Very irritated

cbratthauer

Are you planning to offer a drink to each guest for the toast?

Yes we will have bottles of wine on the tables for the toasts, and we have kegs that are paid for, we just wanted to be able to offer something to those who didn't like beer or wine and chose to pay instead I guess to me it isn't about how much alcohol or food we served, but the fact that our friends and family get to celebrate the most special day of our lives with us!

writtenINthestars

So I am getting married in September, I have set up a website through TheKnot.com, and there are message boards on there just like here with different topics. Everytime I post something about a question or something else all I get are *****y negative feedback posts. Are all brides *****y? I try not to be but this is ridiculous. I mentioned on one that we are having a cash bar and you would have thought I was saying the world was ending! What's the big deal, I know I'm not the only one who has cash bar, and we're offering free kegs! Some lady even told me why have a nice wedding at all if I'm just going to throw etiquette out the window. Seriously? This site is so much more supportive, I feel like all I do is get attacked on that site! Like they know everything and are the all mighty brides and I'm just an idiot, sorry, this is my first wedding and I don't know the answers to it all!!!! Sorry just wanted to vent!!!

Oh my lord I hated using that site....TheKnot.com is notorious (at least around my area) for being a snotty hate fest. Some people don't understand that in different parts of the country, it's not a SIN to have a cash bar. Ugh...and during these times...many people can't afford to support one person's drinking habits at a wedding. Or dollar dances which are popular in some areas...oy....the only board I stayed on during my planning was the one specifically for my state or month. Other than that, I clicked "LOGOUT!" Good luck :flowerforyou:

turbogirl4christ

Thats crazy for people to be so mean to you about YOUR wedding!!! Glad I didnt sign up for that site when I had my wedding! They would of freaked out at me...I had my wedding at the Michigan Renaissance Festival...My whole wedding was Medieval themed and even my guests dressed in medieval clothes...it was awesome and we had so much fun!
I say who cares what they say! Do what you need to do! If they dont like that your having a cash bar then oh well...they can get over it!!! Just sayin...

heatherlh83

There's nothing worse than people freaking out over the way you want to do YOUR wedding. My husband and I got married privately and surprised everyone afterwards, expecting our friends and family to be excited for us and maybe laugh or tell us we're crazy but some of them got really pissed. We couldn't afford a wedding though and I honestly didn't want one. I couldn't care less about being the bride, I just wanted to be the wife. Either way it was pretty hurtful. We didn't intend to insult anyone, we were just doing things OUR way, which is what every couple should do-including using your perfectly acceptable idea of a cash bar. So if I were you I would just take solace in the fact that the snobby *****es on that site who were critiquing your plans are focusing more on their weddings than their marriages and are therefore much more likely to end up divorced than you are. So HA!