"Are you starving yourself?" VENT!

aehartley

This became such a problem at my office that my manager had to say something to a few of my co-workers.

I had not said anything about MFP and I had been working out twice a day and eating about 1200 calories a day. Since I had started my job I had lost 40 lbs when a few of them cornered me and started in " we are so worried" - - "we think you have a problem" ect. No matter how I tried to explain how I was eating better and how I was exercising they refused to belive that it was anything but a problem. I have never been so put down in my life. They couldn't belive that I had done this to be healthy and had done it the right way... I had to have a problem.. :-( Finally one day after berading me at lunch about what I had eaten how much I had eaten I said something to my manager who spoke to them...

erisfreenici

I think that a lot of people's ideas of what dieting entails is not entirely based in reality. If you are on a diet, and you try to eat McDonalds every day... you're going to starve. Eating healthy foods and exercising is one of the most rewarding things, and a lot of days I find it hard to get all of my calories in. It's sad, but true! So, people think that to get skinny they can't eat anymore... which brings on the ignorant starving questions.

Also, maybe you should let your mother know very calmly that her statements are frustrating you beyond belief because you're trying so hard to be healthy. If that doesn't work, you'll just have to accept that what you are doing is great for your body, and realize that not everybody will be on the same page because of their own ignorance.

SolidGoaled

This became such a problem at my office that my manager had to say something to a few of my co-workers.

I had not said anything about MFP and I had been working out twice a day and eating about 1200 calories a day. Since I had started my job I had lost 40 lbs when a few of them cornered me and started in " we are so worried" - - "we think you have a problem" ect. No matter how I tried to explain how I was eating better and how I was exercising they refused to belive that it was anything but a problem. I have never been so put down in my life. They couldn't belive that I had done this to be healthy and had done it the right way... I had to have a problem.. :-( Finally one day after berading me at lunch about what I had eaten how much I had eaten I said something to my manager who spoke to them...

Oh. My. This story is unbelievable! What is WRONG with people???

whiskey9890

me i'd challenge them to a race, i mean if you're starving yourself you'll have no energy and couldn't possibly win. and when you kick their butt, turn round and tell them "thats what healthy eating and exercise do for you, don't you wish you'd thought of trying it!"

aehartley

This became such a problem at my office that my manager had to say something to a few of my co-workers.

I had not said anything about MFP and I had been working out twice a day and eating about 1200 calories a day. Since I had started my job I had lost 40 lbs when a few of them cornered me and started in " we are so worried" - - "we think you have a problem" ect. No matter how I tried to explain how I was eating better and how I was exercising they refused to belive that it was anything but a problem. I have never been so put down in my life. They couldn't belive that I had done this to be healthy and had done it the right way... I had to have a problem.. :-( Finally one day after berading me at lunch about what I had eaten how much I had eaten I said something to my manager who spoke to them...

Oh. My. This story is unbelievable! What is WRONG with people???

The sad thing is, it made me nearly give up the healthy... it made me want to workout less beacuse I didn't want someone to say I was doing something wrong when I knew I was not. it made me want to eat "burgers and fries " infront fo them because I did't want them to say anything. Then one day I relized I was only short changing myself if I did that. Instead I have stood up and made it known that I am not "dieting" I am planning on changing my life. They don't say much now to my face. I know they all talk about it behind my back. Which is fine.

I can tell you it is worth it when I can run for miles and not be exhausted because I have the right fuel in my body - and When my partner grabs me to hug me and she says " omy your are getting so small, I love it. You look so good"

TourThePast

Some people do seem to proudly wear their ignorance like a big shiny neon flashing light... *rolls eyes*

me i'd challenge them to a race, i mean if you're starving yourself you'll have no energy and couldn't possibly win. and when you kick their butt, turn round and tell them "thats what healthy eating and exercise do for you, don't you wish you'd thought of trying it!"

That is fabulous, what a great comeback!

Just a shame that right now I run slower than most people walk... :bigsmile:

orangeswild123

That is so rude! I could never, ever imagine saying that to someone. Some people have no manners. I would turn and smile and say "Oh, I didn't realize you were a dietitian. Where did you get certified?" and of course they will probably be like "uhh I'm not" then you reply "Oh that's too bad, I was hoping for a professional opinion." and walk away. And hey since you feel insulted I'd insult right back. "I see you tried starving yourself too, guess it didn't work." and walk away. Sometimes rude people need it handed back to them. Just keep your head held high! You accomplished a lot and be proud. Anyone who thinks differently, well that's just too bad

cheryl3660

I like to tell them I throw up after every meal (no offense to bulimics, I know it's a serious illness and I am NOT trying to mock you or offend you, just trying to shut these people up... Please don't think I am making light of your situation!) I find that it shuts them up straight away! My brothers like to make a game of bringing me one grain of rice or one slice of cucumber etc at meal times. It's really annoying.

The other thing I like to do is point out that I do eat normally... I eat what is necessary for survival. It's not my fault that we live in a society where gluttony is the norm! And then you look at them pointedly You'd really have to piss me off to get this answer though, lol. I've only ever used it once, and she had it coming... Oh boy, did she have it coming...

OK, I'm sorry, but that comment about your brothers made me laugh out loud at work. That's very funny (probably only the first time, though.) But, hey, brothers are supposed to be annoying. ;-) Hang in there!


As far as people's comments about starving yourself you could tell them "I am not starving myself, I have adopted a healthy eating and exercise lifestyle. By saying that I am starving myself in order to be thin implies that you think I am too stupid to know how to eat a healthy meal and get proper exercise. It's very hurtful knowing you have such little regard for my intelligence." And then walk away and leave them feeling guilty. I am pretty sure they will think twice about ever questioning your weight loss again. ;-)

Dawntodusk

This became such a problem at my office that my manager had to say something to a few of my co-workers.

I had not said anything about MFP and I had been working out twice a day and eating about 1200 calories a day. Since I had started my job I had lost 40 lbs when a few of them cornered me and started in " we are so worried" - - "we think you have a problem" ect. No matter how I tried to explain how I was eating better and how I was exercising they refused to belive that it was anything but a problem. I have never been so put down in my life. They couldn't belive that I had done this to be healthy and had done it the right way... I had to have a problem.. :-( Finally one day after berading me at lunch about what I had eaten how much I had eaten I said something to my manager who spoke to them...

A friend of mine actually got fired because her coworkers (all overweight) ganged up on her for being too thin. They said she was anti-social for not eating all the junk they brought in all the time. Apparently she didn't fit into the office "culture".

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LorinaLynn

Just tell them the truth.

"Are you starving yourself?"
"Oh, heck no! I'm just about to my goal weight, so I'm eating a normal healthy portions. But thanks for your concern."

Kill 'em with kindness.

jessicaj_824

Yes, this is very annoying. I always get the "you don't eat!" comments and my mom is one of the worst ones. It's very upsetting to me and I actually was in tears a few weeks ago talking with my mom about Easter dinner plans and trying to explain to her how she stressed me out. I watch what I eat and try to moniter my protein/sodium/sugar levels so I hate eating food that I didn't see prepared. Plus to make things even harder, I am lactose and fructose intolerant so I am very limited - esp when it comes to the food that people put out at gatherings that I can eat - usually the veggie platter is it for me At work when people DO see me eating they make a big deal out of it - "OMG Are you actually eating!" is heard multiple times. One coworker actually writes it on his calendar when he sees me eats (which that one I do find amusing. LOL). Note too that they do not consider my Luna bars or protein packed salads as actual "food". Too many American these days have the wrong idea of what "food" is. The crap most folks eat is so far from fresh/natural that it should be illegal to be called FOOD!!!!!

MoonShadow_1au

I got something similar from my mother-in-law. She was terribly upset not to be able to feed me cake and biscuits and .. and. ... and ... She stopped saying anything when I told her straight up that I was not eating "CRAP" anymore.

You have to be cruel to be kind.