delete me because my diary isn't public, then PLEASE do so! I'd rather not have a friend like that on my list anyway!

kelika71

I have to add that if any of my MFP friends want to delete me because my diary isn't public, then PLEASE do so! I'd rather not have a friend like that on my list anyway!

Mine's open, but I totally agree with you!!

jen1516

Ouch. Starting to feel a little hostile in here.

crjugrl

I'm a private person. What I put into my body is no one's business but my own. And if I eventually decide that I do want to share it, then that's my prerogative. If one of my friends deleted me based on the assumption that I was hiding my diary out of shame or what-have-you, then I'd rather they weren't my friend anyway. That's just ridiculous.

elliecolorado

My diary is open to my friends. For the same reason that others mentioned I was tired of people telling me that I am doing something wrong and being judgmental about me eating to much or to little or things that they don't agree with. It's up to me to chose what I eat and if I mess up sometimes it's my problem not anyone elses. Why should anyone who doesn't know me care what I am eating anyway?

EricJonrosh

Some people on this site are rude, and extremely holier-than-thou. I got sick of all of the unsolicited comments and "advice" from randoms.

Several posters in this thread itself prove this point quite well.

....Really? I'm not seeing it.

As for being vulnerable, I have one friend I respect a whole lot who goes over her goal every day and eats fast food. She's in college and very stressed out, but damnit, she logs and publishes daily. Everyone, including me, encourages her and she's already making positive changes. I've had some holier-than-thou's but I take it with a grain of salt, and some of them have lost a lot of weight, so they're worth hearing from. I'm not threatened by criticism from successful MFPer's, I welcome it. Some, on the other hand, lose 1 pound and act like they know everything! Haha.

kelika71

Some people on this site are rude, and extremely holier-than-thou. I got sick of all of the unsolicited comments and "advice" from randoms.

Several posters in this thread itself prove this point quite well.

....Really? I'm not seeing it.

As for being vulnerable, I have one friend I respect a whole lot who goes over her goal every day and eats fast food. She's in college and very stressed out, but damnit, she logs and publishes daily. Everyone, including me, encourages her and she's already making positive changes. I've had some holier-than-thou's but I take it with a grain of salt, and some of them have lost a lot of weight, so they're worth hearing from. I'm not threatened by criticism from successful MFPer's, I welcome it. Some, on the other hand, lose 1 pound and act like they know everything! Haha.

I understand what you're saying. However, I disagree with your stance. Just because you can take things with a grain of salt doesn't mean others can or should.

That's like saying everyone should eat the same amount of calories. We all know that's not true.

Everyone is different and has their reasons. Why can't people just respect their choices?!

she_elf

I haven't had any bad experience with having my diary open to friends, but I have thought of keeping mine totally private. I keep it on public because it makes me feel guiltier when I eat junk, and I'm hoping it will encourage me to do it less.
But having it so open also makes me feel ashamed sometimes. I'm new to MFP, and new to weight loss as well. Both my parents are obese, and I grew up watching (and learning) all of their eating habits. I've finally decided that I don't want to go down that path, but making that change is hard. I've been eating like this for almost 21 years, and everyone around me eats the same way that I do. Not to mention that I live with my parents (broke college student!!), and have very little control over what food I do and do not have access to.

Long story short, I try to make the healthiest choices I can given what's available to me, but even those aren't always very good. Sometimes I worry that I'm being judged on what I'm eating. In a way I want that feeling to try to keep these old habits in check, but it also makes me worry needlessly. I can see why some people would choose to keep their diary private.

ukq727

Some people on this site are rude, and extremely holier-than-thou. I got sick of all of the unsolicited comments and "advice" from randoms.

Several posters in this thread itself prove this point quite well.

....Really? I'm not seeing it.

As for being vulnerable, I have one friend I respect a whole lot who goes over her goal every day and eats fast food. She's in college and very stressed out, but damnit, she logs and publishes daily. Everyone, including me, encourages her and she's already making positive changes. I've had some holier-than-thou's but I take it with a grain of salt, and some of them have lost a lot of weight, so they're worth hearing from. I'm not threatened by criticism from successful MFPer's, I welcome it. Some, on the other hand, lose 1 pound and act like they know everything! Haha.

Would you be referring to me by saying, "Some, on the other hand, lose 1 pound and act like they know everything! Haha." In responce to that I say you have a wonderful day tomorrow and here's to loosing weight. In fact, I hope everyone has a wonderful day tomorrow and weight loss in plentiful for you all whether you have lost 1lb or 35lbs. I am not bothered by negativity as loosing 1lb is only one of many things I have accomplished in my life. God is good to me and I am blessed and so are those that surrond me. I pray that God showers down plenty of blessings on you at your next weigh in.