encouragement versus discouragement and some venting

corpus_validum

Just an update... I went all out for my workout today and I felt really good about it!!!! I think the anger for what that guy did fueled me even farther, especially when i could hear him out my living room window mocking me to his wife and her friends, talking about all i lost was water weight and that when i count to get my daughters attention if she isnt listening that its ridiculous (If my daughter doesnt want to listen, i count to 5 and if i reach 5 before she listens, she is in trouble)... yes he took it farther. Anyhow, I was overly ticked and it fueled my workout. When i came home today he mockingly asked, "So how was your workout?" I didnt even look at his ignoramous face and said, It was great! Thanks!" kept walking.

Thanks for the encouragement everyone, you each really helped me out. i appreciate it!

Good for you.

What a _(fill in the blank)_ that guy is!!!

Although I tout the benefits of weight training over cardio here often, I would def'ly go with what your trainer has outlined for you. His/her plan to get your fitness level up before tackling weights is a sound plan.

And at least you've found yourself a bit of motivation (albeit negative)...especially when you hit your goal and rock a fit body and show that _(fill in the blank)_ that you were successful in your own way.

StevLL

WTG! Good Job! listening to idiots is not worth your time!

Spayrroe

On the note of counting to the child: I count to three for my daughter. Now, I count slow (she's only 4), but I count, and she knows if I hit three there's a problem and it isn't going to be pretty. My daughter is better behaved and more independent than most of the other kids I see out there when I'm in public. Just to add some support there.

As far as the people grinding you for letting the guy get to you, I wouldn't feel stupid for letting it bother you. I know everyone's just trying to be supportive and help, but when I've had these kind of issues in the past, having people chastise me (even gently and in a supportive way) always made me kind of feel double downed. It's hard not to let these things bother you. It's even harder when you're working to get yourself in shape (as opposed to just maintain fitness), and you're still learning your way. Someone touting that you're doing it wrong and it's not going to work gets scary. Now, he was an uber jumping *kitten* about it, but I totally get why you were concerned and felt the need to post about it. I also understand why, instead of just posting the question, you felt the need to vent and get some support here. Anyway, I'm glad you're feeling better and able to blow him off now, but I just wanted to say I understand why he got to you in the first place, and that I have a problem with letting people get under my skin too. Just wanted to be supportive all around

Oh, and please, no one take this as I'm attacking you or anything like that. I just wanted to add that in because I know how I feel when people tell me that stuff, and sometimes I really wish there would be someone there to say 'it's okay that it bugged you'.

Lisane1969

I agree, that guy is a jerk. Try not to let him get in your head. My advice, follow your trainer's advice, she is the specialist in the field, and the guy clearly is not !

I also agree that, good for you, you are actually exercising, which is great.

I also have a trainer and he told me that to help the weight loss., weight training is great, because weight training helps getting your metabolism working a little bit mor, meaning that when you are not in exercise mode, you burn more calories. So a mix of cardio and training seem to best way to go. I don't know if it better if you start by weight training and then cardio, personnaly, i don't think there is a difference.

When i go to the gym, i do about 25 minutes of cardio and then move on to the weight training. But, hey, that's the way my trainer did my program.

Go GO Go, you can do it !!! You already shred 10 pounds !!!!! You're doing great

ladyeyessogreen

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agreeing with EVERYONE here. Listen to a trained professional, your trainer.

First, Kudos to you!!! I honor you for the pounds you have released thus far. Great Job!!!!

I've heard both. strength training during, before or after cardio. There are SOOOOO many schools of thought about which is the best way to go. Honestly, you are moving your body. You are taking intiative for YOUR health not his.

I too, get discouraged easily. That's why I am back here. Readling all this encouragement is tremendously helpful.

I am always open to new friends to support each other. Send me a friends request if you are so inclined.

dad106

Best advice is to listen to your trainer and listen to your body. Only you know what works for you and its better to take the advice of a professional then some random guy off the street.