Those little comments can really encourage...

messyhare

I really, REALLY love myfitnesspal. It is amazing to me that counting calories & regular exercise is honestly the weight loss ticket! After so many fad diets, losing & then gaining - I feel confident that this simple equation is really going to help me reach my goal of losing 100lbs.

One aspect I have so appreciated is the "friend" one. The little comments on my "accomplishments" - coming in under my calorie goal (which IS an accomplishment considering what I used to eat was probably DOUBLE my calorie allotment), logging my exercise (again, quite the accomplishment when you consider I rarely exercised prior to this!) and commenting on my random thoughts - all of these are SO encouraging.

My question and reason for posting this whole topic is: How do I find friends that are truly supportive?? I request "friends" that either have obtained my same goals or that are in the process of it. Often times these ones have disclaimers regarding the friends they will accept. I am told I need to include a message with the request or it will be declined. I am told that I will need to comment regularly or will be deleted etc. etc. I follow the "guidelines" only to find that I am the only one being supportive! I will comment on each and every person that I have in my list, on a regular basis because I am so aware of how encouraging it is to have those silly little comments! Most of the time it is one sided.

I am frustrated because I really do need support! I have lost over 30lbs and have a good 70lbs more to go. What do I need to do to get more supportive friends?

oxavecamourxo

I don't really have any advice for you because I have a lot of friends that don't comment on any of my stuff, but I will gladly be your friend! I try to comment on a lot of people's accomplishments. We can encourage each other!

Kirstie_C26

il support u i comment on all my friends posts and go bak through the posts if ive been out at work, so i can keep up with acheivements etc

achampionsheart

i love to encourage people...i will add you

AllyV0621

I'm not perfect, but I'll do my best to be a supportive friend!

Cccaroline

I agree, it's really encouraging. I respond to all my friends' main achievements every day, but find only a few of mine reciprocate. I am from England but many of my friends are from the US. I also would like more really encouraging friends. Feel free to add me if you like:)

rfcollins33

I comment, if not one each accomplishment, on at least one. That's because I don't want to just go down and put generic remarks. I like to comment on ones I actually have thoughts one, like if someone burned 500 or 600 cals, it sticks out to me and I want to praise them and tell them great job. But, I know what you mean about it becoming one-sided. It doesn't bother me though, I just keep going and keep praising my friends. The only way I'd delete them is if they were bringing negativity onto my page.

oh yeah, feel free to add me!

messyhare

Well I sure do appreciate the messages and friend requests!

After posting this I kind of felt a bit silly but at the same time I really want to lose this weight for good. I will do whatever it takes even if it means begging for support

Life0nMars86

I will be your friend I do my best to be supportive and comment as I know how much it can mean as well. It's hard when you feel like a friend isn't equally supportive. :flowerforyou:

MzBug

Yes they do! Those friends that take the extra time to 'check up' on people that have been not so active really help! Yes I am talking about YOU! So many people come and go on this site without warning it is great when you find a friend that actually sticks around and lets you know they are actually paying attention. Thanks for being my friend!