just something to say

corybo

So iam wondering why. when your loved one the one you have always been there for thru all her ups and downs. now loses all her weight guys just start popping up all around her calling her baby and stuff like that. ive called her my baby but i think it loses its meaning and feeling if shes hearing it from guys all around her. ive had alot of trouble with this as iam worried about the wandering eye. so with that said i was wondering if any of u had the same problem and or what i should be doing about this

cmriverside

Start with a different AV picture. I'm just saying, what's good for the gander.....


I tend to be a jealous person only if my significant other gives me reason to be.

Unless she is responding inappropriately, use the energy she'll get from the compliments to your benefit. It will rev up her libido to be getting the attention, and you really can't control the mens' reactions to her. Be proud of her!!

poustotah

I believe you can be a part of the story or you can listen to someone tell the story. She's lost weight apparently and you can be a part of that, or you can sit back and watch.

mare91467

How people act around her, is not important. It is how she responds to that new attention. Sometimes, after a big transformation, people change mentally. I have seen a few relationships end due to this problem. Quite honestly, a good solid relationship, will continue to be a good solid relationship. A relationship which is held together by unhealthy things, will be in jeopardy when there is a small change in the dynamic of the relationship. That has little to do with weight and everything to do with what kept you together in the first place. I have a friend who weighed 450lbs. She was married to a man that she didn't really love, but stayed with him because she thought she couldn't get anyone else. She had gastric bypass and dropped a ton of weight. Immediately, she started exploring her options and left her husband. I thought it was a vial thing to do and we are no longer friends, but it happens.

You know the saying, If you love something set it free, if it comes back to you it is yours, if it doesn't, it never was......

If you love her, let her enjoy her time and don't be jealous. If she loves you, she will stay true to you. If she doesn't, she doesn't deserve you.

greeneyed84

I am very jealous by nature BUT being with my husband for over 7 years I learned a lot from him. One being that if your SO is not goving you a reason to be jealous, don't be. It's a reflection of you, how you feel about yourself. Getting compliments makes me feel good, my hubby likes it b/c he says "they want what I have". He is very secure & knows I would never cheat on him. We talk a lot, you should try talking to her.

Pebble321

Riverside makes a good point - you have a sillouette of a thin naked woman as your profile pic, so it's clearly OK for you to enjoy looking at other women.... Not sure that you can complain if other men are admiring your wife!

The way I see it is that you and your wife are a team, if she is getting compliments then that's great, I bet she has worked hard to get there. Those other guys are probably looking at you and thinking "lucky *kitten*", how can that be a bad thing??

melham

So iam wondering why. when your loved one the one you have always been there for thru all her ups and downs. now loses all her weight guys just start popping up all around her calling her baby and stuff like that. ive called her my baby but i think it loses its meaning and feeling if shes hearing it from guys all around her. ive had alot of trouble with this as iam worried about the wandering eye. so with that said i was wondering if any of u had the same problem and or what i should be doing about this

Um, what? Never mind.