Secrets Should Be Told....

Fesse

I want to come back and contemplate this more. It is touching and deserves deep thought. I recently came out to my closest family a secret that I thought would change our lives forever.....and things just went back to "business as usual". In a way I felt betrayed that no one seemed to take the gravity of the situation as seriously as I had hoped....but then I wonder....what did I expect? :brokenheart:

My heart just broke for you... this happened to me too!! I wish it didn't have the same effect on you

I almost feel blamed and chastised for my wrong comings .... just please find comfort in the fact you are not alone.

DarkAngel864

I want to come back and contemplate this more. It is touching and deserves deep thought. I recently came out to my closest family a secret that I thought would change our lives forever.....and things just went back to "business as usual". In a way I felt betrayed that no one seemed to take the gravity of the situation as seriously as I had hoped....but then I wonder....what did I expect? :brokenheart:

At least you were brave enough to tell a secret to your family. Some people live their entire lives keeping a secret that is poisoning their life. Even if their reaction is hurtful, at least you have released it from your soul!!

So proud of you for taking that leap, it's a scary place and you went for it! :drinker:

Jade_Butterfly

How wonderful!!! Love it!

DarkAngel864

Ok here's mine...... We were married 20 yrs when my ex left me about 9 yrs ago. He was my best friend and my love. We parted
and I didn't see him for a few years. See we live in FL and the day he left me he moved to CO. (Its really a long story).......

Well first time I saw him a few years back was when I took our grandson to meet his mom (my ex- mother-in-law). That was the only time I saw him since the day he left back in 02.

Well he moved back to town just before Easter and everyone was like don't go see him. Well I did. I texted him and he called right back. I still love him BUT there is so many things holding me back. I want to see him and get to know him again but yet I'm scared.

When we met the other night we met at a park and talked for over an hour and as we parted ways he came over by me and hugged me. ARGH!

I don't know if I can tell others this. Most people I know that divorced departed ways badly. When we did our divorce even my lawyer asked "now why are you guys getting a divorce?"

What to do what to do?!?!?!

Wow, what an amazing story. Sometimes people are meant to be apart forever, and some for just a period of time. Just know that those who really love you will support your decision no matter how unconventional it is!

MissO﹠A

I want to come back and contemplate this more. It is touching and deserves deep thought. I recently came out to my closest family a secret that I thought would change our lives forever.....and things just went back to "business as usual". In a way I felt betrayed that no one seemed to take the gravity of the situation as seriously as I had hoped....but then I wonder....what did I expect? :brokenheart:

Sounds very familiar. ((hugs to you, love))

I told my hubster a secret. One which I held private about my childhood. I'm not sure why I never disclosed what happened. It just never came up. Anyway. After my secret was divulged, it felt like a tremendous relief. I'd like to think we're all the closer for me finally opening up with it.

In general, I'm very private and have always been. Not from specific instances of being hurt, perhaps it's more of experiences. I just find it hard to be totally trusting.

TDGee

Great site

Adelphia

In sophomore year I listened to Brokencyde. There, I said it. :embarassed:

KaizokuNoMaiku

that is the person i would like to be. do you find that people respect you or that you hurt people in the process? I get so concerned.

Yes and yes, I have noticed that at my part time job for example after helping a girl out with her (ex)boyfriend I became some sort of Dhr.Pill at my work and its funny on one side and I feel honored in a way aswell and always rewarding to be able to help a friend out or co-worker.

And yes I have hurt people, for example my sister.
I have 2 older sisters and my eldest is a great sister, mother and wife. And the younger one is just a parasite thinking the world revoles around her. Now I dont want to get into a massive family histroy lesson here but it basicly comes to this:

My mom is getting older and last year had became very weak and ill and while she is doing bttr now she still is recovering.
My oldest sister lives 5min away from us with her own family.
My dad died when I was young ( 12-13 )
And me and my other sister use to both live with my mom in a big *kitten* house.

I make a pretty penny so to speak and after my sister noticed that she starting to my mom behind my back asking if my mom would talk on her behalve to me about me paying her 600 euro's a month so she could stop working and ''enjoy life'' ( her words ).
She would also do stuff like borrow money from my mom and never pay it back or sit on her *kitten* all day long when she wasnt working and even doh my mom strugle's with the house keeping ( and my mom refusing a maid or smth like that )
and me beeing unable to help fully with that because of work she would just watch my mom work her *kitten* of while she ate some cookie's in front of the TV. Now a side form that she had a lot of other annoying things like she would behave as if she was 16 and the most important and best looking girl ever when she even got to a point of her having no more friends because of this behavior. At her last birthday the people/friends she had left who where invited didnt even show.
Or not showing up while she had to take my oldest sister to the hospital.

But my mom beeing the small and good person she is not wanting to hurt a even a fly kept telling me that she didnt want us to fight so I should just let it be. Now ofc I tried to do this for a little while to please my mom but that just didnt work for me.
And finaly after 4 months ( witch I still regret to this day for taking so long ) I snapped and told her she had 14 days to sort her stuff and get the hell out of the house. That I no longer wanted to deal with her bad behavior towards our mom and here other crap. She left after 7 days because I stopped talking to her and ignored her stone cold and she could ofc feel the massive tension between us. And after she left it was like this huge weight was lifted from our house and our family has never been closer.

Now I know it was harsh, dont get me wrong I mean kicking out your own sister isnt something you do everyday.
But after having set backs all my life after hitting 22 with people dying or just set backs money wise I decided I didnt want this annymore and would face my problems head on and resolve them and move on no mather what and I did.

Most of my family and friends think its harsh what I did aswell but they do understand my reasoning and are unable to say I made the wrong decision and respect me for beeing honest.

Damn this turned out to be pretty long SORRY FOR THE WALL OF TEXT ^^

mamijujuphat

I never really told many ...simply because..it's often stereotyped...4 years ago I was diagnosed with a form of depression...I deal with it so much better now .. there's always that social stigma involved...I find humor & working out to help me so much with it..& I still haven't told many of the closest people I know..again.. because of how they might feel about me then...don't want no pity party for me...I'm open to say it here because I don't know many peeps personally...

Raven00

I have way to many secrets that I am afraid of telling people. Because when I did open up to someone I trust they would use it
to hurt me. And I have on BIG secret right now that is killing me, and I dunno who to tell, I can't tell my mom cause she is either drunk or under the influence of something. And there's no point trying to go there.
I'm just trying to take everything day by day right now and hope I can tell one of my best friends what happened when I see her next weekend.
The ironic thing is I have such a hard tine telling people my past but someone I don't know really well will tell me their whole life story like the 3rd time I meet them, lol I have also been told I have a very trusting face?
Idk its weird when people tell me really deep stuff, Idk what to do so I just listen without judging them. And hope that helps in someway

marci355

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ZebraHead....fess up....what did you delete? I bet it was good....double dog dare ya, to put it back up!!:laugh:

koosdel

In sophomore year I listened to Brokencyde. There, I said it. :embarassed:

Yeah... kinda like Eminem on drugs.

Heather75

I read Postsecret every Sunday. Love it. Apparently I'm some kind of voyeur.

healthyjen342

what a lovely post...thank you for sharing.

SunLove8

So, all my wonderful friends know my birthday just passed, and my oldest, best girlfriend gave me a Post Secret book. If you don't know what that is, it was started by a man who lost his wife to suicide. In her parting note, she admitted to secrets she thought would make her unlovable, and felt suicide was the only way out.

Since then, he has launched his personal site, http://www.postsecret.com/, and published 3 books. Some are sad, some are funny, some are thoughtful. It is pretty common that when you receive a book like that, there may be a secret someone has left in there along the way to your hands. I flipped through and sure enough, on a gas station receipt there was a note: To the person who receives this book, I pray everyday he figures out it is me who loves him most.'

So, I propose that we do this. Open your mind and release the burden of secrets. Message me or one of your friends, or even a complete stranger and tell a secret that you want to get off your chest. Anything to make you feel more free to go on :flowerforyou:

Speechless...that really hit my heart. I am going to friend you because I love the way you look at the world...

Sumo813

I wish I could go back and re-do all of the times that leave me thinking "What if?".

SunLove8

I wish I could go back and re-do all of the times that leave me thinking "What if?".

No sense in living in regret...really. Im almost 35 (this month) I spent a nice portion of my life regretting instead of living. Today truely is a new day and a blessing. You are here on your journey to a healthy life, something had to go right Just keep going, there is a reason you are here right now.

gameovergt

no way I am giving up my secrets!

ZebraHead

Here is a very small secret (anything more and I have to lay on your couch and pay you like $200 an hour to listen):

Junior year in High School I 'stole' my very best friend's girl friend. My friend and I had been best buds for about 5 years. We had so many stories and adventures that we shared it was like we were brothers.

Well then it happened!! Somehow I left a party with his girl friend (yes I may have been drinking). Later when I drove her home that night he was waiting in her driveway.

He asked her: "WTF". To me he just stared at me dead in the eyes. We both knew what had just happened. I threw away my best friend.

Well I married that girl (saved my best friend's life). She was kind of messed up with an odd family life. After about 4 years of marriage she spoke these words: "If you don't give me what I want, I'll make your life a living hell". That was one of her good days.

I wanted out then (but you can't do that) but I stayed for another 6 years.

In the eleventh year - one night with a pillow in my hand I decided I didn't like the way she was breathing... But I didn't harm her, the next day I moved out.

My best friend and I never spoke again after that night in high school. I went to our 25 year reunion - we spoke, he had married a girl from our group back in the day. It was good to see him but there was nothing there just a guy I used to know.

I got a christmas card from him after that (don't know how he found me). He had divorced his wife.


The end...

Sonofabiscuit2

During a time of great pain in my life I posted on post secret. My heart was being ripped apart through the process of divorce. I had nobody to share with, it was a why me moment. Do I posted "despite all the pain she caused I still love her". It's true to this day but I cannot be married to her, because I respect myself too much.

Inkedsquid

Here's my secret.....I dated a guy for 3 years and never told him I loved him because the velocity of the word has always frightened me. He died 2 1/2 years ago and I still cry almost every day because I never told him how much he meant to me. No one knows how much this eats away at me and how much it haunts me (and always will.) I hope he knew.

xXxKayleighxXx

Here's my secret.....I dated a guy for 3 years and never told him I loved him because the velocity of the word has always frightened me. He died 2 1/2 years ago and I still cry almost every day because I never told him how much he meant to me. No one knows how much this eats away at me and how much it haunts me (and always will.) I hope he knew.

I am absolutely positive that he knew. It is the things we do that let people know we love them. Words can be spoken easily...actions make the difference xx