non dieting family

xXAlana21Xx

so we all know its easier to get healthier when you have a support buddy. but sometimes this website is not enough for me.

how do you handle a non-dieting spouse? he does not have the best eating habits and its hard to stay away from temptation when he always has junk food in the house. i dont want to deprive him but at the same time i think it is working against me!! help!

knittnponder

I'm not "dieting" per se. I have just slowly revamped my eating habits to reflect what I feel is a healthy diet. I do track my calories and keep them within a certain range but sometimes I go over and sometimes I'm under. In my house I plan, buy and make all the food so they get what I feed them. If my husband doesn't like what is for dinner he just has to deal or make something else. Since I'm making things that reflect a healthier way of eating in general they get food that follows that. I don't buy cereal, crackers, cookies, ice cream, etc. We eat mostly whole foods and when we do have a cookie it's homemade from whole wheat flour (that I grind right before using it) and whole ingredients that I can actually pronounce. My kids love green smoothies, vegetables, salads and whole foods. My 14 year old grinds flour and bakes whole wheat bread for our family.

Basically I brainwashed all of them to do what I want so it's not hard at all now! Do you just want to come live with us?

(On a hopefully more helpful note, do you have anyone in real life who is in sync with what you're trying to do? Try to find a local buddy that you can call on for help when you're struggling. Otherwise, just try to keep in mind what your goals are and why they're important to you. Post your goals around where you can see them when temptation rears its ugly head.)

Sden1231

My hubby eats what I buy and cook. If he doesn't like it, he will eat some and then usually eat a bowl of cereal afterwards. He always eats what I cook because I think he doesn't want to hurt my feelings. Like I kno he hates spinach but I love it and use it in meals all the time. So he will actually take a couple of bites and then eat something else. Lol it's kinda sweet. If he wants junk food he will eat it for lunch at work. He does bring home bad food since he works in a grocery store and is surrounded by it. But I do my best not to eat it.

Him keeping junk food in the house is actually helping me with self control. But I am working on slowly cutting it out of our diets. I want our children to have healthy role models. He agrees with me, but just doesn't want to do it yet.

He's one of those people that can eat whatever and not gain weight. He thinks that because he's thin that's he healthy. I'm trying to teach him otherwise, it's just taking time

reepobob

I have a wife and three girls ranging in ages from 10-16. None are eating like they should and there is crap that tempts me all over the house. The only good thing about my heavy travel schedule right now (I travel on Sunday afternoons and get home on Friday afternoons) is that I only have to deal with the temptations two days out of the week. Prior to that, however, I was working out of my house and I was surrounded by the bad grub 24/7. I just learned to stick to what I needed to stick to in terms of what I was eating and developed self-control.

I guess I will be blunt...you either want it or you don't (healthy lifestyle). If you want it bad enough, the stuff won't tempt you. It's either that or you make the household conform (good luck with that) or you build yourself a little outbuilding and blind fold yourself when in your kitchen. Neither is realistic (obviously).

I am smart enough to know that I am not going to get four women to conform to my eating habits, so I just suck it up and eat what I want, which is healthy food.

ohnuts14

I have the same problem. I live with my parents and my brother, and they ALL buy TONS of food, none of it healthy. I'm the only one in my family who is dieting, and watching everyone else eat and eat and eat and having all of this food, that is literally overpiling, tempting me, it's incredibly hard, and at first I kept having slips. But honestly, even with all of this temptation, it gets easier. I try as hard as I can not to give in, and even though at first I slipped quite a bit, I started slippiing less, and now... I haven't really slipped in a while, and rarely have the urge to. I still have a little tiny snack here and there, like they'll have something I really like and I'll take a little bit, but I don't lose control anymore. I've been trying to work out atleast an hour a day, and after burning all of those calories, I don't want to mess that up by eating bad food, because it feels like I'm throwing away my efforts, so I end up not eating the bad stuff, and I pour sweat so heavily that I get extremely dehydrated very easily, and am constantly drinking TONS of water when I work out so I wind up filling myself up on water and so I can't snack or binge even if I wanteddd to because of the water. For me, excercising makes all of the healthy habbits follow. If I don't excercise I don't do anything else right either. That's not really a good thing, but what I'm trying to say is, perhaps there's a trick that will work for you, too. I understand how INCREDIBLY hard it is to resist, I've had problems with binging my whole life, but if you just keep trying to resist it will get easier, even if it doesn't feel like it will right now. It would be so helpful if your fiance joined in though. He should try and support you more, if you haven't already try sitting down and talking to him about how important this is to you and how much you need him to support you. When my dad needed to lower his cholestrol, we all went on a diet with him (even though no one does that for ME lmao). That's what he should be doing with you. You're a family now, and families need to help each other and work together. Developing a healthier lifestyle and losing weight isn't impossible if you're doing it on your own like I am, but it sure is a hundred times easier when the people around you are doing it as well and supporting your efforts.