I want to quit!

rebawagner

I gave up the scale for lent, tracked almost everday (slacked off the last 2 weeks in tracking but didn't go crazy eating) and I just got on the scale and gained 4.5lbs...I am the heaviest I have ever been (except when pregnant) and I just feel like this is a loosing battle! I don't know what to do! Many of you have messaged me ideas and I am thankful for that but nothing is working! I am making a Dr.s appointment today but I just feel like I am about to say f*&^ it! Do you realize I have been doing this since Dec and I am now up almost 5 lbs from my start date!:frown:

lazywriter

Are you sure it isn't water weight? Have you been eating sugary or salty foods, which cause bloating and unnecessary weight gain?

Cmccracken1

you only loose the battle if you quit trying....

TourThePast

I know just how you feel, I'm ready to throw the towel in myself. But I'm not going to. I hope you can find the strength to keep going.

If you're sure you're logging your calories correctly, something could be amiss - a friend was in the same situation as you, and was recently diagnosed with an underactive thyroid, so yes do make that doctor's appointment.

RoxMyWorld

I would say dont give up until you talk to your doctor. There may be something else that is going on and once you have it figured out the weight will come off. Plus just being healthier is worth it. I understan dyour frustration I have been on here for about six weeks now and I have only lost 5lbs. I have at least 40lbs more to go and it seems like I will never get there.

yaddayaddayadda

You sound so frustrated!!! Don't quit! In your post, you said you "slacked off" for the last two weeks. A 4.5 gain after not weighing yourself and slacking off a bit isn't so bad. If you give up, your gain may be much more significant. Everyone falls off the wagon at times. If you get back on, you could quickly lose the 4.5 lbs. Everything worth achieving is difficult. NEVER GIVE UP!

sunshine79

Without knowing what you're doing it's difficult to make any suggestions.

That said, I was having the same problem - i was 'doing everything right' with no results. The truth was I was not being totally honest with my food and was not making the best food choices.

I decided to refresh things, I focused on getting 5 portions of fruit and veg each day, drinking my water and then changed my workouts so I focused on strength training and interval training. I have finally begun to see results.

If you have been 100% accurate with your food intake, have reduced processed sugar and processed foods and are drinking all your water the maybe you should check with your Dr. I had this same problem last year only to find out I had an underactive thyroid.

Hope this helps and please don't give up. You can do this and you WILL succeed. :drinker: :drinker: :flowerforyou:

Ashia1317

I completely understand! I gave up all junk food, sodas, chips, etc for Lent. And wouldn't you know the scale didn't even move except up a few ounces???? Yea, I hear ya!! :mad:

tammyquinnlmt

According to your diary, you are not tracking daily. This can be a problem. If you don't exactly what you are putting in your mouth on a "gain" week then you don't know what to change. Also, the females body can flutuate up to 10 pounds thanks to dear TOM. I wouldn't give up...I would just get serious about tracking. Give it a couple weeks then ask for others to evaluate what you are doing so better advice can be given. But don't give up!

srobinson1217

I agree with everyone else too!! I've quit many times before, only to gain back that 4.5 lbs and then some, usually gaining more each time. It sucks, and it is frustraing, I've broke down crying many times because of it. Stay strong, and definitely get some labwork checked out. Sounds like thyroid insuffiency.

Shweedog

I checked out your diary. Sorry, Im nosey. I don't know if maybe you are keeping track another way but it seems you do not log on the weekends much. Some weekdays were missing throughout the months too. Could you be eating more than you think on these days?

kristie778

Have you been exercising? It's possible a couple of extra pounds can be muscle. How are your clothes fitting?

Regardless, try to remember why you started this journey to begin with. Was it for your overall health? Weight loss? Fitting into skinny jeans? An upcoming vacation? Whatever the reasons, write them down, post them where you can see them, and then when you get discouraged, this will remind you, and encourage you!

nickicaylor

first have your inches gones down ? you may have gained muscle and lost fat. do monthly body fat % checks
customize your food settings under the home tab, then under goals, then select change my goals. Increase your protein to at least 40 %, carbs 40%, and fats 20%. that should rev your metabolism some. Plus, women do better when we eat lower carb diets. Also make sure you are doing strength training (you may already be doing this) and well as cardio. Also in each strength work-out do short Cardio intense blasts. (ie - swing kettle bell 45 seconds, then go back into circuite do 3 sets and right back into swinging the kettle bell) I know it can be discouraging. Also I personally throw in 3 days a week, typically in a row , of 50% protein, 20 % carbs, 30 % fat. then go back. it is a lot of changing to do in my logs but it works. I have dropped 4% body fat in a month.
good luck and don't get discouraged.

go to www.bodybuilding.com ( not just for body builders) they have great tips for whatever your goal is and it is free. I use that and this.

bddavis1

You only fail if you quit trying. I know what you are going through. I have been at the same weight for 5 months, can’t seem to lose anymore. Sometimes I fall off the diet wagon, but I just get back on ASAP. There is only two ways to lose weight; reduce calorie or increase exercise. That it, maybe if one isn’t working; you may focus more on the other. Hang in there… you can do it.

littttlelaurra

I have gone 4 weeks total on this new plan and havent lost a single lb, so can feel your pain and know how frustrating this is, but I also know there is more benefit then the number on the scale. Being diabetic myself, I see my glucose numbers falling into great goal numbers. That is a sign right there that something is going right and eventually the scale will have to follow. But over all just making healthy food and activity life style choices is overall good for you and dont lose sight of that due to the number on the scale which I know bums me out too I want to see it where I want it but cant let it rule my mood or my world, keep your chin up you will make it.

ZebraHead

First - :flowerforyou:

Second: You have taken away your tools (scales and food tracking). These are the two things that keep you on the path.

This is a lifelong journey, it will never end, a lifestyle that you have to embrace fully with desire and dedication. This 'bump' in the road should be your FINAL wake-up call. You can do this you have the rest of your life don't let this set back send you back where you were before. You came here (To MFP and this lifestyle) with a purpose don't lose sight of that now.

As for weighing I don't know your particulars but for me:

I make everything constant for my weigh -ins.

Same scale
Same place on floor (no rug)
In the morning after bathroom business - (if you have been constipated for several days remember that when you weigh)
In my birthday suit (try not to picture my birthday suit )

I extend my hand to you as a friend if you would like to add me.
We have a long road ahead; we will see many good days and many bad days. We raise our glasses that the bad days are very few and far between, but no matter what we must stay on the path.

wigal23

I didn't check out your diary, but could it be that you aren't eating enough?? Sounds crazy, I know, but I was also very frustrated with tracking each and every bite and exercise, being under my cals, and GAINING. A little over a week ago, I bumped my calories up by about 300-500/day, and making sure I eat back my exercise cals. I have lost a little over 3 pounds in 10 days. Sometimes it takes playing around with the #'s to find what works for you!

baton_gal79

Eating healthy and exercise is a new lifestyle all together. Most of us have to religiously continue the daily fight to survive. Hang in there! Some things that work for some, don't always work for others. The trick is finding that nitch for you. I've learned the biggest struggle for me was getting from the couch to the treadmil. But once i got there, it is amazing! I am a runner (a slow one), but none the less, a runner.. I'm not a biker. and i know that so i do what works, and try to mix it up a bit with something fun like ZUMBA! Jumping on a trampoline or playing softball or volleyball or tennis are great ways to workout! The trick is pushing through that first fight of whatever you enjoy doing (or didnt know you'd enjoy). You're fighting yourself all the time! Your mind says one thing, but your body another. Keep at it. Say, do i have something in store for you today body... you're not going to like this one bit! and smile My current goal is a marathon. I did one in 2008. Now, i must say, i am a casual jogger, but i was shocked when i actually completed the Duluth Grandma's Marathon. I wanted to cry (mostly cuz i could finally stop running) but also because I DID IT!! I DID IT!! I never thought i could do something like that. And i did it BY MYSELF! There were MANY times i wanted to give up, but kept pushing. Heck, scream if you have to! Stay active, stay alert of what you eat, and try to have fun doing it Best of Luck to you! This is a battle we all fight every day of our lives, find what works for you! Keep searching, DONT GIVE UP! ! !

baton_gal79

WIGAL23: I love your inspiration! You have done wonderful yourself. GREAT JOB!!

Ctyndall81

Are you working out?
I gain before losing.... then I drop a few pounds at a time.

Glad your going into the doc. Could be thyroid or other things.
If you haven't done anything to gain this weight it could be health
related. Best to rule that option out.

Good luck to you!

lostgirl77

I think one thing we can all agree on, is that we completely understand how you feel...been there done that!! You say you didn't over do it. It may be as simple as you didn't eat the right foods i.e. whole grains, fruits & veggies etc. You can cut back on what you eat but if you are not taking in enough of the proper nutrients or caloroies that can be just as bad as eating junk food. You might consider going back to MFP for a while to see.

TheDeviation

Maybe I'm being a little harsh here, but if you give up now you weren't committed to this in the first place. You didn't gain the unwanted weight overnight. You won't lose it overnight either. You have to commit to this!

I gave up the scale for lent, tracked almost everday (slacked off the last 2 weeks in tracking but didn't go crazy eating) and I just got on the scale and gained 4.5lbs...

Of all the BAD things to give up, the scale is what you chose? Hmm.

The truth was I was not being totally honest with my food and was not making the best food choices.

This is probably what the OP was doing. You HAVE to be honest and track EVERYTHING. Otherwise you're just cheating yourself.

I say all this as someone who has been on and off again many times in the past. You really have to WANT this. Don't give up. See your Dr. and get back on the wagon!

ChrisR0128

I try to remember I did not gain this weight over night, why should I lose it overnight. I had to train my body to get into the bad eating habits, now i have to teach my body new healthy habits. If things are not working mix it up some. MFP gives me the tools, but it is up to me to do the work. Best of luck, hang in there!

sophjakesmom

Stick with it friend! You definitely sound like you are not happy where you are, and quiting would only hurt you! When I started, I tried to focus on one thing at a time, so I would not feel overwhelmed. If logging your food is something you are struggling with, just focus on that for 2 entire weeks. Be really honest with yourself about what you put in your mouth. Just doing that will help you get a handle on calorie intake. (even if you go over your calorie goal, logging helps you stop before it gets out of hand.)

then once you do that for 2 weeks, you can pick your next goal to focus on. Could be staying under your calorie goal consistently, or could be at least 20 mins of exercise at day or could be getting your water in every day. Then celebrate all your successes, not just the ones on the scale.

You want to do this and you want to succeed! I hear it in your email and the frustration in your tone. Don't give up and we won't give up on your either!!:flowerforyou:

rebawagner

Thanks everyone:flowerforyou: ! I gave up the scale because I was getting on too much (2 and 3 times a day). I have been exercising more this chapter of my life then I ever have before... but still nothing compared to some people on here! I was quite accurate in my tracking (again, not the last 2 weeks). I just need to refocus! I am going to call the dr...what can it hurt and see what they think about my diary. Thanks again! I just needed to VENT! :sad: I will be going for my 2 mile walk today and drinking a lot of water... hoping tomorrow is a better day!

rebawagner

You are not too harsh! However just and FYI..Lent is not about giving up something "BAD", It's about giving up something that is HARD for you to give up

Maybe I'm being a little harsh here, but if you give up now you weren't committed to this in the first place. You didn't gain the unwanted weight overnight. You won't lose it overnight either. You have to commit to this!

I gave up the scale for lent, tracked almost everday (slacked off the last 2 weeks in tracking but didn't go crazy eating) and I just got on the scale and gained 4.5lbs...

Of all the BAD things to give up, the scale is what you chose? Hmm.

The truth was I was not being totally honest with my food and was not making the best food choices.

This is probably what the OP was doing. You HAVE to be honest and track EVERYTHING. Otherwise you're just cheating yourself.

I say all this as someone who has been on and off again many times in the past. You really have to WANT this. Don't give up. See your Dr. and get back on the wagon!

BflSaberfan

Dont give up. Take a look at your diary. I looked at it and saw bacon, milk duds, brownies...and its not that we cant eat these things but it shouldn't be everyday.

I would guess your under estimating your calorie intake. Get yourself a scale to measure your food on and try that for a few weeks. Also notl ogging on the weekends maybe where youre adding calories and dont realize it.

If you want results I'd take the diet part more seriously.

TheDeviation

You are not too harsh! However just and FYI..Lent is not about giving up something "BAD", It's about giving up something that is HARD for you to give up

Guess I never was much into religion. Either way, doesn't sound like it was a tough thing to give up.

TheDeviation

Thanks everyone:flowerforyou: ! I gave up the scale because I was getting on too much (2 and 3 times a day).

ONCE a week tops!