How honest is too honest?

BunnybeeJG

In a relationship there are usually unspoken boundries.. some people get squeemish sharing past relationships, or peeing in front of each other ... even things like farting or other unmentionable activities are off limits.

two things..
my boyfriend knows my menstruation cycle better than I know it...
and second...
I don't see a need to not tell him... i'm going to the bathroom i have to poop.
lol

Is that a line most of you wouldn't cross?
how honest is pushing the line and boundries to you in your relationships... mine used to be sharing my actual weight number... but since I have even that initial thing has gotten much better bc he's my other half and being honest with him is almost like a beginning to being honest with myself...

but i wondered anyone has anything they consider to be too open and honest? or ... like me ... is it just an anything goes.

and why are you afraid to be honest about whatever are your line drawers... is it a fear of judgement?

strapple

ill tell anyone anything

i cant stand it when people are uptight and reserved


but of course i have class
i dont go up to a stranger and say HEY DUDE IM TOTALLY OVULATING RIGHT NOW ISNT THAT COOL

but if my husband asks me why im being such a crab i wouldnt think twice before shouting MY PERIOD! >:{

Munchiemooka

I'm like you, everything is shared with my husband :bigsmile:

donicagalek

zOMG. Seriously. I'm the WORST person in the world to answer this. X-D

I'd tell YOU when my cycle is and if I have to poop. I'm pretty much missing that part of the brain that stops me from spouting TMI. :-D

Carl01

I have no problem with a lady being honest about stuff,am an adult and it doesn`t affect me.
As far as TOM it is okay to know so as to be respectful as well as understanding.

LorinaLynn

I've been married almost ten years. There's hardly any boundaries left at this point!

Total TMI:

There have been times that made even pooping in front of him necessary. But I refuse to wipe in front of him.

Ashley_Panda

My husband and I share everything. Hell even when we were dating it was completely open. I mean, it's fairly common for me to be like, Dude, I have poop. Then get up and go. I have no problem sharing it with him. He also is the same way and we think it's hilarious.

Heather75

I'm honest about everything, but I have never pooed in front of anyone. I don't even want to be there so I wouldn't subject anyone else to it unless there was no alternative.

1113cw

:bigsmile: I personally have boundaries.. some things are, well, just private. I don't have any problem with TOM info but as far as bathroom behavior, to me that's private. I don't share it and I don't expect my other half to share it either. It's a "need to know" basis as far as I'm concerned..

suemar74

I've been married almost ten years. There's hardly any boundaries left at this point!

Total TMI:

There have been times that made even pooping in front of him necessary. But I refuse to wipe in front of him.

OMG...you totally crack me up! :laugh:

robin52077

I see nothing wrong with discussing TOM or poop with DH.

taiyola

I think it's good to be open with most things, but in a relationship I can't get in to toilet activity if it's more than a wee! I can with certain friends though. :indifferent:

I wouldn't wee in front of a boyfriend, but occasionally I have when drunk around a girl friend.

I think it would cause trouble if your other half wasn't aware of TOM in some situations... :laugh:

shulaw

i dont share the bathroom thing but then again i also can not use a public wc so i def have a thing about bathrooms lol ...

hroush

My wife is very reserved about her TOM, but I would rather know than not. There are things that I know not to discuss with her, such as her weight. I'm very careful about talking to her about my successes as well because I don't want her to get self-conscious.

Levedi

he's my other half and being honest with him is almost like a beginning to being honest with myself...

but i wondered anyone has anything they consider to be too open and honest? or ... like me ... is it just an anything goes.

and why are you afraid to be honest about whatever are your line drawers... is it a fear of judgement?

Wow, I think that's beautiful and healthy. Good relationships need reality - you can't have a really strong one if you have to put up a front all the time.

Mind you, I'm a big fan of not grossing others out for no good reason - for example, I have frequent colds and I don't hack and spit mucus in front of other people if i can help it. I go in the bathroom and clear my sinuses so I don't have to make others gag. i don't announce what I'm going to go do in the bathroom because it seems unnecessary - we all know what happens in a bathroom.

But as long as the two of you are comfortable with each other I don't see a problem. Ask him if he's bothered - it doesn't sound like he is.

jmcniel

I feel that if you are in a relationship, then I don't see why you would be shy about any of it. Hell, when I was about 16 or 17 I was taking a poo while I was talking to my dad, and... it got a little way from me, and he was like "Are you taking a ****?" and I was like...."Ummm, yes...." we laughed for a good 10 minutes; it is now a long standing joke.


We have two bathroom's in our house and me and my wife(jaspersmommy) will text each other if we are occupying both.

dlaplume2

I fugure, once my husband has seen me push out a baby, there aint much point in hiding anything else.

dave4d

I work a 28 day rotation. It really freaked my girlfriend out when I seemed to know when she was going to start, but it would always fall in with a certain part of my schedule.

mrsblair84

I've def hit the comfort zone. We don't really hide anything from each other...including gas. lol. He tries to get me to go into the bathroom with him while he's doing the #2...but I completely refuse. Unless I have to go in there for something. We can just barge in on each other and neither one of us cares. Once you hit a certain level with somebody, best friend or significant other...there are just things you do in front of them and it doesn't matter.

kittyinaz

I used to be very shy about the whole bathroom thing, but with my boyfriend now I am more comfortable than I have been with anyone else I ever dated. We share everything

He even helped me during a SUPER embarrassing time when I dealt with my first hemmorrhoid (he put the cream on it for me).

california_peach

My husband knows my menstraul cycle because we live together and have been known to participate in mating rituals on occasion.

I can only pee in front of my cat and my children. Once the children get older, it will be just the cat. My bladder is very shy. I can't help it, but it keeps me from committing serious crimes....so that is good. I can only poop in front of the cat.

As for past relationships, my husband and I decided while dating that beyond the question of health we would not discuss what happened in the past. We had both had issue in the past with jealous and controlling significant others. Of course neither of us are like that, so it would have probably been okay.

maritza0486

I am 25, my boyfriend is 23. We have been together 2 months and right away we began talking completely openly about our lives. For me, there is nothing to ever hide or hold back. I am fully outspoken, honest, and straightforward. Those things are key to any relationship. WIthout that, nothing can go well for too long. I believe this man is my soulmate and I will always be this way with him. What is the point of being fake? Tell it like it is people. Be yourself

kelika71

After a bad flare up with my MS that left me pretty much incapable of doing anything for nearly a month, I learned to swallow most of my pride. I couldn't drive, lift most things, turn or twist due to a severe spasm in my neck and shoulders. Nothing is more humiliating than your spouse having to "clean" you after using the bathroom. That's the only time, I was grateful for never having normal female cycles. I think that would've killed me right there if he had to take care of me in that regard.
So, nothing is secretive here.

musicoflife08

I tell my fiance' EVERYTHING. I mean EVERYTHING. Lol. I'm only completely comfortable around him though. I always say, Babe, I have to poo. We sometimes even ask each other how our poo went. Lol! It's just something we think is hilarious. But he is also the guy who thinks there is nothing wrong with burping at the dinner table and doesn't understand why a bodily function needs to be excused, which I understand. But I grew up in a family where it was rude to do that, so I've had to compromise with him and ask him to excuse himself when he's with my family. When it's just us I could care less. Anyway, if you can't be open with the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with, then what's the point, you know?

BunnybeeJG

I fugure, once my husband has seen me push out a baby, there aint much point in hiding anything else.

haha ya cuz you poop doing that too lol

awe this has made me smile.. all the responses its fantasically unintentionally funny

i'm really private even when no ones home i shut the bathroom door taking a shower or using the toilet so i dont do that in front of him just because its habitual for me to do that alone.
But somehow even when I think i'm going to miss my period he knows when i'm going to get it even when im not pmsing its insane .. lol

I still get a little pink in the cheeks when it comes to passing gas but lol it doesn't kill me i just laugh. I just wondered if i were the only weird one that's completely open with my bf about stuff like that

BunnybeeJG

After a bad flare up with my MS that left me pretty much incapable of doing anything for nearly a month, I learned to swallow most of my pride. I couldn't drive, lift most things, turn or twist due to a severe spasm in my neck and shoulders. Nothing is more humiliating than your spouse having to "clean" you after using the bathroom. That's the only time, I was grateful for never having normal female cycles. I think that would've killed me right there if he had to take care of me in that regard.
So, nothing is secretive here.

kudos to you for your fight its good when bad things happen I suppose to feel comfortable asking for help or in his case not even waiting to be asked to help but just... doing it becasue it doesn't gross you out and you love that person .. its second nature.

I'm always thankful when i get my period for the longest time due to stress and a horrible living situation Im sure my weight was a factor too i didn't get it for months at a time... but i'm always thankful because it can be scary no matter what to not get it... so its wonderful to be thankful for it... and at least i don't have to explain myself or my actions to him lol since he already knows when its coming lol crazy

i also find less reason to have huge arguements because there's really not much that we hide

amuhlou

The longer we've been together, the more "honest" we've gotten. We don't really keep anything from one another, and I think it's common courtesy for him to know when my TOM is starting and ending.

I also have a nurse for a mother, so things that might seem embarrassing to talk about are kind of commonplace to me because I grew up with that.