Doing it alone at home?

memaw66

I am trying really hard to do well and at work it's pretty easy. But when I get home it's a different story because my husband and my daughter who both need to lose weight are not on this journey with me. So I see them eating all the bad stuff and offering it to me. That makes it really hard. I was just wondering how the rest of you are managing these types of situations. I know I did it before when I lost 40lbs on WW but I can't for the life of me remember how I handle the situations and what my motivation was. So far these past 2 weeks I have done pretty well. I would just like some suggestions that I may not have thought of. I have bought my snacks, I have even stayed away from my favorite chips that are STILL in the cabinet!!!! That's a big test for me!!!

Memaw

memaw66

I am trying really hard to do well and at work it's pretty easy. But when I get home it's a different story because my husband and my daughter who both need to lose weight are not on this journey with me. So I see them eating all the bad stuff and offering it to me. That makes it really hard. I was just wondering how the rest of you are managing these types of situations. I know I did it before when I lost 40lbs on WW but I can't for the life of me remember how I handle the situations and what my motivation was. So far these past 2 weeks I have done pretty well. I would just like some suggestions that I may not have thought of. I have bought my snacks, I have even stayed away from my favorite chips that are STILL in the cabinet!!!! That's a big test for me!!!

Memaw

MFS27

Wow - that's hard! My husband is not on the healthy-meal-plan bandwagon (kids are too young - they have to eat what I make), but I do all the shopping, so I only buy healthy food.

However, when DH goes to the store, he will buy unhealthy things (last week he came home from Costco with a huge pack of danishes, crossiants, cookies, and huge pack of regular coke - WTH???) Oh man I was so pissed at him - but I will not touch the stuff and the kids aren't allowed it either. Most of the time he tries to buy stuff he knows I will like (cereal with flax seed, etc.) but he bombed big time last week :laugh:

So I really don't have suggestions, but wanted to say I'm in the same boat!!

Fab140

Are you the one that does the majority of the shopping? If yes, then start doing substitutions for all these naughty foods! like I started buying Baked chips, crackers, everything instead of those awesome greasy things!

Also, sit down with your family and be like, "hey, I need you to support this! I'm struggeling with having my fav foods right in front of my face. So YOUR naughty foods are going in this cabinet where I never am and they will stay there!!"

:flowerforyou: I'm sure they will be on board!

dothompson

Congratulations on your reslove, but there isn't any reason to keep junk in the house.

Throw the unhealthy food away.

You say that your husband and daugther also need to lose weight. Assuming that your daughter is an age where she can buy and prepare her own food, then they have their own battle and they will need to be ready before they can effect any positive changes. That being said you need to let them know that you need their help and that only heathy food is going to be in the house. If they want to eat junk then they need to do it outside or hide it well enough that you don't find it. I've done this with my family and they know that if I find chips, candy, cookies left around then I toss it without apology (I also don't get mad). But I am not doing them any favors by keeping non-nourishing food in the house. I'm sure they still find a way to eat junk, but now I really have to work to keep the fruit bowl filled.

sindyb9

I have older kids as well 17 year old boy and 24 year old girl (on her own now). I also keep all the bad things in the house as well. My son would offer me things all the time and my hubby would say she cant eat that and all I would want to do is eat it. :laugh: I explained to my son it was not fair that he knows that I cant eat that (I am a diabetic) to please stop offering. He said he was trying to help my will power. Teenagers :grumble: He does not do that anymore and has lost 30 pounds as well ( it kills me he lost so much faster than me). I would talk to them about how it makes you feel sometimes they are listening. :bigsmile:

nightangelstars

I am in a similar situation with my boyfriend, he needs to lose weight as well but eats unhealthy and doesn't buy healthy foods. I've basically badgered and cajoled him into exercising with me, but the food thing is still an issue so it tends to be a bit of an ongoing tug-of-war. Often I'll bring my own food over or I'll talk him into taking me to Subway instead of McDonald's, but it remains an issue and will for some time, I suspect. You just have to figure out a way to push things so that they're at least doable for you, and the people who love you will have to give a little as well, because they love you.

I hope my rambling was somewhat helpful! Keep trying!

firegirlred

I opened this post, expecting a totally different subject. But I know how you feel. Absolutely no sympathy from MIL or DH.

memaw66

I opened this post, expecting a totally different subject. But I know how you feel. Absolutely no sympathy from MIL or DH.

Were you in a different frame of mind???? Let's keep it clean lady!! LOL

Fab140

I opened this post, expecting a totally different subject. But I know how you feel. Absolutely no sympathy from MIL or DH.

Were you in a different frame of mind???? Let's keep it clean lady!! LOL

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

amylynne26

I don't have anything helpful to say that hasn't already been said... but for what it's worth I've been through this too. I finally had a complete meltdown with my husband and he decided he'd rather be married to a nice, calm (and hopefully shrinking) woman than one that had a complete tanrtrum every time she saw junkfood in the cupboards. We grocery shop together and I even raised my voice a few times in the store. Eventually he got it. :laugh:

It wasn't easy though... this is the guy who told my teenagers (his step children) "just eat all this healthy crap your mom bought and I'll get you some 'real food' " :noway: :grumble: :huh: I overheard my son say this to my daughter and I was like WTF?????

I also take the "crap" I occasionally let him buy and separate them into serving size baggies. It's almost not worth it to him when I take the bag of Doritos and spend 20 minutes counting out chips into individual ziploc bags! :laugh: I actually do that with healthy stuff too... portion control

Fab140

I don't have anything helpful to say that hasn't already been said... but for what it's worth I've been through this too. I finally had a complete meltdown with my husband and he decided he'd rather be married to a nice, calm (and hopefully shrinking) woman than one that had a complete tanrtrum every time she saw junkfood in the cupboards. We grocery shop together and I even raised my voice a few times in the store. Eventually he got it. :laugh:

It wasn't easy though... this is the guy who told my teenagers (his step children) "just eat all this healthy crap your mom bought and I'll get you some 'real food' " :noway: :grumble: :huh: I overheard my son say this to my daughter and I was like WTF?????

I also take the "crap" I occasionally let him buy and separate them into serving size baggies. It's almost not worth it to him when I take the bag of Doritos and spend 20 minutes counting out chips into individual ziploc bags! :laugh: I actually do that with healthy stuff too... portion control

You rock :happy:

amylynne26

I don't have anything helpful to say that hasn't already been said... but for what it's worth I've been through this too. I finally had a complete meltdown with my husband and he decided he'd rather be married to a nice, calm (and hopefully shrinking) woman than one that had a complete tanrtrum every time she saw junkfood in the cupboards. We grocery shop together and I even raised my voice a few times in the store. Eventually he got it. :laugh:

It wasn't easy though... this is the guy who told my teenagers (his step children) "just eat all this healthy crap your mom bought and I'll get you some 'real food' " :noway: :grumble: :huh: I overheard my son say this to my daughter and I was like WTF?????

I also take the "crap" I occasionally let him buy and separate them into serving size baggies. It's almost not worth it to him when I take the bag of Doritos and spend 20 minutes counting out chips into individual ziploc bags! :laugh: I actually do that with healthy stuff too... portion control

You rock :happy:

lol thanks Megan. I'm just glad my husband didn't leave me during this "adjustment period" :laugh:

Fab140

I don't have anything helpful to say that hasn't already been said... but for what it's worth I've been through this too. I finally had a complete meltdown with my husband and he decided he'd rather be married to a nice, calm (and hopefully shrinking) woman than one that had a complete tanrtrum every time she saw junkfood in the cupboards. We grocery shop together and I even raised my voice a few times in the store. Eventually he got it. :laugh:

It wasn't easy though... this is the guy who told my teenagers (his step children) "just eat all this healthy crap your mom bought and I'll get you some 'real food' " :noway: :grumble: :huh: I overheard my son say this to my daughter and I was like WTF?????

I also take the "crap" I occasionally let him buy and separate them into serving size baggies. It's almost not worth it to him when I take the bag of Doritos and spend 20 minutes counting out chips into individual ziploc bags! :laugh: I actually do that with healthy stuff too... portion control

You rock :happy:

lol thanks Megan. I'm just glad my husband didn't leave me during this "adjustment period" :laugh:

Sounds like we "adjust" the same way......lol

OomarianneoO

I am trying really hard to do well and at work it's pretty easy. But when I get home it's a different story because my husband and my daughter who both need to lose weight are not on this journey with me. So I see them eating all the bad stuff and offering it to me. That makes it really hard. I was just wondering how the rest of you are managing these types of situations. I know I did it before when I lost 40lbs on WW but I can't for the life of me remember how I handle the situations and what my motivation was. So far these past 2 weeks I have done pretty well. I would just like some suggestions that I may not have thought of. I have bought my snacks, I have even stayed away from my favorite chips that are STILL in the cabinet!!!! That's a big test for me!!!

Memaw

This is a serious issue right now for me too not because I'm afraid I can't control myself, but more because they see me getting healthier and stronger and really enjoying myself, but my hubby and I will get into an argument over me "forcing" my youngest to eat the veggies on his plate. And he says (right in front of my 8yr. old) how he was forced to eat veggies when he was growing up and that's why he doesn't eat them now. So of course, my son turns around and says "See, Mom, Daddy is okay, so I don't need to eat them". Oooo! It burns me to the core! The whole family says they are so impressed with how well I'm doing and almost in the same breath DH will say that they're all going to go to Sonic for Sonic Blasts!! Nowadays, I try to turn this into my own motivation, by proving to them that I am healthier, stronger, happier for making the right choices when I eat and exercising. Hopefully, they will come around. *fingers crossed*

BrandNewLaura

Luckily my family is supportive for the most part (they weren't at first but they have come around), but a few years ago when I was trying to diet (pre-MFP) and my then husband wasn't...I asked him to put all of his snacks in a special cabinet. It was over by the stove and under the counter (where you'd usually put pots or pans) so I didn't have to see his snacks...and it was much easier to resist them...

My own snacks were in my own cupboard also, and they were higher up (where you'd usually put cups and dishes) and easier to get to, so I was able to see them readily and grabbed them when I was hungry. This idea may not solve your problem entirely, but if you ask your family to keep their snacks in a special place, at least the temptation (hopefully) won't be as strong.