The week from hell..

Quenofcrazzy

..and Friday hasn't even started..

Just when you think nothing else can happen..life says Wanna bet??
A lot of stuff is happening in one daycare family..and because I have had this baby for 2 years and 8 months..he is mine.

So..Sunday night his mom gets him back from his weekend at dads. Dad hands baby to mom and says he won't walk. He then turns around and walks out of police station (their meeting point). Mom tries to put the baby down and he starts screaming and won't stand on his right foot. He says he is tired, do not touch his foot, he needs to sleep and it will be all better. WTF??

Mom calls me. I told her that if he isn't putting weight on it and is screaming that bad (I hear him in the background) she needs to go to Urgent care. I really don't want him Monday morning and something be wrong. Mom goes to UC, spends the night there and is told baby has spiral fracture to the tibia (leg bone). Doc says someone forcefully twisted his leg. Mom is told he needs to see a specialist. They have such wonderful insurance that you have to go to primary doctor before specialist..so Monday mom takes off work..goes to doctor. He looks at x-rays and sticks mom in a room while he calls the police.. CHILD ABUSE! Didn't ask mom what happened or anything. Police come, take a report and go looking for dad. Mom get referral to specialist..that specialist doesn't have appointments..blah blah blah..mom finally finds a specialist that has openings the next morning for the baby and calls insurance, get it authorized..deals with police, CPS and everything else under the sun. Thats Monday.

Tuesday..I'm stressing over the baby cause prim doctor said his leg may need immediate surgery...and I had court for my son. Court was short and sweet...continued till 8/25..and I was done. Baby had specialist appointment and he says it is a clean break, not a spiral. He takes off the full leg cast and puts one just below the knee..and it is green. That baby is calling it his green sock We are now waiting 4-6 weeks to see how he heals and go from there.

Wednesday morning isn't totally eventful..but come Wednesday evening..here we go again. Baby's mom has a 10 year old son, M. He has issues..ADHD, and was recently diagnosed with epilepsy. He is on meds and life has been good. He has never had a seizure where anyone knew thats what it was..he was finally tested and it was discovered because of brain activity. He has been in Alaska (we are in California) for the summer with his aunt, his great aunt, visiting his father and his fathers mother. The fathers side of the family doesn't believe in medication Wednesday evening, his aunt picked him up from dad/grandma and he was already having major seizures. The hospital is over an hour away so they drove straight there. On the way, they were pulled over my highway patrol and escorted the rest of the way, the police officer carried him into the ER and got immediate action. M had now had 6 seizures and they weren't getting less frequent or less severe. This is about 4pm..and the aunt of M, my daycare parent's sister, finally calls her and tells her whats going on. My dcp then walk into my house to get C and falls apart. She can't do anything here...The doctors are monitoring him..trying to stop the seizures, calling mom keeping her updated..she then calls me. It is just an all night going, going, going thing. The seizures continued all night, they moved M to ICU, they said that they were going to intubate him. At one point in the middle of the night, the nurse hung up the phone on the mom cause M was having another seizure and with every one in the room, all the noises, the nurse didn't want mom to listen to it anymore. (mom does medical billing so she understands some of it) Thats Wed night...Thursday morning..
Also on Wednesday, I had a dcp bring in her 2 year old (different family). Mom told me she had been up all night, and she thought P was having a hard night with allergies. I watched P for several hours..just not her normal self. Finally called mom, and told her doctor time. Poor baby has an ear infection..and was miserable. Nothing major..just added stress when another kid doesn't feel well.

Thursday morning..DCM drops of baby at my house..your going to work? She says it is better to go to work and be earning money instead of sitting at home crying..wondering whats going on. She also has to explain to her boss whats going on so she doesn't get fired.
The morning is hell. M is still in ICU, not improving..the longest he went over night w/o a seizer was 30 minutes. The doctors give him several strong drugs..basically knock him out at 8am. Mom called and was told what they were doing. Mom also called all of M's doctors here and told them what was going on..so the doctors were talking and keeping fax lines busy with medical reports.
Mom called back at noon to see how the meds were working, how he was doing. One doctor got on the phone and told her she needed to be making arrangements to come to Alaska to say good bye to her son..GASP! M was starting to have seizures AGAIN! Thats was it..mom couldn't work anymore. She ended up telling her boss and left for the day.
Once she got home, she called back and a pediatric neurologist had just came into the room. This doctor was looking at the brain scans of M from the past and the new ones. This doctor realized that while he had been having seizures before 8am..he wasn't having them afterwards. What he was having now was panic attacks. Some changes were made to the meds..and he started to wake up. He was offered something to eat..and it wasn't the hamburger he wanted so he threw the tray (typical M). He was able to also talk to his mom..and she can tell he is coming around. So..this doctor is now watching him, and monitoring his meds. M still has 3 weeks left in Alaska before he comes home, so everyone is hoping he can be stabilized during that time and be able to come home. He is being kept in ICU tonight..and should be in the pediatric wing tomorrow and released over the weekend..

Then there are the rest of the joys of my life. My kids driving each other crazy. They are fighting over the tv, play station, computer, GRRRRR. Then I have the daycare kids who aren't sick or in a cast (LOL) who are LOUD, not napping, fighting, kicking, just being hellions!! And it isn't just for me either. Their parents drop them off and threaten they MIGHT come back...

ok..so thats my book..Delphi better post or else I might scream!...OH!! and MY computer won't connect to the internet so I have to wait on computer guy to come fix it..

Friday I have a massage scheduled, a nail appointment scheduled and a toe appointment scheduled. I think I deserve it!!

Quenofcrazzy

..and Friday hasn't even started..

Just when you think nothing else can happen..life says Wanna bet??
A lot of stuff is happening in one daycare family..and because I have had this baby for 2 years and 8 months..he is mine.

So..Sunday night his mom gets him back from his weekend at dads. Dad hands baby to mom and says he won't walk. He then turns around and walks out of police station (their meeting point). Mom tries to put the baby down and he starts screaming and won't stand on his right foot. He says he is tired, do not touch his foot, he needs to sleep and it will be all better. WTF??

Mom calls me. I told her that if he isn't putting weight on it and is screaming that bad (I hear him in the background) she needs to go to Urgent care. I really don't want him Monday morning and something be wrong. Mom goes to UC, spends the night there and is told baby has spiral fracture to the tibia (leg bone). Doc says someone forcefully twisted his leg. Mom is told he needs to see a specialist. They have such wonderful insurance that you have to go to primary doctor before specialist..so Monday mom takes off work..goes to doctor. He looks at x-rays and sticks mom in a room while he calls the police.. CHILD ABUSE! Didn't ask mom what happened or anything. Police come, take a report and go looking for dad. Mom get referral to specialist..that specialist doesn't have appointments..blah blah blah..mom finally finds a specialist that has openings the next morning for the baby and calls insurance, get it authorized..deals with police, CPS and everything else under the sun. Thats Monday.

Tuesday..I'm stressing over the baby cause prim doctor said his leg may need immediate surgery...and I had court for my son. Court was short and sweet...continued till 8/25..and I was done. Baby had specialist appointment and he says it is a clean break, not a spiral. He takes off the full leg cast and puts one just below the knee..and it is green. That baby is calling it his green sock We are now waiting 4-6 weeks to see how he heals and go from there.

Wednesday morning isn't totally eventful..but come Wednesday evening..here we go again. Baby's mom has a 10 year old son, M. He has issues..ADHD, and was recently diagnosed with epilepsy. He is on meds and life has been good. He has never had a seizure where anyone knew thats what it was..he was finally tested and it was discovered because of brain activity. He has been in Alaska (we are in California) for the summer with his aunt, his great aunt, visiting his father and his fathers mother. The fathers side of the family doesn't believe in medication Wednesday evening, his aunt picked him up from dad/grandma and he was already having major seizures. The hospital is over an hour away so they drove straight there. On the way, they were pulled over my highway patrol and escorted the rest of the way, the police officer carried him into the ER and got immediate action. M had now had 6 seizures and they weren't getting less frequent or less severe. This is about 4pm..and the aunt of M, my daycare parent's sister, finally calls her and tells her whats going on. My dcp then walk into my house to get C and falls apart. She can't do anything here...The doctors are monitoring him..trying to stop the seizures, calling mom keeping her updated..she then calls me. It is just an all night going, going, going thing. The seizures continued all night, they moved M to ICU, they said that they were going to intubate him. At one point in the middle of the night, the nurse hung up the phone on the mom cause M was having another seizure and with every one in the room, all the noises, the nurse didn't want mom to listen to it anymore. (mom does medical billing so she understands some of it) Thats Wed night...Thursday morning..
Also on Wednesday, I had a dcp bring in her 2 year old (different family). Mom told me she had been up all night, and she thought P was having a hard night with allergies. I watched P for several hours..just not her normal self. Finally called mom, and told her doctor time. Poor baby has an ear infection..and was miserable. Nothing major..just added stress when another kid doesn't feel well.

Thursday morning..DCM drops of baby at my house..your going to work? She says it is better to go to work and be earning money instead of sitting at home crying..wondering whats going on. She also has to explain to her boss whats going on so she doesn't get fired.
The morning is hell. M is still in ICU, not improving..the longest he went over night w/o a seizer was 30 minutes. The doctors give him several strong drugs..basically knock him out at 8am. Mom called and was told what they were doing. Mom also called all of M's doctors here and told them what was going on..so the doctors were talking and keeping fax lines busy with medical reports.
Mom called back at noon to see how the meds were working, how he was doing. One doctor got on the phone and told her she needed to be making arrangements to come to Alaska to say good bye to her son..GASP! M was starting to have seizures AGAIN! Thats was it..mom couldn't work anymore. She ended up telling her boss and left for the day.
Once she got home, she called back and a pediatric neurologist had just came into the room. This doctor was looking at the brain scans of M from the past and the new ones. This doctor realized that while he had been having seizures before 8am..he wasn't having them afterwards. What he was having now was panic attacks. Some changes were made to the meds..and he started to wake up. He was offered something to eat..and it wasn't the hamburger he wanted so he threw the tray (typical M). He was able to also talk to his mom..and she can tell he is coming around. So..this doctor is now watching him, and monitoring his meds. M still has 3 weeks left in Alaska before he comes home, so everyone is hoping he can be stabilized during that time and be able to come home. He is being kept in ICU tonight..and should be in the pediatric wing tomorrow and released over the weekend..

Then there are the rest of the joys of my life. My kids driving each other crazy. They are fighting over the tv, play station, computer, GRRRRR. Then I have the daycare kids who aren't sick or in a cast (LOL) who are LOUD, not napping, fighting, kicking, just being hellions!! And it isn't just for me either. Their parents drop them off and threaten they MIGHT come back...

ok..so thats my book..Delphi better post or else I might scream!...OH!! and MY computer won't connect to the internet so I have to wait on computer guy to come fix it..

Friday I have a massage scheduled, a nail appointment scheduled and a toe appointment scheduled. I think I deserve it!!

back2beingme

Friday I have a massage scheduled, a nail appointment scheduled and a toe appointment scheduled. I think I deserve it!!

I'd say so! I really hope that all of those kids end up healthy and happy very soon!! Here's to a speedy recorvery for all (and a relaxing day for you!)

jlwhelan1

Oh my! May it all end well.

Deep breaths.

Katy009

This is a quote of someone else from another post.......................

QUOTE:

You probably don't want my opinion, but my daughter just graduated high school with honors and already took some college and is of course taking more now. And among other things is an all around great daughter. Just started dating this last year at 17, (18 now) and I know she has a good head on her sholders. And she tells me everything, and I mean everything!
I will tell you how this happened, but you have to be tough. This crap about kids having feelings, they only know what you teach them, and if you let them through a fit, it is your fault.
You need to pop them when they do stuff like that. If they think they are upset at the prospect of getting their nails clipped, once you pop them in the mouth, then the clippers wont be so bad. And if they freak out more, then get even tougher. You are the boss, not the little kid. There is nothing to fear in the clippers, but they need to watch out for you!
And none of this warning crap, don't count to 3. If you do count, pop them right after 1 if they don't stop.
This is for there own good. Do you think a cop later in life is going to say 1,2,3. You need to let them know what life has in store for them. I know he is young, but if you start now it is so much easier later. and you don't have to even really do it much as they get older. They know when they might get popped and stop before they have to.
I don't want to sound mean, I never hurt my daughter, it was more of a surprise. The shock of it was enough to do what your point is. But you know know this whole not spanking kids crap really gets to me. I don't want pay for some other persons kid in the system becasue we are not allowed to pop our kids when they don't behave. My daughter would look at other kids and say to me "that kid needs a spanking" And one time in pre school I was watching through the glass and she told another kid that she was trying to hear the teacher and it wasn't time to talk.
I also have 3 step children (all grown up now) and when they came to visit when they were little, they knew to behave. That it is not a free for all. I was boss. When we would go to the market, we did the duck walk. They all lined up and stayed in a row and not all over the store. And this was for a reason, Didn't want to loose one and they are visiters in the store. They don't own it, and other people shouldn't have to put up with kids pitching a fit in the store. 2 of them even lived with us by their choice at they got a little older.
One time my daughter tried to pictch a fitt in a store when she was about 3, I spanked her right there and she never, EVER did it again.
Just my opinion and it may not be what you want to hear, but it worked for me, and I couldn't be prouder of my daughter today. Never did any of the crap I did as a kid. And I did a lot of crap.
SM



Yep Yep Yep!!
My kids will not be one of those people sitting in a jail cell saying "My mama didn't..". No one is going to look at my kids as adults and wonder what in the world did *I* do to mess them up...
It can still be done today..as long as you don't leave marks!!

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This is a quote of yours from another post......I am SHOCKED to find out that you run a 'daycare'! And you said you just had court for your son.....hmmmmmmm.

rosenbss

I hope your week gets better. Your in our thoughts and prayers... God Bless.... Enjoy you time Friday nite yes you do deserve it!! I did daycare for 6 years.. I loved it but at times it could be heart wrenching. I was 33 weeks pregnant when I lost our daughter and i closed shortly after that because i couldnt watch other take that precious life they were given and just mis treat it. I hope your mother catches a break it sounds like she needs one despertly.

Quenofcrazzy

Friday I have a massage scheduled, a nail appointment scheduled and a toe appointment scheduled. I think I deserve it!!

I'd say so! I really hope that all of those kids end up healthy and happy very soon!! Here's to a speedy recorvery for all (and a relaxing day for you!)

M has been released from ICU to pd unit..just waiting on a bed to transfer him. He should be released from hospital today sometime..

Quenofcrazzy

This is a quote of someone else from another post.......................




Yep Yep Yep!!
My kids will not be one of those people sitting in a jail cell saying "My mama didn't..". No one is going to look at my kids as adults and wonder what in the world did *I* do to mess them up...
It can still be done today..as long as you don't leave marks!!

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This is a quote of yours from another post......I am SHOCKED to find out that you run a 'daycare'! And you said you just had court for your son.....hmmmmmmm.

Yes I said that. I had operated a daycare for over 10 years..very successfully too.
To add to your shock..I am a licensed foster parent too. I raise other peoples kids when they can't do it themselves!
I had court for my son. not because he did something but because his dad wants custody after 15 years so he doesn't have to pay child support. My son is a very well behaved teenager. I am not handing over custody to my ex just cause he wants to try to parent 15 years later. I'm sorry if this wasn't clear to you. I posted this in several places just cause it has been the week from hell..

ChubbyBunny

Oh my....that is a crazy week.

Did they find out if the dad was the one who hurt the little ones leg?
That poor mom and you since it seems you are a great support to her.....

Quenofcrazzy

I hope your week gets better. Your in our thoughts and prayers... God Bless.... Enjoy you time Friday nite yes you do deserve it!! I did daycare for 6 years.. I loved it but at times it could be heart wrenching. I was 33 weeks pregnant when I lost our daughter and i closed shortly after that because i couldnt watch other take that precious life they were given and just mis treat it. I hope your mother catches a break it sounds like she needs one despertly.

I totally understand your closing. Thats one of my biggest fears..something happening to any of my kids..and I don't know if I could go on doing daycare. Hopefully I never have to find out..
The daycare mom is coming back around. M is waiting for a bed in the peds unit, and will be released later today if he remains seizure free.

Quenofcrazzy

Yep..crazy!

The dad is being investigated. CPS and sherriff went and took pictures of the house, and had him do a drug test. I guess now is the hurry up and wait to see what they do.

ChubbyBunny

Well I hope it all gets sorted out and things start to calm down again.
That is a lot of stress to deal with in a short amount of time.

Quenofcrazzy

Well I hope it all gets sorted out and things start to calm down again.
That is a lot of stress to deal with in a short amount of time.

It is looking better...Thanks.

rosenbss

grin btw i so wanted to say to whom ever posted about your son that its pretty crappy to assume its something bad...and that is sopose to be a support site not a bashing site.... grin but i held my mouth shut.. and no i wouldt let him try parenting after 15 yrs. enjoy your pampering tonight you sound like an amazing woman who is very selfless and puts others before her self..and has an amazing heart!! have a good nite!!

Quenofcrazzy

grin btw i so wanted to say to whom ever posted about your son that its pretty crappy to assume its something bad...and that is sopose to be a support site not a bashing site.... grin but i held my mouth shut.. and no i wouldt let him try parenting after 15 yrs. enjoy your pampering tonight you sound like an amazing woman who is very selfless and puts others before her self..and has an amazing heart!! have a good nite!!

I thought so to..then realized someone may have though the worst of my kid..so I explained. Thanks for your support. I had a wonderful Friday.
M is having seizures again but they are under control and he will now be released Sunday.

Katy009

grin btw i so wanted to say to whom ever posted about your son that its pretty crappy to assume its something bad...and that is sopose to be a support site not a bashing site.... grin but i held my mouth shut.. and no i wouldt let him try parenting after 15 yrs. enjoy your pampering tonight you sound like an amazing woman who is very selfless and puts others before her self..and has an amazing heart!! have a good nite!!

I posted that after reading a previously posted comment that it is OKAY to punish a child as long as you don't leave marks! Sorry, but I don't condone comments regarding child abuse nor do I condone any form of 'punishing' them physically or mentally. I was not 'bashing'. I was voicing my opinion. I said that I was shocked that someone who would post a comment like that would run a daycare.

destiny_206

Wow, Good luck. Its so hard when everyone around us is having a hard time. Hang in there. I hope both kids are ok.