How do you react to people who don't support you?

LeeBeeW

I haven't had too much negativity, thank goodness but I do have that alot of people ask me how I did it and expect some miracle cure/answer.
All I say is that I got off my butt and learnt how to eat properly.

Well done!

HisPathDaily

I recommend saying something back totally random ... ok ... example:

Comment: "What made you want to start losing so much weight? Are you eating enough?"

Response: *long pause* "You know ... only you can prevent forest fires." *long pause* ... *walk away whistling*

Just an idea

MyNameIsNotBob

Being an *kitten* elitist, with an ego that puts megalomaniacs with delusions of grandeur to shame, helps me breathe my rose-scented *kitten* throughout the day, worry-free from opinions other than mine.

Hilarious.

ImBabyBunny

Ew! I hear ya girl! I have been there too! Isn't it crazy that sometimes the people you would think you would get the most support from, you don't get any support from? I like to do this little thing, that I call a mental line of separation.

What they are doing sounds like a projection of there own thoughts/feelings because of Jealousy. Mentally they could be thinking ''I am fine, I don't want to/need to lose weight.'' And seeing you having a succeeding weight lose journey, contradicts what they belive as true. (That they are happy with the way they are)

I am a sensitive gal, so it's not easy for me to tell people off. What I find works they best is to talk about yourself in a manner that COMPLETELY separates them and you. YOU are not THEM, THEY are not YOU. So you and them don't need to be on the same page when it comes to health. And they don't need to be talking crap/saying rude comments and anything about your success that isn't positive.

If you want, you could try saying something in the lines off.

''I appreciate your ummm..concern about my weight, but what you are saying is in no way helping MY future goals for my health. I prefer you keep your ever changing opinions to yourself. Thanks.''

Look at yourself as a teacher. Of course you have room to grow, but if you are the bubbly girl who wants to help everyone get healthy, anyone who doesn't have that desire will NOT want to talk to you. Therefore no negative comments.(hopefully)

For example if someone says ''You never needed to lose weight.'' You could reply, ''Oh, I did a little research on it and as it turns out I did need to.'' (So you did! good job!) You could also try saying. ''I want to be a healthy and happy women for myself and for my boyfriend, because we both deserve that.'' By talking care of yourself your also doing something for your boyfriend and their son. How could they be upset with that?

One of the things I have always notice to shut people up quicker is saying ''Hey! I do not have a health problem..YOU are the one who has a problem with my health..You are the one with a weight /health problem.''

Stay strong! Congrats on all you achievements and never give up!

emadigan

I recommend saying something back totally random ... ok ... example:

Comment: "What made you want to start losing so much weight? Are you eating enough?"

Response: *long pause* "You know ... only you can prevent forest fires." *long pause* ... *walk away whistling*

Just an idea

Hahaha. This is probably my favorite!!!

For example if someone says ''You never needed to lose weight.'' You could reply, ''Oh, I did a little research on it and as it turns out I did need to.'' (So you did! good job!) You could also try saying. ''I want to be a healthy and happy women for myself and for my boyfriend, because we both deserve that.'' By talking care of yourself your also doing something for your boyfriend and their son. How could they be upset with that?

That is pretty much what I did at the time. I just focused said I was trying to live healthier. Plus, I threw in there something about my boyfriend and the future, because they always get excited about that. That distracts them. Then I get the "when are getting married?" questions.

BflSaberfan

I can so relate. I've actually had people ask me how much I weigh, how much did I weigh, and what size my pants are!!!!

Rockin33

So embarrassing but I once was rude to someone without even knowing it. I had not seen a friend in a few weeks (6weeks). She always looked perfect for her height and had never expressed wanting to lose weight. Next time I saw her she was about 20lbs lighter and my reaction was to ask if everything was o.k. She was very offended. She expressed how bad she felt that I did not congratulate her. I was being sincere in my shock. But when I realized that I hurt her feelings I felt bad. The reassurance that she had lost in a healthy manner made it better for me. Sometimes people around you don't realize that it is a heavy subject. It may be something you can sort out with a frank conversation. But if they're just being haters... let haters hate. Just a small obstacle on this journey. What you think about yourself is all that matters.

live2smyle

kick them in the junk! lol, just kidding, I do not need their support I do what works for me, if they do not like it then sucks to be them.

:laugh:

prov31ms

I also have a friend who likes to make snide comments whenever I report meeting a goal or say something about how hard it is.

Just to see things from the other side...

I have had the experience where someone I know is dieting / working out / losing weight / etc... and that is ALL they talk about!!! Something I am trying to avoid doing is talking about my goals / progress / nutrition / etc. too much to those around me - I realize my "diet" is important to me & it is something I think about quite a bit these days - but I also realize other people don't want to hear about it all the time - so, I limit myself to when others ask me about how it is going so I won't be annoying to them!

Not to say that this is what is happening - just something to watch out for - if your friend does not ask you how your weight-loss journey is going - don't tell her/him. =0)

Barbelizah

I know exactly how you feel, my husband actually is not very supportive about the whole idea but that was the reason why I failed so many times when I try to lose weight, But not this Time I just told him straight to his face "If you don't like the idea Of me going to the gym than you know what to do", what I meant was that If he was not going to be supportive about this than i don't need him In my life He has no idea how bad I want to be healthy he has no clue what it feels to be fat!(He has always been skinny) He tells me I'm Neglecting my "house work" and my kids. But I try my best to not let his words get to me!!

YOU ARE DOING THIS FOR YOU, NO MATTER HOW HARD YOU TRY YOU CAN NEVER HAVE OTHERS 100% SATISFIED!!