Struggling to deal with feeling alone.

lailenm

I know, I know. I'm not really alone. I have quite a few MFP and YouTube friends that are calling me an inspiration. I'm flattered by all of that, I really am. But I find myself struggling with feeling alone whenever I want to go outside and do something. I've been working out alone for a while now, and I can't quite shake the feeling that I need someone there with me - to help keep me motivated and competitive. Today, I wanted to go outside and just walk, which I'll likely still do after I finish posting this, but the first thing that came to my mind was the fact that I don't have anyone immediately around me that is as committed to the healthy lifestyle as I am. I'm moving back to my mom's soon, and I know she will be with me, but for the time being I feel very alone.

Has anyone else ever felt like this? How did you get through it?

bflicker11

I'm sorry you're feeling alone. I sometimes feel like that but that's when I force myself to call a friend. I usually allow myself one day to be miserable but that's it!! If I sit in a bad place too long, it affects my eating.

My sister put an ad on craigslist.com looking for a walking partner. They became friends and she knew she had someone for support. I also belong to meetup.com. They have activity groups that will offer tons of chances to meet others and be active. Maybe one those options can help you meet others so when you feel alone, you have someone to call.

ales1979

I find that music helps a lot when I'm feeling a bit anxious about going outside and walking around on my own. I just plug into my ears, get my shades on and go! Also I find that audiobooks or even talk radio helps a lot, then you're concentrating on whats being said and its another voice so you don't feel on your own!

Than again maybe I'm just a mad woman who would rather spend an afternoon with an audiobook than with other humans lol

Give it a try!

AngelsKisses75

Yes, I get this way at times too. It is not easy to work through it. It is possible to feel this way and have someone standing right at your side. It happens to the best of us.

Go for your walk and absorb all the beautiful things around you. From the sky to the ground and everything in between. :flowerforyou: That includes you!

kandyjo

Sorry you're feeling alone... I know that is an awful feeling...

I'm the only one around ME that is committed to working out everyday... I have people who work out with me every now and then and when they "feel" like it :laugh: And my sister lovingly calls me a "freak" because I kick my own butt even when I DON't feel like it.... But ya know, I'm ok with that... Really... I sort of laugh and am proud that I am being referred to as the EXERCISE FREAK! Seriously!! How awesome is that?!?!?! Maybe I'm just weird :laugh:

Just keep hitting it, girl... with someone... by yourself... Whichever, you are making a difference in your health and taking control over your life and your body! Hold that chin up hi!!!! FREAKS UNITE!!!! :bigsmile:

dragonbug300

That's okay, I know the feeling. I'm already at my goal weight, yet people in my life don't think that it's necessary to continue being active and eating healthy. If I want to go on a 6 mile walk, anyone I invite just gives me *that* look and calls me crazy.

It's even worse going home, though, because there is no gym and my parents hate the idea of me exercising. I feel independent when I'm alone in college, but I feel trapped when I'm alone at home.

How do I get through it? Willpower. I know what I want (to be fit, healthy, and strong) and I know what I need to do to get there (eat healthy, exercise often). That being said, it's still tough to stay on track when you feel so isolated. Just stick with it and focus on your goals.
Good luck :flowerforyou:

ceannesjourney

Hey Nika! I hope you don't mind me sharing my thoughts on this and I want you to know that the only reason I think this may help is because it helped me. If this doesn't resonate with you it's probably not the case...

For many years, I ate to numb my feelings--specifically my feelings of feeling alone or loneliness. Since I've stopped eating so much the feelings started coming back and I know that I need to "feel the feelings" so that I won't overeat them away. I know that there is nothing wrong with feelings (logically, I know that) and that letting myself feel these things and deal with the feelings is helping me stay away from overeating.

I hope this helps in any way. If it doesn't I apologize for putting it out there for you.

Take care and keep up the great work--you are doing so fabulous. And you are reaching out in so many great ways through your blog, vlog, MFP, and your Wordpress blog. We are all with you in spirit that's for sure!!

thetigerzeye

I'm right there with you. In fact my friend said he wanted to get in shape which is what prompted me to get us 7 days free at the gym. At which point I did and then all of a sudden he was "busy" ALL. THE. TIME. ... I was pissed, to say the least... ut what kept me going (so far) is the fact I told myself I'd do it and that it wasn't for him but for me. Plus all the comments I get from friends like you on mfp! ^_^ gl and know even if we aren't physically there for you, we are here and going through the same as you are just distance seperates us!

picturesing

I too work out alone, but really - I kinda like it that way. Why don't you do a search for other MFP's in your area? In Community there is a "Find Members" - click on it and put in your zip code and it will bring up peeps in your area. Just a thought!
Much luck to you sweetie! Don't forget you are NEVER alone!:flowerforyou: