none weight related venting

ChantalD75

Ok here is my story... I was married for close to 13yrs and my husband left me for another woman... I met this terrific guy on the internet and we have been together for 2 years. We are now living together... the brady bunch... I have 3 boys and he has a girl and 2 boys.... His daughter from his first marriage and the 2 boys from his 2nd... Now his 2nd ex has been a freaking nightmare. She calls herself a mother but I wouldn't call her that. I think you earn that title... She has a 14 yr old daughter and the two boys only the 2 are his. He has the boys EVERY weekend. My ex has my boys every 2nd weekend. Every weekend its a fight between the two of them on Sundays because she is never home when it's time to drop off the boys. She is always at a guys house. Sometimes she will get her daughter to be home so we can drop off the boys. Now here is the venting part. This past Thurs before the long weekend. My ex took my boys and he told his ex we will pick up his boys on Friday so we can have a night off and he can take me out for my bday (which was yesterday). She sent him a text on Thurs saying she had to work early on Friday and now has to work easter monday is there a day he can help her out with the boys since daycare isn't open. He texted her back explaining that we were on our way to diner and we can swing by AFTER we were done to pick up the boys but she had to figure out Monday since he and I both work. WELL. The texting didn't stop she texted back every sec asking what time we will be done when are we coming when will be be done. She even went as low as to get one of the boys to call his dad to ask him... He was on his phone the WHOLE dinner. He couldn't put the phone away because he said if he did there would be 100 texts from her. WHICH I DONT CARE. So that was ruined. We picked up the boys and the oldest one told his dad that mommy said see you monday. SO he started to text her asking WHAT.... we can't keep the boys. SHE HAD THE BALLS TO SAY. I am having dinner now talk to you tomorrow good bye. WTF as if. She ruins my dinner but he can't ask her a question. I hate her so much. She doesn't deserve these boys. If you look on her FB pics it's her partying, kissing girls... have drunk... and her oldest can see this as he has a FB. Now I have to ask my 68 yr old mom and 75 yr old dad to watch my kids and his kids plus my sister daughter... that makes 6 kids for my parents that no longer have patience. When there is no school my parents watch my kids. Which is no big deal as my kids are 14, 11 and 9. His kids... 9 and 4. The 4yr old is a handful. But she doesn't care. I have had enough of her. I want him to take her back to court and take these kids away from her. She doesn't deserve these boys. They can go to school here and I can find someone to watch the boys after school.

Sorry it's so long but I needed to get this out. Thank you for reading...

PJilly

What a selfish witch! I can't imagine how frustrating that must be, and for her to use the kids as pawns like that is unforgivable. I don't have any great advice for dealing with her other than to keep reminding yourselves to do everything in your power not to make the kids pay for what a tool their mother is. I wish you much luck and patience!

SquishyVicki

Oh no - it sounds like an absolute nightmare!!
I won't even pretend to know what this feels like to have to deal with that but don't stoop to her level - she's probably just selfish & jealous because you're both happy and she is not worth it. Good luck with dealing with her in the future..... Vicki

EDesq

Hope it gets better, but when you take on a man/woman with kids, you take on the Ex to some extent. Relative to the restaurant (your b'day), I think your partner had control of that. He probably has her number in-put, he knows it is her, he simply could have cut the phone off and focused on YOU, but he chose not to...that's on him. Relative to taking HER kids, you are asking for more trouble, not only that, if you do get them...won't that be more of a burden on your family and your parents when it comes to keeping the kids...I don't think everything will be as copacetic as you think.

I understand the rant but some of that stuff is on your partner, how he allows her to manipulate him and situations. But then, it's easier to get upset at her rather than him.

ChantalD75

Hope it gets better, but when you take on a man/woman with kids, you take on the Ex to some extent. Relative to the restaurant (your b'day), I think your partner had control of that. He probably has her number in-put, he knows it is her, he simply could have cut the phone off and focused on YOU, but he chose not to...that's on him. Relative to taking HER kids, you are asking for more trouble, not only that, if you do get them...won't that be more of a burden on your family and your parents when it comes to keeping the kids...I don't think everything will be as copacetic as you think.

I understand the rant but some of that stuff is on your partner, how he allows her to manipulate him and situations. But then, it's easier to get upset at her rather than him.

I agree on that.... and he did get it all evening I told him to put that phone away. We did have a talk and he did agree that he will no longer let her control him. Which is what she does to some extent. It's all about how she can get rid of the boys. And it's sad. I feel really bad for those two boys. Child and Family has already been called on her from the school. Think it's a matter of time before she loose them. And that is sad. I would be so lost without my boys.