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GRRRR

casandra_Garcia_37
casandra_Garcia_37 Posts: 40
edited September 2024 in Chit-Chat
So my boyfriend just isn't supportive of me getting fit and healthy. He likes to torment me by eating all the fattening foods in front of me. (It doesn't bother me, I have grown to have some pretty good will power) Well anyways now he is telling me that once I reach my goal weight I am going to leave him. He refers to himself as a "stepping stone" till something better comes along. I hate his negative attitude about EVERYTHING. I just wanted to vent.

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  • tammy200678
    tammy200678 Posts: 201 Member
    Mine eats in front of me but wants me to lose and I try to tell him not to eat a whole bag of chips in front me he is getting better about it
  • Heather75
    Heather75 Posts: 3,386 Member
    He's insecure. Reassure him.
  • SMarie10
    SMarie10 Posts: 956 Member
    So my boyfriend just isn't supportive of me getting fit and healthy. He likes to torment me by eating all the fattening foods in front of me. (It doesn't bother me, I have grown to have some pretty good will power) Well anyways now he is telling me that once I reach my goal weight I am going to leave him. He refers to himself as a "stepping stone" till something better comes along. I hate his negative attitude about EVERYTHING. I just wanted to vent.
    I'm curious to know what, if anything you're going to do about it. I have limited patience for dumb behavior, and that seems to describe your boyfriend's attitude.
  • koosdel
    koosdel Posts: 3,317 Member
    I'm sure he'll come around if you find the right way to present your new lifestyle to him. I think its kind of flattering he thinks you could be better than he deserves. Just tell him how you feel, and ask him to join you.

    A little bit of insecurity is normal in this situation.

    Or you could try hitting him.
  • skinnyjeanzbound
    skinnyjeanzbound Posts: 3,932 Member
    Or you could try hitting him.


    LOL!!!
  • Nikstergirl
    Nikstergirl Posts: 1,549 Member
    I'm sure he'll come around if you find the right way to present your new lifestyle to him. I think its kind of flattering he thinks you could be better than he deserves. Just tell him how you feel, and ask him to join you.

    A little bit of insecurity is normal in this situation.

    Or you could try hitting him.

    Ok, that last line made me laugh!!!!

    Or, you could just tell him "there's nothing stopping me from leaving you now, now is there???" If you haven't left him yet, maybe it's because you don't plan to? Just a thought. Good luck!
  • lutzsher
    lutzsher Posts: 1,153 Member
    Unfortunately a LOT of people do not like change and only consider how it will effect them. Not the most mature of attitudes, but again this is pretty common. His insecurity is coming out.
    He needs to be reminded that it does not matter what is on the outside, you are with someone because they appeal to you on SO many more levels than that.
  • kickboxer74
    kickboxer74 Posts: 31
    You are a fit, young, and pretty young lady. I would say take some time for yourself and your family. I hate to keep it real, but in my life, I love the people who support me and release the people who bring me down. Take care girl, just my opinion.

    KB
  • Anidorie
    Anidorie Posts: 291 Member
    he is afraid! he is afraid that once you loose wieght you will be even more attractive then you are now and he knows you can get a man who wil be supportive of your decisions and he is afraid for you to do that. he wants to keep you his and he doesnt want to see you succed!
  • traceybarbour
    traceybarbour Posts: 226 Member
    You need to high five his face.....:devil:
  • cng1117
    cng1117 Posts: 225 Member
    You are a fit, young, and pretty young lady. I would say take some time for yourself and your family. I hate to keep it real, but in my life, I love the people who support me and release the people who bring me down. Take care girl, just my opinion.

    KB

    Amen!!
  • jtsmou
    jtsmou Posts: 503 Member
    You probably will leave him. Even if he was to complement you how much would you appreciate it? What will happen here is that you will start getting complements, and all kinds of attention, and he will see the way you light up when this happens, how you get all happy and excited. Then he will sit there and wonder why you don't do the same thing when he says something, so in his mind you obviously don't think much of him anymore. When he starts getting mad at guys flirting with you right in front of him, you will think he is just being an idiot, so you will do it more, then it will cause a big fight, and you will dump him and go screw the first good looking guy who smiles at you thus crushing him completely.

    This is a story that is repeated over and over again, it happens all the time. I'm not trying to be a mean here, I'm just telling you how guys think, and how many of the men and women out there react to these situations. If you have a creative mind you can find ways around all this. I'll give you a hint, actions (and reactions) speak louder than words.

    Good luck
  • ahsongbird
    ahsongbird Posts: 712 Member
    , actions (and reactions) speak louder than words.

    Good luck
    I hate that saying... that's how my husband suckers me into doing the dishes hahaha
  • jtsmou
    jtsmou Posts: 503 Member
    , actions (and reactions) speak louder than words.

    Good luck
    I hate that saying... that's how my husband suckers me into doing the dishes hahaha

    Yeah, it sucks true or not lol, but the subtle emphasis in on the "reactions"
  • shallo
    shallo Posts: 353 Member
    You need to high five his face.....:devil:

    :laugh:
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