i failed i ate cool whip and a jumbo muffin :'(

schnarfo

Yes, "those skinny people" can eat everything they want without having to worry and don't have to work hard to get the bodies they have. Those skinny people are skinny for a reason. But why aim for skinny? Don't you want to be healthy? You have to learn that eating half a muffin is part of a healthy lifestyle without feeling guilty about it.. A treat every once in a while won't make you fat.. it is continuously going over calories that makes you gain weight.

Skinny people can eat whatever they want and dont have to worry??? wow thats news to me! I have to work damn hard to myself in the shape I am in and I fight a constant battle everyday to try and gain weight to be a healthy size.
To the OP - its one muffin and one day. you will get over it and tomorrow is a new day, put things right then.

I can just imagine the boards responses if I posted a thread about how I hated fat people and how they were always there to remind me never to eat!
hummph its threads like this that put me in a proper bad mood.

Sezmo83

You've not failed. I ate lasagne the other night only to find out when I logged my calories that that one meal was more calories than I'm supposed to have in a whole day. I shrugged it off and got back on track the next day. It's not the end of the world

Lleldiranne

First off, take the word "fail" out of your vocabulary. Everybody has an oopsie once in a while. My husband and kids made me breakfast in bed, and I couldn't turn down french toast and sausage and OJ, especially when it was a special mother's day thing. A splurge once in a while isn't the end of your diet. In fact, if you allow yourself a little splurge like this once in a while, you'll be able to stick to a healthier lifestyle in the long run.

The only failure is failing to try again and keep going.

It's okay to recognize that you didn't respond to the situation in the most healthful way. Just don't beat yourself up for it. Look at the calories left for today and try to get them mostly from fruits and veggies and whole grains. And even if you go over a bit today, don't sweat it. Tomorrow is a new day, and it's the overall, not the one lapse, that makes the difference.

Keep going~ You can do it, and you'll be amazed and how much your lifestyle has changed in the next few months!!

kpnuts23

Not being funny but you didnt even eat 1,000 cals that day? whats to worry about? Seriously? We all have off days but if i have an off day ill go OVER by 1,000cals..

Chin up

VStar55

This isn't an all-or-nothing process. You missed the bus, felt bad, and then ate some not so nutritious food. There are going to be days when you eat something "off limits" or can't do the workout you had planned, try not to beat yourself up about it, if you're sticking to the guidelines most of the time a bad day isn't going to slow your progress.

Mtsidad

"It's because we are looking at food as a reward/penalty system rather than just fuel. "

This is so true. And the next part is "if you don't REPLACE the reward system with something else you'll go back to food for your comfort and reward."

You sound like you're tired and discouraged, and you don't have much else that makes you feel good. FOOD won't fix that.

People have given great advice on what you _could_ do to feel better, but seriously - only you know what that is.

No one here is judging you or feeling like you failed. Hey, you told us about it - that's a good thing, right?

Somehow you've let some negative parent-type live in your head rent-free. That person is telling you that eating a half-muffin makes you a failure. You can either try to avoid disappointing that voice-in-the-head, which I guarantee you you will fail at, or you can kick it out and replace it with someone who loves you and supports you.

Me, I'm OK with my successes and failures, because for ME I realized I have great power over my choices. My eating something I "shouldn't" doesn't make me bad. It just shows I still have the power to do stupid things. But my bad choices don't *make* me do them again and again.

It's good that you shared this. And while it's not wonderful that you fell down from your own high expectations, no one died, no one got physically hurt, and in the end you are still capable of treating yourself better.

You're OK the way you are. And welcome to the human family, which is full of people just like you, although lots of them won't admit it.

sockmontey

I wouldn't say it's a failure, we're all only human. For me, I typically will have a cheat day/meal once out of the week to stay sane. Stick to it and you'll get there!

Kellee_76

How did you *fail* over cool whip and HALF a muffin? How is stopping at half a failure? If I was on my way down, you can bet I'd have eaten that WHOLE muffin and probably the rest of them for good measure.

Strong language is dangerous for people who have issues with weight. You aren't "good" when you eat within your calories and "bad" when you go over. You're either "on target" of "off target." You didn't "fail" by stopping at half a muffin, silly goose! You maybe had a "set back" when you ate part of a muffin you hadn't planned on but thankfully you pulled yourself together and minimized your set back by shopping at half.

If you aim for perfection, that's how you'll fail for real. There is no such thing as perfect... and skinny people eat muffins, too. It's what you do MOST of the time that really matters. Now, shake it off and back to work