Getting strict about healthier eating/getting active?

Frappuzzino

My boyfriend has been wanting to lose weight, but he has a desk job. Without being very active, he's lost 5 pounds the past 3 months. I have cut out processed carbs and have been walking and staying active, which has helped these 15 lbs come off in 3 months.

My boyfriend's father lives with us. He is 320lbs, has gout and high blood pressure and does not stay active. His dad has told him that he does not want his son to end up with all of these problems due to weight, and I have realized that I don't want my boyfriend, who I plan on spending the rest of my life with, ending up like his father either.

Now his dad is also a "food pusher", and I think my boyfriend feels bad when he doesn't eat alot of what his dad cooks. Last night my boyfriend had a piece of pizza, corn chips and sugar filled jello right before bed. I brought it up jokingly and mentioned eating healthy snacks instead, or eating earlier if he was hungry. He apologized and sounded irritated. Needless to say we went to bed with a little bit of tension between us.

So I've been thinking... am I in the wrong for getting stricter about him eating healthier and stay active with me? I'm not pushing anything on him, but we're young and need to lose the weight NOW, because as I understand it becomes harder as you get older. Advice on how I can approach this without sounding pushy?

brendalyne

This is a tough one. Ultimately the only one who can control what your bf puts into his mouth is your bf! On the other hand - It seems that a good place to start would be to get the junk food out of the house. If his dad truly doesn't want his son to end up like him then maybe you can convince them both to clear the junk food out of the house so the temptation is gone. Do you think you could talk your bf into joining mfp? Logging everything he eats would probably be an eye-opener for him. In the mean time - Stick with your own journey to health. Seeing you change my also eventually inspire him to make changes too.