Bone structure

sreimer07

I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this or not, but i was I have a question. My boyfriend told me last night that because i have a big bone structure I'd be lucky if after losing the weight I want I fit into a size 14. How he came up with the idea i have a big bone structure i have no i dead. But my first goal is to get to 175. and Eventually to 150. At being 150lbs would it be possible for me to fit into a size 14?

i hope this makes sense

BrennaDS

I don't think that this is unreasonable at all. I wouldn't worry about that at all! It is good to consider your frame when you are choosing your goal weight, just to make sure you're not aiming too low so you remain healthy. I've wondered about this to before and after looking into I discovered this "formula" which is said to be created by doctors:

For women with an "medium" sized frame
5 feet = 100 lbs.
each additional inch = 5 more pounds

so for me at 5'5" this would mean (around) 125 lbs.

10 percent of 125 is 12.5 pounds so:
for a "smaller" frame you can subtract 10% which would mean 113 pounds
for a "larger" frame this would mean 137 pounds

ANewLucia

I was tickled when I read this...hmmm how did he figure out you had a "big bone" structure. I mean sometimes you can see a person with a small frame or a larger frame and make that comment I guess. But, are you short or tall? I ask because I am 5' 7.5" and 156lbs and can fit in a tight 6 or loose 8. At 150lbs I am a loose 6 tight 4 and at my goal of 147lbs a loose 4...no those are sizes for New York and company slacks...just weird how different stores different sizing...

Anyway, said all that to say, unless you are very short, I would say you should more than be able to get into a size 14 even at 175lbs...

snowy_sk

UK size 14?

keb80

I've heard that if you measure the circumference of your wrist, there is a calculation to figure out if you are bigger framed versus smaller. I don't think there is a way to tell just by looking at the way your body is now. I think its perfectly reasonable to fit into a size 14 at 150lbs. I'm not sure what height you are but I'm at 153 and my pants size is lower than 14. Don't let him discourage you!

B140

You can get online and find a frame size calculator. It usually involved measuring your wrist, so have a tape measurer. I am 5ft7 and have a large frame. The lowest size I was able to wear as an adult was a size 10 and I was 140lbs. I am gonna get down there again and maybe with the way pants sizes have changed over the years I'll be able to wear an 8. :P It's just a number, though, the great thing is that your clothes fit well and flatter you instead of just covering you up, whatever the size.

lestahling

Bone structure and other gentic factors definately does play into size... For example, my mom, at her lightest weight when she was young, weighed 128 lbs, but the smallest size she wore was a 10, just because that's how her body was built. I have a friend who is my age who weighs around 130 lbs, but in contrast, she wears a size 5.

I wouldn't worry too much about what size you are going to wear... it is just a number. When you lose the weight and are fit and toned you will look great regardless of the number on your pants.

tasoconnor

How tall are you? and what is the size of your wrist? I believe these two measurements should help you determin this. I am 5'6" wrist is 7". At 165lbs I fit into a size 12 loosly. My plan is to get back into those.

Atlantique

If this is any help, at 5'7" and 173, I was in a 12-14. Now, at 151 I am back into my size 8s.

(And yes I'm female--don't mind the avatar).

picturesing

Oh honey....boys just don't get it sometimes.....at 150 you'll be into anywhere from size 6 - 10 depending on your height. I'm 5'4", weigh 215 and am in a size 16.....YOU are gonna be amazed.
Here's a hint - build a wall against NEGATIVITY - just don't let neg thoughts or comments into you psyche!!!!!!

sdirbder

I have wide hips for someone my hieght 5 3. I weight 154 now and fit into a size 10/11 depends on the brand.

momma3sweetgirls

it really has to do with your body shape too. I'm 139.5, 5'5"and can now wear a size 8 pant. I think I must have really wide hips!

morganadk2_deleted

i'm 5'4" 159 lbs and wear an english size 12 !

sreimer07

i'm between 5'7 and 5'8

Losingitin2011

That is so frustrating. I figure I will likely never be a size 8 again because I am a large frame, but you know, that's my determination to make, not anyone else's. Just let garbage like that go in one ear, and right out the other. How would he feel if you told him he'd never fit into some of his old pants again?

Peanutmanda

I am 5' 8" I have a big bone structure, (google how to measure your elbow bone.)

I am still 170 right now, and i am a size 11 currently.

Of course it matters how you carry your weight but, i doubt you have a big enough bone structure, to make it so you can't get under a size 14...

Atlantique

i'm between 5'7 and 5'8

Then honey, when you hit 150, you give those 14s to your boyfriend to wear because they will be falling off you!:bigsmile:

sreimer07

Lol thank you all so much. It actually really hurt that he said it. He knows how much this means to me. I dont think it helps that it seems he's gaining what i'm losing

baisleac

Frame size "calculator" using wrist circumference: http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/imagepages/17182.htm

Down and dirty method - Take your thumb and middle finger on your dominant hand and wrap them around your other wrist (don't squeeze tightly, just wrap your fingers). If they overlap, you have a small frame, if they just touch, you have an average frame, and if they don't touch you have a large frame.

That said, women's sizes suck almost as much as BMI as a measurement. They're only good as a very rough estimate and to show relative drop.

BeetleChe13

I hope he wasn't saying that to get you down. There are so many factors other than body frame such as body fat and how your body decides to distribute it. I'm 5'3"ish, weigh 124, and I wear a size 8! My hips are just huge bc of my baby-making genes. :P I don't think you'll know til you get there hon, so try to prove him wrong. Lol. I'm sure you'll look great no matter what size you wear.

BeetleChe13

Sorry, I forgot to mention that I have a small bone frame. Jean size doesn't matter to me: being healthy does!

RBXChas

I am calling shenanigans on any wrist measurement vs. height for determining your bone structure size. I gained a lot of weight very quickly during pregnancy, and even after losing a chunk of weight well after my post-partum weight settled, the watch I wore pre-pregnancy (probably 30 pounds ago) is really tight on me. It used to be loose. So at my highest weight (even well after I gave birth and lost all that initial weight) it would probably tell me I had an extra-large frame whereas when my weight is "normal," those tests would tell me I have a medium frame. Yes, you can gain weight in your wrists!

While I think it's true that some people have larger frames than others, there's no need to focus on it. You (not you in particular, a general "you") may fit into a size 8 but look flabby. You can fit into a 14 and look muscular and awesome. It all depends on your body composition and muscle tone. I have been 150 pounds, and I was still jiggly because I hadn't exercised regularly to get there. I would rather be 160 and tight

Anyway, it all depends on your height and body composition, but at 175 I would imagine a 14 would be big unless you were maybe 5'2" or less. At 150, you'd have to be 4'10" or something! I doubt that is the case, since most women I know are at least 5'3". I am 5'7", and at 150 pounds, I easily fit into size 8 pants and even had a pair of size 6 pants from NY&Co that fit tightly. In jeans a size 8 was comfortable at 150 pounds. I even bought a dress from the Gap that was (gasp!) a size 2 - you can imagine the solo dance party I was having in the dressing room!

As for your boyfriend making such a statement - it sounds to me like he is discouraging you. Who knows why anyone does that, but I've been in a relationship before with someone who constantly discouraged me from doing anything healthy. It stemmed from his own insecurities about his body and also from his insecurities about our relationship. I am loyal to a fault, but he was convinced that I would get really hot and find a new boyfriend. It was something I addressed with him, but he refused to trust me and continued to discourage me. All of those trust issues, along with some other stuff, led to the demise of our relationship. Even after we broke up, I lost a lot of weight, and he kept badgering me about how I was suddenly going to turn into a major slut because I looked good (I didn't turn into a slut, I promise). Either he needs to support you, or you need to ditch him!!! Life's too short to hang out with naysayers.

Best wishes of success to you!

sreimer07

I used the method Baisleac suggest, by that calculation I have a average body frame!

frenchielover

Frame size "calculator" using wrist circumference: http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/imagepages/17182.htm

Down and dirty method - Take your thumb and middle finger on your dominant hand and wrap them around your other wrist (don't squeeze tightly, just wrap your fingers). If they overlap, you have a small frame, if they just touch, you have an average frame, and if they don't touch you have a large frame.

That said, women's sizes suck almost as much as BMI as a measurement. They're only good as a very rough estimate and to show relative drop.

So....for this method...do you test above the wrist bone or below (farther away from the hand)....or on it?

baisleac

Frame size "calculator" using wrist circumference: http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/imagepages/17182.htm

Down and dirty method - Take your thumb and middle finger on your dominant hand and wrap them around your other wrist (don't squeeze tightly, just wrap your fingers). If they overlap, you have a small frame, if they just touch, you have an average frame, and if they don't touch you have a large frame.

That said, women's sizes suck almost as much as BMI as a measurement. They're only good as a very rough estimate and to show relative drop.

So....for this method...do you test above the wrist bone or below (farther away from the hand)....or on it?

At the narrowest point, below the bone. While you can gain fat at this point on your wrist, it is very unusual, and would be the last place you gain.

Atlantique

Lol thank you all so much. It actually really hurt that he said it. He knows how much this means to me. I dont think it helps that it seems he's gaining what i'm losing

It would hurt my feeelings too, but he probably didn't mean to be hurtful. He just doesn't know what he's talking about.

Years ago, I went out with a guy who was carrying some extra weight. While he complained about it constantly, he certainly didn't do anything about it while we were dating. As he was well over 6 feet, I really didn't think he'd be 'that much' smaller when and if he ever did lose weight, and I didn't give it much thought.

A few years after we broke up, I ran into him. He'd lost at least 40 pounds, and he was nearly unrecognizable. I had always thought that as tall as he was, he'd still be very broad in the shoulders when he lost weight. Not the case! Turns out he had the same tiny frame that all of his siblings and his mother did, he had just been carrying every last pound of it in his torso and more of it in the shoulders than I would have EVER guessed. It was shocking to me, honestly.

So if he had ever asked me what I thought he'd look like if he ever got back into shape, I would have guessed COMPLETELY, TOTALLY wrong. Not because I would have been trying to hurt his feelings or discourage him-in fact, I'd have been trying to encourage him! I just had never seen him at a healthy weight and had no idea what that would look like on him. Not a clue.

BrennaDS

I was intrigued by this wrist idea, so I went looking for it and now know I am indeed medium framed! Here's the website I found in actually combines the wrist test with the "formula" I mentioned before! The one thing they point out is that this is a guideline and they give you a range. The way I see it I've been overweight for years so getting within 5-10 pounds of what they say is "ideal" would be amazing! So that's what I'm aiming for is 5-10 punds above what they say a woman my height with a meidum sized frame should weigh.

http://calculators.hpathy.com/body-weight.asp

Don't ever let anybody discouarge you, and surround yourself with people who love and support you!

BrennaDS

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Qarol

Take your thumb and index finger and wrap them around your wrist. If the fingers overlap, you're small. If they just touch, you're medium. And if they don't touch, you're large. Of course, this isn't accurate for very obese people. There are ideal weight calculators out there that estimate based on body frame. I've found two, and they're wildly different. I'm a large frame. One calculator topped out at 154 lbs. Another was a whopping 180 lbs. That's quite a difference. So take those with a grain of salt.

littlemissanguissette

I could see how wrist measurements could be off if you are carrying more weight, some people have bigger wrists because they are carrying more weight/fat.

However, I cannot over lap my fingers/thumb on my wrist, and I have BIG hands. [I'm nearly 6'] I am a large frame, there is absolutely no fat on my wrist [I can barely pinch any skin from them] so the measurements work for me. I weigh around 155 right now, and I fit into a 7/8 [these are Rue 21 sizes], at my lowest I was a size 4 but it was so difficult to maintain.

I also will probably never get smaller than a 5 or 6 because of my hips. I have WIDE hips [and a big booty hehe] at 40", and no matter how thin I get I never lose any inches on those hips [they do get bony, however..yuck]. Because of that I will never be able to squeeze into anything smaller, pants are SO hard to fit into when you have wide hips.

BrennaDS

LIKE!!!

Ooops! I've never left comments in here, I was trying to leave this as a reply to Atlantique's comments:

"It would hurt my feeelings too, but he probably didn't mean to be hurtful. He just doesn't know what he's talking about.

Years ago, I went out with a guy who was carrying some extra weight. While he complained about it constantly, he certainly didn't do anything about it while we were dating. As he was well over 6 feet, I really didn't think he'd be 'that much' smaller when and if he ever did lose weight, and I didn't give it much thought.

A few years after we broke up, I ran into him. He'd lost at least 40 pounds, and he was nearly unrecognizable. I had always thought that as tall as he was, he'd still be very broad in the shoulders when he lost weight. Not the case! Turns out he had the same tiny frame that all of his siblings and his mother did, he had just been carrying every last pound of it in his torso and more of it in the shoulders than I would have EVER guessed. It was shocking to me, honestly.

So if he had ever asked me what I thought he'd look like if he ever got back into shape, I would have guessed COMPLETELY, TOTALLY wrong. Not because I would have been trying to hurt his feelings or discourage him-in fact, I'd have been trying to encourage him! I just had never seen him at a healthy weight and had no idea what that would look like on him. Not a clue."