Motivation Received - Really? Watch this

creativefrugalmom

OK, so my husband's ex wife's sister and brother-in-law came to visit the kids this weekend (they love my husband still). He and the ex BIL were talking, and in the conversation, my hubby was told that his ex and her sister weren't talking anymore because of ME - what??? What do I have anything to do with this? The ex told her sister that I am jealous of her because she is prettier than me because she is skinny and I will never look like her and that men want skinny, thin women, not fat women like me...lol...lol...lol. Seriously???? look in the mirror. She may be skinny, but has no A** and is butt ugly in the face. Besides, I think she forgets I was pretty hot when I met my hubby and she was obviously jealous of ME back then. Not to mention, I'm STILL married to him. Who's jealous now? (I'm not at all self centered, but had done WW before and lost 57 lbs and had maintained for 8 yrs, including the first 4 years that we were married).

Her sister proceeded to tell her "yeah, maybe if the guys are 17 - 25, but a real man looks deeper and loves a woman because she is a good wife, mom and person, none of which you are and that is why she's raising your kids and you aren't. Also, she puts your kids and her family before herself, not making time for herself and that's why she has put on weight, not to mention, she doesn't starve herself. She is much prettier than you will ever be!" Wow!!! Can you believe that? I have only met her a few times because they live out of state, but I enjoy hanging out with them when they are here. Kinda awkward at first, but I think I know how she feels about me now.

Sorry it's so drawn out, but my point is, she is coming in May and I hope to have lost a lot more by then. Just wait until I post some pics on FB also in the next 6 months. She, unknowingly, just gave me the major motivation I needed. Hahahah! Let's see whose prettier then!!! No, I'm not 16 anymore, but people like this really get under my skin so I will prove to her that she isn't all she thinks she is....

Look out 130...here I come!!!!

Atlantique

I'm glad that the sister-in-law had such lovely things to say about you. I hope you listened to what she admires about you-your selflessness, your kind heart and your commitment to your family.

Notice that she did not mention petty spats between you and the ex-wife in there?

I hope that you are successful in your weight loss and health-improvement goals, but I worry that allowing yourself to be drawn into a petty dispute with the ex-wife may derail you in the end as it sounds so contrary to who you really are. Do this for YOU.

There's an old Will Rogers quote which seems appropriate here. It goes something like this: "Never wrestle with a pig. You'll just get dirty and the pig still wins."

creativefrugalmom

It definitely makes me feel good that someone I hardly know, much less the ex SIL would say such kind things about me.

As for letting her be the reason, I totally agree with you. I have been on this journey and doing it slowly way before the comment was ever made. I would never do something of this nature for someone else; otherwise, it would be a failure. I do love the quote. I have been dealing with her the past 9 years so I know what she is about so I don't let her "get to me" per say. This one actually, even though it probably didn't sound like it, struck me as funny. It just shows what type of person she is. I do have to admit, it does give a bit more motivation, which I have needed for quite some time. That's all. I'm definitely doing it for me and have been for the past 8 mos off and on but my determination level has risen!

Thanks for the comment & advice.

mrsbullard21

My sister-in-law is a self-proclaimed diva. She's very pretty, thin, intelligent, has her own business that she runs...but she's 35 and not married and comes across as very snobby. She has never been outright rude to me or anything, but she always has this air about her that she thinks she's better than me (and everyone else).
It's hard not to dwell on things like that, but I think you (and the sister, bless her heart) are on the right track in focusing on the awesome things that make you you. Keep focusing on that and keep in mind that the weight loss will just make you feel even better about yourself - regardless of what that other chick thinks!

creativefrugalmom

AMEN....I have it all....her ex husband who is an amazing man - he helps cook, clean, he provides, listens and interacts with all of us and who didn't have enough money for her. I am intellegent and can carry on a conversation without sounding stupid. I also have her kids and the life she really wants, even though she is remarried and has 2 other kids with him. Bottom line...money and outward appearance can't buy happiness.....

For me, losing weight is a bonus to me! It will help boost my desire for a healthy life and ability to stay off of medication. It will also give me that young feeling again.