How do I explain this without being rude?

Frappuzzino

I have recently decided that I wanted to watch my carbs because I know it will benefit me, and I don't enjoy breads or starchy, carb-filled foods anyway. Plus I am insulin resistant and have PCOS. I have almost completely cut out bread and bad carbs from my diet.

My boyfriend and I live together with his father. His father doesn't eat the healthiest (although he's significantly improved since we've been living together with him). I don't think he knows what bad carbs are, and often puts 2 or 3 servings of carbs in a meal, like macaroni salad and some type of bread as an example.

I end up eating small portions because I don't want to be rude by not eating the food, so how can I explain to him for future reference that I don't want to eat those foods without being rude?

ChristineMiller2

Just politely say no thank you. Easy. Its not rude to not eat things that aren't in your diet, or things you don't like.

dincler

I think you just gave your explanation to him in the body of your message -

Tell him that you are watching what you eat, and that you would love to have three servings of everything - but unfortunately, you can only have what you have on your plate. My mother-in-law and wife are both amazing cooks - but they are not the healthiest foods, either. So I take my smaller portions, and when they offer seconds, I say "I would love to, but I'm not going to. Thanks, though."

They know what I'm trying to accomplish, and they know I'm not eating the food because of the taste - so being up front and honest usually works.

Good luck!

RB

7vargovl

Just don't eat it or explain to him that you are trying to cut out bad carbs. I'm sure he'll understand.

CarterGrt

I actually believe that when it comes to what you put inside your body you have every right to be as selfish as you want. I would eat what works for you and pass on the rest. I wouldn't make a big deal about it or tell him how he has to eat, but I would suggest that you have conviction in your choices for you.

Good Luck!

--Carter

miqisha

You have to watch your carbs, because of your PCOS, explain that to him, and that it's for your health. Some times it's not what you say but how you say it, so be mindful of that. it will all work out fine.

Goodluck

CarolHudson11

Why don't you explain it exactly the way you just explained it to us? :flowerforyou:

HelenTheKitchen

Tell him your trying to avoid that stuff for medical reasons, he can't really argue with that.

mycrazyturtles

Its simple, if he knows your trying to improve the way you eat you just tell him. I'm not at the point where I watch the carbs I put in my body. If I don't eat something please don't take offense. If he does not understand your bf can jump in and take over. As long as your not asking him to buy food for you or making things for you there is not reason he would be hurt. Or you could as you bf to sit down with him and you guys could put a menu together that would work for all of you with out you hurting ur diet and him be offended.

anderjess

Does he know you're dieting? If he does maybe you could nicely say that you have hit kind of a plateau and need to cut out the carbs to get back to losing weight the way you want. I'm in the same situation with my fiance so when I started dieting I made sure the whole house knew it and they actually volunteered to do it with me. They only lasted MAYBE a week and were back to their old ways but they at least knew I was trying still so they were a little more careful about what was made for dinner.

shandy32

Just say that you are on a diet x

quara

Maybe you can make your own meals, considering that you're living with him and not just visiting for a weekend. Explain it in medical terms - it's not a personal thing, it's not that you don't like his foods, but you need to cut down on carbs for medical reasons, and then make yourself lots of healthy veggies and proteins. You can be clear that it's not "I'm trying to lose weight and this is not healthy", but rather "I need to eat differently for my medical conditions."

dlaplume2

Tell him your trying to avoid that stuff for medical reasons, he can't really argue with that.

I was going to say the same thing. I think because you have a medical issue that makes you more sesitive to carbs, it is different than just giving them up to lose weight.

StarryEyedGirl

tell him you are trying a new diet and those foods aren't on the plan! older people think anything healthy is "diet food" anyway for example skim milk or reduced fat cheese should only be eaten if you're on a diet- yeah I don't get their reasoning. easier not having to explain yourself! Don't let anyone stand in the way of your life style change and good luck!

skinnyme125

I know that with different nationalities it can be considered rude. But I would offer to do the cooking. This way you get healthier options and the food is cooked healthier also. If he still wants his bread then let him have it. This way you are not turning down anything that he cooked to offend him.

firefighterswife58

I went to my in laws yesterday for dinner (whom we don't see that often) & I stayed strick. She had Chicken, roasted potatoes, baked beans, stuffing and brocolli. I politely refused the stuffing and potatoes. They also were drinking sweet tea, I asked for iced water. They didn't think I was rude. I also refused the coconut cream pie.. It was a big step for me!

KrissyL

Why don't you start doing some of the cooking?

Tina1128

Just say :" I wish I could but I can't -- it looks so good! " That way you're complimenting him -- also prepare a little something for the meal to "help out" -- something that you CAN eat.

thcri

I have recently decided that I wanted to watch my carbs because I know it will benefit me, and I don't enjoy breads or starchy, carb-filled foods anyway. Plus I am insulin resistant and have PCOS. I have almost completely cut out bread and bad carbs from my diet.

My boyfriend and I live together with his father. His father doesn't eat the healthiest (although he's significantly improved since we've been living together with him). I don't think he knows what bad carbs are, and often puts 2 or 3 servings of carbs in a meal, like macaroni salad and some type of bread as an example.

I end up eating small portions because I don't want to be rude by not eating the food, so how can I explain to him for future reference that I don't want to eat those foods without being rude?

I think you just be honest with him. Tell him for health reasons you just can't eat some of the stuff that you used to enjoy anymore. Take on some of the cooking yourself and make the things you can eat but yet mix in stuff that he likes. Your boyfriend should encourage this and support you. If dad is doing all the cooking then you have to make him a list of things you can and cannot eat. You are on the right path here, keep it up.

Frappuzzino

Thank you guys! And just to clarify, I do cook atleast half of the week, but he enjoys cooking too so he cooks the other half of the week.

_LA_

I woud do this:

"My doctor told me to avoid...(or severely limit, or whatever) ... so I'm just going to have (fill in the blank with something you SHOULD be eating"

Blaming the doc helps me avoid debates b/c he's not there to argue 'his' points about whatever it is...

_LA_

I woud do this:

"My doctor told me to avoid...(or severely limit, or whatever) ... so I'm just going to have (fill in the blank with something you SHOULD be eating"

Blaming the doc helps me avoid debates b/c he's not there to argue 'his' points about whatever it is...

sceck

Maybe say, "Wow, that looks great, but I need to skip cheese tonight. On a new program ya know". He may actually start asking how your program is going and offer to cook some of those items that would fit in perfectly. Or perhaps when you cook next time, make it a flavorful filling dinner, then let him know it fits your program. Who knows, everyone may be on board with healthy eating. Never hurts anyone.

alysonleah

I really don't think he could see you as rude if you cut back for medical reasons. Just say what you said here.