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DFineMrsRicks

My husband and I started on our weight loss journey about mid-February. He weighed in at 264 and I weighed in at 266 (heaviest). I cannot blame my overall weight gain on having my two girls. The reason for my weight gain is due to depression. Around 2004, I was in a terrible relationship (no abuse, just cheating). By the time the relationship ended, I realized I had accustomed myself to pleasing the boyfriend. I had lost myself. From that moment on, I decided that no will ever have that power over me. But then, food slowly started having that control over me.

In 2005, I joined the Navy; I hated it. The depression started to increase because, now, the Navy was taking away from my identity. So, I found comfort in food. I felt that if I ate all the food that reminded me of home, I would start feeling like myself. With each meal, the satisfaction never came and with each pound gain the farther "I" slipped away. During this time I met my husband and I stayed with the resolution that "No man is gonna change me. He is going to have to adjust to me." Till this day, I hold true my personal philosophy.

Even with a new love, I was depressed. I was gaining all this weight (I went thru 4 uniforms in a year), I hit 200 pounds during my 1st year in the service, and I hated my job. The only thing I wanted in the world was to be me again. In the next two years, I had my first daughter and I was medically discharged out of the Navy due to foot complications (Thank God for both glorious occasions). After those two events, my depression finally began to dwindle and I wasn't anywhere near to being "myself" again. Think that's what changed things. Around this time I did a self evaluation, I realized this "me" I have been missing and looking for will never be found again. I was holding on to the past way too long. I will never be 20 years old again, have these different loves in and out of my life, and no responsibility. For about 5 years, I had been holding on to a person that will never exist again and I am happy about that! I let go of the past and focused on the future. The depression went away.

I lost about 40 pounds after my first daughter, but started to gain it back. The weight gain this time around was not due to depression, it was due to not being motivated to lose the weight. Two years later I had my second baby, July 30, 2011 (we have the same birthday). Not soon after giving birth, I reached my heaviest. In January, I talked to my husband (because he gained weight with me) we need to change and live healthier. So mid February, we started our journey. My husband has lost 23 pounds and I have lost 20 pounds.

MFP has helped a lot. Before MFP, I made a weight loss journal for my husband and myself. Once I stumbled upon MFP, I threw away my journal. MFP is easy to update and track your progress. Now the only "me" I want back are my size 6 pants! Remember; never let anyone take YOUR power away!

ClarkMer

Congrats on the weight you have already lost!

MeAfter30

MFP is great! Congrats on losing the weigh you already have and on having such a healthy attitude on things!

DFineMrsRicks

Thanks! My short term goal is 200. My long term is 125-130.