OT... but omg im so mad

jackeh

It infuriates me to NO end ...

So my son who is 7 and a half, he was born at 26 weeks, he is visually impaired and including bowel and still problems with not peeing his pants durring the day and has a multitude of other problems. mentally he is about the age of a 5 year old.... Anyways... he comes home from his dads today and says to me Jodi(his dads on and off girlfriend) says that i am going to be 8 and i shouldnt be wearing diapers to bed anymore....

Like seriously WTF??? Is it her business???? Will she fork out money for a new matress when he pees the bed... OMG im so angry........ it makes me want to cry that she is forwarding HER messages through a child!!!!


ahhh i feel a little better now ... thanks for listening
jackie

jackeh

It infuriates me to NO end ...

So my son who is 7 and a half, he was born at 26 weeks, he is visually impaired and including bowel and still problems with not peeing his pants durring the day and has a multitude of other problems. mentally he is about the age of a 5 year old.... Anyways... he comes home from his dads today and says to me Jodi(his dads on and off girlfriend) says that i am going to be 8 and i shouldnt be wearing diapers to bed anymore....

Like seriously WTF??? Is it her business???? Will she fork out money for a new matress when he pees the bed... OMG im so angry........ it makes me want to cry that she is forwarding HER messages through a child!!!!


ahhh i feel a little better now ... thanks for listening
jackie

laurenk182004

Awww That is AWFUL! what a bag...she should NOT be telling a child that..if she wants to talk about it, she should definately be talking to you. Poor little thing, it probably made him feel awful...I hope that u get a chance to talk to that meddlesome jerk b4 she has a chance to say anything more to your sweet little guy.

JessicaT2007

I am so sorry! That is just so horrible for her to be telling him that! Poor little guy!

sculley

I am not looking forward to that stage. I dont know how I feel about some other woman saying anything to my son. She needs to realize that what she says has an affect on that poor child and if she plans on being in his life she needs to be uplifting and not a jerk...
Sorry hun

Ezzie

Some people just don't think before they open their mouths....sheesh! Hopefully your little guy knows that his Mom him and knows what's best for the two of them.

Glad you feel free to vent here where there's lots of loving support!!!
Ezzie

chubbymom

First off it's none of HER business. Second...maybe have a talk with dad...that is BS she said that to him.
I am so sorry...uh people are stupid sometimes...:grumble:

heartshapdworld

That is awful! Adults are supposed to make kids feel good about themselves, and ensure that they grow up confident. Adults can be so careless with the things they say. Why can they not understand that children don't have the life expierence to put into context or rationalize what they say?

(Of course, the girl was out of line and should just keep her mouth shut-there is no rationalization for what she said)

You son's father needs to know so he can have that conversation with the on again/off again girlfriend. (about your son's needs/capabilities and minding her own business!)

Okay, when it comes to protecting children, I am a very black and white kinda girl!

MumOfADuo

Where does the you know what live??? Let me at her!!! I will deck her!!! That is not right...poor little guy...oh man, the NERVE of that awful girl!!!

jlwhelan1

Is the on-off gf a pediatrician who specializes in special needs children?

If no, then she has NO say. Her ignorance is overwhelming.

Even 100% healthy boys with no medical history sometimes wet their bed until ~12 sometimes.

jackeh

thanks guys your awesome .... Its great to know that i wasnt over reacting ... :ohwell:

jackie

alifelessevident

thanks guys your awesome .... Its great to know that i wasnt over reacting ... :ohwell:

jackie

sorry to hear all that :ohwell:

laurenk182004

You r definately NOT over-reacting! I'd probably take her to some desserted place and deck her..but don't do that! lol I would seriosuly tell her she is out of line though, it is absolutely none of her business

melissa73

Wow. I would let her know that she was in the wrong to say that for sure ... But on another point maybe talk to your son about it. It may be a good time for you to have a good talk and explain to him about the goals that you can possibly set for the future. I would try to turn it around a make it into a positive than a negative. Good luck hope all works out for you and your son. Melissa

Canelitas

Sadly, there are self centered people out there who just don't care.

I'm glad you feel better :flowerforyou:

mommared53

I've been gone all day and just saw this post and wanted to put my two cents worth in. My older sister was a bed wetter. She couldn't help it. She wet the bed clear up until she was in her teens (she's in her late 50's now). Way back then I don't think people understood that kids couldn't help it. My mom certainly didn't understand it. She used to beat my sister in the mornings that she had a wet bed thinking that my sister would finally stop wetting the bed. Of course it didn't help any. It makes me almost cry even now thinking about it. Eventually she outgrew it apparently. That woman needs to educate herself on your son's condition and realize that children can't help it when they wet the bed at night. The idiiot! Does she think he just does it to get attention? That makes me mad! :explode: I'd like to deck her too!

Ok, I'm going to end my rant now.

Betty