i think my co-workers is trying to sabotage my weight loss e

Starkle09

we make plans to walk at lunch and she ends up taking 20 minutes to get ready to go....i tell her im eating in for lunch and everyday she is asking me to go out. Its becoming really frustrating and without going into the story of my office its really hard to distance myself from her. HELP!!!

cmriverside

If you say, "My health and fitness is very important to me." There isn't much they can argue. You need to do whatever it is you need to do to achieve your goals. If that means walking alone, or eating alone, so be it.

heathersmilez

She's thinking about herself, she is NOT sabotaging you. Do what's right for you.

aflane

You can't make someone else adhere to your wellness/fitness goals. Kick her to the curb on your way out the door for your walk. And then eat your nice healthy lunch. It's what I had to do.

wewon

She's thinking about herself, she is NOT sabotaging you. Do what's right for you.

I agree.

She's not actively sabotaging you, but she is operating on her own agenda which is crossways to yours.

Operate on the premise that she's not part of your support group.

Is there some consequence of acting solo, but still being friendly with her?

makeachange22

well you can start walking to get there, and tell her you'll meet her there . and if she wants to go out then you stay in ! its your health

WifeMomDVM

My co-workers used to ask me to lunch daily. Not anymore... they already know I will say no. Sometimes they still ask to be polite, but I always say no. They don't ask much anymore. They used to kinda tease me about my healthy lunches from home. Now, they just compliment me on my weight loss.

Stick to your guns... it gets better.

jljc_2010

Boundaries, girl, boundaries....you simply say, I am leaving to walk at this time, then you leave, if she really wants to go she will be ready, if not then she has no one to blame. As far as eating out, the answer is simply no, THERE IS NO SHAME IN THAT. I have struggled with that for years, wodering why we worry about others more than we do ourselves. You have to look out for you, no one else well....You can do it!

Onesnap

stick to your guns. She sounds like the type of person to NOT spend your spare time with. At all.

mustangurl

i'm kinda in the same boat, except mine is my boyfriend. we work together and used to always go to fast-food places for lunch. i would have to try to find something half-way decent to eat (which is not the easiest thing to do) so this week i decided to start packing my lunch and just take it with us, that way he gets what he wants and i can eat healthy. but don't get me wrong, he is 100% supportive of my weight loss journey and i am 100% percent supportive of him not wanting to stay at work and eat. so, we make it work

fcrisswell

Chance are she is not deliberately sabataging you....she just isn't in the same "place" you are. She may be one of those that talks the talk....but doesn't walk the walk.

mageepilot

I would just say "I am leaving for my walk at noon, feel free to join me." Then if she's not there just go on without her. As for the eating out that happens to me too. I just tell them I brought my lunch and eating out is not in my plans for today. Saves me a lot of calories and money too! You stick to it! Don't let them sway you.

jkestens63

You can't make someone else adhere to your wellness/fitness goals. Kick her to the curb on your way out the door for your walk. And then eat your nice healthy lunch. It's what I had to do.

Agree with this, ultimately you're journey is your responsibility. If someone is not supportive, you have to maintain your distance. Tell her that the walks are really important to you and you are going to start it a 12:00 sharp, hope she's there. If she's not, walk out that door no later than 12:01. If asks to go out, say thank you for the invite, but you brought your lunch and wouldn't want to waste it. YOU are in control of what happens in your life, no one else.

k_ewilliams

Often I 'go out" for lunch with friends on breaks, I just take me home-made lunch

iverayna

If shes not willing to support you and your choice then its better to find someone that WILL support you. Some poeple just dont know how to be happy for someone so they sabbotage your success. Good luck, its really a bummer, sorry she did that..

bgeer34

I had the same problem in our office. There are 11 ladies here and 3 or 4 have been supportive from day one. Others don't care either way but there are 3 of them that actually did set out to either sabotage or just be mean with teasing. Like suddenly bringing in my favorite candy, leaving a bag of it on my end of the table and laughing about it (they didn't know I heard them), constantly asking me to go out to eat when they haven't asked me in over 2 years prior to me choosing a healthy lifestyle. Another lady here started eating healthy about 2 or 3 weeks after I did. However, they tempted her the same way and she caved in.

To show the difference.. it does get better but ONLY if you stick to your guns on what you need.... no one asks me to go out, no one teases me or leaves junk food on my end of the break table anymore. BUT the lady that was tempted.. they are still doing it to her and still laughing about it. Very sad that adults behave this way.

In the end, do what is right for you and it gets better as the others around you adjust to the new you.

Tiggerrick

You have to be nice, but firm. State what your plans are, then do them. If they get upset, just say "I told you what my plans were, tomorrow my plans are...." She's thinking about her, not you. You need to do the same, think about YOU.

ChunTingO

my co workers are getting fit too they started walking like i did and watching what they ate. Just do what you got to do cause in the end waiting for others and following them will lead you to not succeeding.