I am so angry about this post, I felt compelled to share it.

petithamu

I really thought about whether or not to share this...but I am so angry about it...I know it can be tough trying to lose weight in an Asian culture (lucky for me, I grew up in the west...) but this is just over the top, ridiculous, most damaging message for young and old Asian girls all around.

My brother sent this to me because he was appalled by what he read. This is written by some D list celebrity in Taiwan known as 'Petite S' on weight loss. This is basically her 'Mantra' to 'fatties' as she called them in her rant about weight loss. I read it and I am so furious by the message she sends out, I felt obligated to share and ***** about it. This is clearly what is wrong with many Asian girls!!! This is why I am glad that I was raised in the West and have always been told by my peers to 'accept my body' and 'stay healthy the best way you know how'. This kind of message is so incredibly damaging, especially to young girls and should not be allowed. Why is she still on tv? Why is she promoting some diet programme? God she should be shot...anyway, I did my best translating the lot...

小S的減肥語錄：(Petits S's diet mantra):

★ 胖子沒資格吃！ 等你瘦了再說。Fatties don't deserve to eat. Wait till you're skinny to eat.

★ 你們給我挺住，都別吃。 都那麼肥了怎麼還有臉吃！Fatties better hold off, stop eating completely. You're so fat, you think you should be eating?

★我跟你說，這是個殘酷的社會。 你別以為有真本事怎麼著，外表更重要。 Let me tell you, this is a cruel society. Just because you think you're talented or smart, it means nothing. Physical appearnce is the most important thing.

★ 女生一定要愛自己。 你就記住：胖子沒前(錢)途！ 你再有本事心地再好，也是只是個好胖子。 Girls should love yourselves. Fatties have no future. You can be great at something but you are still a fattie.

★ 不管年紀，漂亮是必須的。 減肥也沒有藉口，你能把自己吃肥就一定能瘦下來。 30多歲的女性應該比20歲女生更有智慧，你應該知道這個社會對女性多挑剔。 必須瘦，不要想太多。 Doesn't matter what age, being pretty is necessary. There is no excuse in dieting. If you can eat yourself fat, you can lose weight. 30 something women should be smarter than 20 something girls. You should know how critical the society can be to women. You must be skinny, stop thinking about it.

★減肥關鍵就是餓，運動是最沒用的，最多是輔助。 但你想靠運動瘦下來，不可能。 The key thing in dieting is hungry. There is no use in exercising, that's just support. If you want to lose weight by exericing, it's not possible.

★ 沒人能幫你，只能靠自己。 如果你不想我喊你胖子就從現在開始別吃了。 喝水吧就，餓就去睡覺。
No one can help you, you can only help yourself. If you don't want me to call you a fattie, stop eating. Drink water and go to bed hungry.

★ 如果你和我說你不能忍餓問我怎麼辦，我只能說那你別減了。
If you say to me, what if I can't handle the hunger, then I'm telling you to give up.

★ 你們要自己加油。 要證明給自己和一些傻X看。 就算以前是胖子也會有瘦下來變漂亮的一天。
You have to push yourself. Prove to yourself and other idiots. You can be a fattie in the past but you will be a skinny beauty one day.

★ 要瘦一定要付出代價的。 怕吃苦的太嬌氣的就不要開始了。 沒有好方法，就是忍。 不要問我怎麼忍，就是不要去吃。
You have to sacrifice to be skinny. If you can't cope with it then don't start. There are no secret, just deal with it. Don't ask me how to deal with it, just stop eating.

★ 大S是一天一香蕉吃3個星期。 所以你看，就是要忍。 為什麼別人能你就不可以？
My sister (Big S) once ate 1 banana a day for 3 weeks. See, you just have to deal with it. If others can do it, why can't you?

★ 看美女一個個活得更滋潤，為啥？ 美女漂亮自然一呼百餘輛車接送，任她挑選。 你吶？ 拖著臃腫的身軀和妄圖隱藏肥胖的厚厚大衣擠公交車？ 還是自己在大冷天只能冒著漂移的危險慢慢開車遲到？
You see a beautiful girl living the life, why? Beautiful girls can take a breath and people would be showering her with fancy cars, her choice. And you? You're fat and you're trying to hide all of your flaws and you're taking public transportation. You have to bear the coldness and drive your own damn car and be late?

★ 其他女人都能瘦下來你為啥不行！ 你是白痴嗎？ 你天生就該當肥豬嗎？
If other women can be skinny, why can't you? Are you an idiot? Are you meant to be a fattie?

★女人不對自己狠心,男人就會對女人狠心。
If you are not harsh on yourself, men would be harsher on you.

★ 你難道就喜歡別人對你不堪入目的身材指指點點？ 就喜歡看著自己喜歡的男生被自己厭惡的女生搶走？ 就喜歡每天對著肥大的褲子把自己粗壯的腿塞進去？ 就喜歡夏天穿個包得死緊的衣服大汗淋漓走在烈日底下？ 就喜歡身邊的臉很醜但很瘦的女人穿著你穿不進的美衣？ 體重3位數的女人沒有未來！ 只有對自己狠一點！
Do you like others pointing out all of your flaws? Do you like seeing someone you like stolen by someone else? Do you like wearing big pants trying to stuff your own gigantuous thighs in? Do you like wearing lots of clothes on a hot summer day and sweating profusely? Do you like some ugly but skinny girls next to you wearing clothes that don't fit you? There is no future for girls into 3 digit (in kilos) mode. You have to hard on yourself!

★ 不瘦下來不准買新衣服！ 不瘦下來不准再做頭髮！ 你就一直做一個穿過氣衣服的土的掉渣的死胖子吧！
If you're not skinny, you can't buy new clothes. If you're not skinny, you can't get your hair donw. You only deserve to wear old season clothes, fattie!

★ 控制不住嘴巴的人就別鬧騰著減肥！ 這不是純噁心人嗎！ 活該！ 死胖子！ 活該你這種人就只能對著那些XS的美衣流淚！ 夏天要到了！ 你那像腿就別自討沒趣地穿裙子了！ 你就不怕有人在背後悄悄驚嘆你的勇氣麼！ 我比你瘦！ 比你努力！ 你活該這麼醜！
If you can't control your mouth, stop talking about dieting. You deserve, you damn fattie. You deserve to cry when you see those pretty XS girls wearing pretty clothes. Summer is almost year, stop kidding yourself and wear skirts. Aren't you afraid that people will be laughing at your 'courage' behind your back? I'm skinnier than you, I work harder than you, you deserve to be this ugly!

★ 有男朋友的胖子！ ***再長肥你男朋友就不要你了！ 你當他說你胖胖的很可愛！ 說你體型剛好是真的啊！ 你是沒長腦子還是咋的！ 你男朋友要170CM200J你看著可愛不！ ！ ！
Fattie with boyfriends. If you keep getting fatter, your boyfriends will leave you. He may say you look 'chubby' and is quite cute, saying your body is 'just right'. Are you retarded? If your boyfriend was 170cm and 200kg, do you think that's cute?

★ 沒男朋友的胖子！ ***為什麼沒男朋友知道嗎！ 你張這樣誰要你啊！ 現在外貌協會的男人遍地都是！ 你看看大腿上的肥肉！ 小腿上的肌肉！ 你是青蛙還是癩蛤蟆啊！ ！ ！ 你看看你那肥死人的胳膊！ 你怎麼不去當相撲啊你！
Fatties without boyfriends. Why don't you have boyfriends? Who would want you if you look like that? There are plenty of men out there who only see physical appearance. Your so fat, there's fat on your legs, fat on your calves, you are a frog or a toad? And your fat arms, why don't you become a sumo wrestler?

★剛被男朋友甩的胖子！ 哇哈哈哈哈哈！ 你終於被甩了啊！ 你男朋友是只吃只拉的造糞機你也想甩了他是吧！ ！ ！ 還在痛苦裡暴食？ ！ 那你就等著下個男人也甩了你吧！ ！ ！
Fatties that just got dumped by their boyfriends. WAHAHAHAHAH, you have finally been dumped! Your boyfriend was a pathetic fool and you want to dump him, too! But you eat for comfort! So you can just wait for the next guy to dump you, too!

★吃？ 你有資格吃麼？ 有臉吃麼？ 不覺得自己噁心麼？ 還想不想要臉樂？ 還想不想讓內些看扁你的人大吃一驚？
Eat? You have no right to eat! You have no face to eat! Don't you think you're disgusting? Don't you want the ones who looked down on you to be surprised?

★ 美，瘦了一點有什麼用啊，才不要聽別人虛情假意的說，你好像瘦了一點。 瘦一點有什麼用，听就要聽別人說，哇啊！ 你好美哦！ ！ ！ 那樣才是美得冒泡。
Beauty. Just losing a little bit of weight is nothing. Don't believe others when they say, 'you have lost a little weight'. What's the point of losing a little weight? They have to say 'you look beautiful!' That's what counts!

★要瘦就得付出代價受不了就繼續在胖子行列混，反正世界上胖子這麼多，也不差你一個。
If you want to be skinny, you have to sacrifice, if not, why don't you continue to be a fatty. I mean, there are loads of fatties in this world, you're not the only one.

★愛吃的女人！ ！ ！ ！ ！ 多愛吃吖，少吃一口，能怎樣，能死麼？ 多沒吃過東西吖，從小到大，虧著你了麼？ 怎麼就那麼不要臉，吃吃吃，看看自己的肥臉，你有什麼資格吃！ ！ ！ ！ 死肥婆！ ！ ！
Food addicts! You like to eat? If you eat less, you're not going to die, it's not like you've never had food before. Look at your fat face, you don't deserve to eat, you fat woman.

★ 一個人連自己食慾都控制不住，還跟牲口有什麼區別？
If you can't control your own appetite, how are you different from animals?

★ 要么瘦！ 要么死！

★照相不敢咧嘴笑是吧！ 褲子不敢穿淺色的是吧！ 這就是胖子最大的悲哀！ ！ 你知道那些瘦子為什麼比你瘦嗎！ 因為在努力勸你吃點東西照顧身體的時候，她自己卻找藉口盡量不吃！ ！ ！ 就算吃了也是素，而且象徵性地一點！ ！ ！
You're afraid to smile when taking a photo, right? You're afraid to wear light colored pants, right? That is the saddest part about being a fattie. You know why the skinnies are skinner than you? Because when they are persuading you to eat to take care of your body, they are finding excuses not to eat! If they do not, it's always vegetarian.

★沒辦法！ 人家瘦子！ 胃小！ ！ ！ 再不克制就一輩子羨慕別人吧！ ！ ！
Oh well, they are skinny, they have a smaller stomach. If you don't practice some self control, you can just be envious of others for the rest of your life.

★ 飯量再控制，少吃一口，能怎樣，能死麼？ 她們吃是有資本，你個死胖子，當你沒瘦下來時，只有忍餓的份，你不對自己狠，別人就對你狠！
Control your rice intake. Stop eating so much, it's not like you'll die. They can eat cuz they're skinny. You're fattie, until you lose the weight, you have to cope with hunger. If you're not hard on yourself, other will be harder on you!

★ 當你對美好身材的渴望遠遠大於你對食物的渴望，你就可以成功減肥。 減不下來那是因為你對美麗的渴望還不夠強烈。
When your desire for a hot body is stronger than your desire for food, then you will succeed in dieting. You can't lose weight because you don't want to be beautiful bad enough.

★ 一個女人如果連自己的體重都控制不了，何以掌控自己的人生！
If you, as a woman, cannot control your own weight, how are you going to be in control of your own life?

★ 其實在你想放棄的那個瞬間，告訴自己再堅持一下再堅持一下，也就過去了。
Just when you're about to give up, tell yourself, it's just a little bit more, just a bit more, then it'll pass.

Worst part is people on Facebook actually 'LIKED' the post and is promoting this message to others! God I'm so mad...

LookN2Lose15

★ 女生一定要愛自己。 你就記住：胖子沒前(錢)途！ 你再有本事心地再好，也是只是個好胖子。 Girls should love yourselves. Fatties have no future. You can be great at something but you are still a fattie.

When I was in the navy [MANY] years ago, I was on the "fat boys" program because I had blossomed from 120 to 187 pounds in a year. Weekly, I was "counseled" on my weight leading me further into a depression and the weight only packed on more. A warrant officer that was doing my counseling said this same thing to me. It INFURIATED me! The day he said that to me was the day that I decided the Navy was not for me. I was eventually discharged for being "Obese" and did eventually lose the weight on my own. People that have opinions like this really need to look in the mirror [The warrant officer was no fitness prize]. He told me I would never amount to anything because "fat people don't get advanced and hired in the workforce!" Hmmmm...Now a nurse and have been doing it for many years and weight has never been an issue in "advancement". laugh

WanderLaura

I feel sorry for the person who wrote that.... she has to feel really badly about herself.... Don't let it get you down!! We're here to support you along the way!! You're beautiful and wonderful just the way you are! Make sure you always tell yourself that!! The reason you're losing weight: to be healthier!!

tammyquinnlmt

That is pretty awful. But I think the writer must loath herself and takes it out on the "fatties" around her. You know be mean so you can feel better thing. HOrrible!

jo_bel

When I see this kind of thing it makes me angry too. That and kind of sad. I agree that this is ridiculous.

petithamu

I was absolutely gobsmacked when I read it. I just cannot believe she is a celebrity and a spokesperson for some diet program!! I was so livid!

MissAnjy

I had to stop reading about halfway through. Seriously. This is appalling. This type of rant is exactly why we have young girls dying of eating disorders, starving themselves, binging & purging. I couldn't stand to read any further. This "woman" is ignorant and is completely uneducated about diet and nutrition, obviously. It's sad really. She definitely shouldn't be supported in her judgements, I can say that much. I'm disgusted, truly DISGUSTED.

kykykenna

WOW. Someone blessed her with the ability to be thin.....but definately passed over her in the brains department. And the compassion department. And the ethics department..........Sad how shallow she is, really. You almost have to feel sorry for her. Pathetic. Just my opinion. Stay healthy, my friends!:)

LookN2Lose15

When I was in the navy [MANY] years ago, I was on the "fat boys" program because I had blossomed from 120 to 187 pounds in a year. Weekly, I was "counseled" on my weight leading me further into a depression and the weight only packed on more. A warrant officer that was doing my counseling said this same thing to me. It INFURIATED me! The day he said that to me was the day that I decided the Navy was not for me. I was eventually discharged for being "Obese" and did eventually lose the weight on my own. People that have opinions like this really need to look in the mirror [The warrant officer was no fitness prize]. He told me I would never amount to anything because "fat people don't get advanced and hired in the workforce!" Hmmmm...Now a nurse and have been doing it for many years and weight has never been an issue in "advancement". :laugh:

godroxmysox

That is insane! I think the saddest part is that the person who said these awful things....actually believes they are true =(

warmachinejt

Well I read like half and this is like a 10 year old girl wrote it, and I don't mean because of the little translation errors. If you only drink water, your body will eventually give up. There are no nutrients from water, no carbs, protein, or fats...No antioxidants, iron, calcium....

LookN2Lose15

My spill about the navy was suppose to go with my quote...I guess I haven't figured this thing out yet LOL~!

Heather75

What the f...

petithamu

Well I read like half and this is like a 10 year old girl wrote it, and I don't mean because of the little translation errors. If you only drink water, your body will eventually give up. There are no nutrients from water, no carbs, protein, or fats...No antioxidants, iron, calcium....

I tried to translate it as close as to the way she said it because it was so choppy and my Chinese is really not as good as before...but when it's in Chinese, it reads even more like some young girl rant and this 'girl' is in her 30s!

michelleion

All I can say is oh dear... It's a real shame people actually listen to this crap, too

sandybeach11

Wow! Tough read...

amaried621

I didn't even need to read all of it. Obviously she is a moron because she said that exercise doesn't help you lose weight. Not that she had any validation in the first place, but after seeing that, she's officially a total moron. And to refer to people as 'fatties' is just unnecessary. She's a ***** to put it simply.

camille45

this is horrible!

AlwaysWanderer

Unbelivable... and very very sad...

Shawneea

She may have what it takes to be a celeb but, she d#@* sure doesn't have what it takes to be a human being.

soontobeslim92

I am so horrified by what i just read - rants like that are so un called for - People come on here for a sense of community not to be bullied!

I hope whoever wrote that feels deeply disgusted for the way they treat others MY MANTRA is Be kind to others n they will be kind to you – Well that’s one of them anyway

GIRLS AND WOMEN AND FOR THAT MATTER EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL THE WAY THEY ARE Yes some people feel the need to change to make them selves feel better and that’s fine but Harmful Slander can lead to people feeling totally alone – I know my best friend tried to kill themselves because they couldn’t take anymore

Grimmerick

Must be miserable to have to be perfect all the time.........basically because no one is perfect so she is just a failure all the time, judging people makes her feel better.

heathersmilez

Of course that was idiotic but I found one thing I liked;

"When your desire for a hot body is stronger than your desire for food, then you will succeed in dieting.”

It's the same thing as saying "Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels". It doesn't necessarily encourage healthy eating but for those of us doing well and know all about a balanced diet and nutritional requirements but have the willpower of a newborn we need to say tough things sometimes.

VixFit2011

this just blew me away! I pray that nobody here on my fitness pal let's that little wench influence them.

shannonpatton

Wow

Cathy92

I'm Canadian and spent a year in Japan in 2001 and travelled throughout Korea, China, Thailand. I made many wonderful Asian friends. But, I do understand the sentiment about weight over there. It's pretty awful. There are many anorexic girls in Japan as they will just eat vermicelli noodles and nothing else. It is unacceptable to be fat there. First of all, they don't understand it. In Japan it's kind of hard to end up fat with the diet most people eat. My friends (older ladies) had no concept of what a 'diet' is . They seem to think that all westerners are on a 'diet'. Not sure why. Since most everyone is thin, you're kind of an outcast if you are fat. Also, they are focused on a 'youth' culture...ie. schoolgirl fetishes. so if you are not young, pretty, you're kind of ignored.
I love my Japanese and Korean friends, but at times they might sound 'rude' with some of their comments and questions. I really don't think they mean to be. Diet, divorce is all outside their experiences and they are curious. I mean the previous generation was focused on not 'starving' (during WW2)....also 1960-70's in Korea.
The song is a bit silly as the writer knew she would insult people and obviously wanted to or didn't care. She's making a name for herslef. Asian girls struggle with a lot of things in their lives. It's too bad this is adding one more to their list.

soccermum75

Well, i don't even know where to begin. i could not even finish reading the whole thing because it was such $%^&^. i just find it sad that unfortunately that's what a lot of asians come to believe.

Being asian myself ( I know you can't tell from my pic) I know the pressure to be thin. The first thing my mom usually says to me is not hello, it's: you are fat. you should lose weight.:mad: I remember when I started losing weight, my sisters had told my mom about it and when she first saw me, she just took off my coat ( it was winter) to see how much weight I had lost. She asked me what I was doing to lose weight and I only said I jump around. She told me that I should continue jumping around a lot more. SAD :noway:

I remember being a teenager and my asian friends would comment on how little they weighed (about 90-95 lbs wet) but then are only 5 feet tall max. I am friggin' 5 feet 4 and i thought I was fat at 109 lbs. I am a giant by asian standards, there is no way i can weigh less than 100lbs.:grumble:

I too am happy that I grew up in the West ( is Canada considered west ???) and have been able to make my own choices. Yes I am overweight, but I assume it. I carry well my weight even when I was 181lbs. I packed on the pounds with my pregnancies but I have no regrets. My husband loves me at any size and never put pressure on me to lose weight.

I really admire you for being strong in your opinions. Don't let this ruin your day.:flowerforyou:

locomotion

She may have what it takes to be a celeb but, she d#@* sure doesn't have what it takes to be a human being.

Ditto!

kirstiey

Cathy thank god for someone with a bit of sensitivity here.

Yes the interview is pretty horrendous, but the sweeping reference to Asian people shocked me almost as much. i am guessing it was the anger, which I understand.

Through all the garbage she does have a few minor points I agree with....Being fat is often down to a lack of self control. It is for me and my larger friends. It is our fault we are fat and we could do something about it. Other people are thin because the do things differently to us. (Obviously I don't include those with illness here).

But........It is difficult to have that control as we live in a Westernised society driven by capitalism and greed. All the food we can ever want and eat, prepackaged, available, society norms which allow us to eat when we feel like it. Food interlinked with entertainment and snacking...then all bound up in a society which says thin is beautiful and means success, which then leads to a cycle of depression which makes us eat more. It is a cruel joke.

most of what this woman says is attention seeking crazy drivel, but I understand where she is coming from, even if I cannot condone her insane methods of achieving it!

anna441

OMG So mean and disgusting ...how can one think being fat is the end of the world..

I was so disgusted, I stopped reading half way thru...... I think this so called celebrity needs mental help.

petithamu

It's really crap like this that made me move away from Taiwan. I grew up in the States and when I went back to live in Taiwan in 2005, I was bombarded by comments about how 'fat' I was even thought I was around 128lbs. I hated every time I turn on the tv, every channel is advertising 'skinniness' and diet products. Everywhere I went I was being judged because I was 'bigger' than most girls. I had to buy large size clothes because their Small is size 0 and a large is equivalent to a small size 6. I couldn't eat normally because my mom controlled my food so I can be thin and be 'normal' as she called it. My grandmom said no one will ever marry me because I'm 'always a little fat'. Shop clerks won't let me try on their clothes because 'we don't have your size and you will stretch out our clothes if you try them on.'

I think it's really hard for westerners to understand unless you've lived in that culture long enough. If any shop clerks made that comment above to anyone in California, you'd sure someone would've been sued for discrimination or at least a can of whoop *kitten* would be called in order. But in Asia, it's allowed, almost expected! I've asked my mom before, how come my foreign friends don't have to 'be thin' to be normal, my mom has actually said, 'because they're foreign girls and they will always find some foreign guys that will like them. You want to attract a nice Asian man so you have to be thin'. Well, I shut her up when I started dating everyone BUT Asians...

I've never been so unhappy except for the time I was in Taiwan. I was the thinnest I've ever been but I was sad because I was hungry, all the time! My mom used to hide food around the house and there will be no food after 6pm. I used to sneak out of the house in the middle of the night to get food from the local 7-11 and throw away the evidence. I've taken diet tea, I've taken diet pills, I've been on 500kcal a day and although I was thin, I was just damn sad. My mom used to say to me, 'if you want to be thin, hunger is to be expected. If you're feeling hungry, that means you're burning calories!'

I understand a lot of Asian females are not educated about weight loss and they only want quick fixes so I think it is even more important to spread the good messages. A while ago, there was a blog written by another Taiwanese girl, who is not a celebrity, just another girl. She weighed 180lbs at 5'2 and she exercised and ate healthy and took her a full year to lose the weight. She promoted weight training, she promoted eating 5x a day and shockingly, she promoted eating carbs! Her blog entry got no press, no one 'commented' on her loss, no one even cared! But gibberish like the one I posted gets to be on Chinese news site? Stupid girl like 'Petite S' gets a show AND a sponsorship? God it just irks me so much!

Sorry..I'm ranting...I just really wish I could show my Asian friends that the healthy way to do it is the way to go but even them, who's witnessed my weight loss first hand, don't believe that I did it the healthy way. They are still convinced I starved myself to get this way! It almost feels like they just refuse to believe the truth....