In dire need of some emotional support/suggestions

MichelleB69

Ok...I'm going to spill my guts here, so I'll try not to turn this into a 4 page soap opera! I'm a 42 yo woman who is DREADING my parents visit next week!! BOTH my parents have eating issues of their own, so it's no wonder that both my younger sister and I had bulimia in high school. My dad was a complete control freak, including regarding food, and my mom has been (unsuccessfully) on every diet known to man. When I go home to visit, their entire lives revolve around food, food prep, meals, eating, planning the next meal, etc. Now, they are coming to my house for a week and I am having major stress about it!!

I have been doing MFP for a month and started my own exercise/fitness plan at about the same time. In that time (prior to knowing about their visit), I decided to take control of my health once and for all. I had my blood tested (high cholesterol/heart disease run in my family), had a physical, hired a personal trainer for the first time and have worked my butt off to lose 7 lbs and follow a healthy, balanced eating plan. I haven't felt this good physically in a long time and am dang proud of myself!

However, once I found out my parents were coming, I started self-sabotoging myself and felt those old binge/purge feelings resurface. I think I'm back on track now, but I'm major stressing now about their visit and am worried that I will let all their issues derail me (my mom announced that she is now becoming Vegan...but she'll still wear leather :noway: )

Help me! I need some encouragement and some solid advice on how to deal with the "Gary & Sharyl Show" while it's in town! TIA!

mikeyml

I don't have the perfect answer for you. I just didn't want to see this thread go unanswered. The best advice I can give you is to keep focused on what you're trying to do. Don't sabotage yourself because it might set you back to the point that you stop trying to be healthy all together. Maybe try to set some boundaries with your parents and let them know that some of the meals this upcoming week will be healthy. Tell them that you're trying to improve your lifestyle and that you need help. They will respect you for telling them what's going on and you won't feel like you're losing the battle.

jeannas

Wow that is tough. But you have decided to take control of yourself and have been succeeding. DON"T LET their visit sidetrack you. This sounds mean, but BE SELFISH..this is your life and your body and no one else can control it but you. Stay on track with your plan..that is the key plan, plan, plan while they are here. Schedule your workouts and let them know you are going out for a while, do they know you are doing MFP? If they do you can explain the workouts, if not don't just tell them..you are meeting a friend for coffee etc

Are you going to do all the cooking? Will they help? Do they enjoy going out to eat? Plan healthy meals with their dietary needs in mind..but don't drive yourself crazy. If they don't like/enjoy something, kindly suggest they figure out the next meal. Good luck, you can do this, you need to do MFP for you..don't give in or give up!

Take care.