36 pound loss- why am I so down?

Ilovepeppers

I began at 245. I'm now 209.. I've never weighed this little in my adult life. I should be proud, right? I feel down. I feel like damn, I lost all this weight and I still look pretty darn fat. I guess I thought 36 pounds would make a hugely notable difference. I mean, its better than remaining at 245. I don't know, maybe in another 20 pounds I'll feel better.

This kind if thing happen to anyone else? 36 is a lot, right?

froglegjack

you are just about half way to your goal Hang in there. You don't see the differences in you but they are there? do some pics like before and after or some measurements. 36 pounds is awesome! buck up kiddo!

Lyndzo

36 *is* a lot and you should be proud. You are looking great, keep it up!

Qarol

I'm the same way sometimes. I've lost 32 lbs, but every so often, I start berating myself for getting so high to begin with and feel overwhelmed about how much further I have to go. When those feelings come on, I usually try to distract myself with something. A nap or a good cry usually helps me. Something to release the stress.

You should be proud. But I understand those feelings of "it's still not good enough."

AmberBarrios

You are doing great! I felt the same way when I felt like there was no difference after losing 40lbs. You might not see it, because we are our own harshest critics, but I am sure others have noticed. Look at some old pics it really helps and the best thing I can tell you is don't put so much stock in the number on the scale. If your clothes are fitting better and you feel better then you are on the right track.

mrchantele123

You don't feel different but I bet you look different. I feel exactly the same as I did before; hating my body and wanting to feel thinner. But people are constantly telling me I've lost weight and my clothes are hanging off me, it's just because you're so used to yourself.

pammbroo

I would definitely get the tape measure out. Tracking inches as well as pounds is confirms just how FANTASTIC you are doing. We tend to see ourselves in a very harsh light.

Keep up the great work!

MelissaL582

I think no matter how much we will weigh, we will still look fat. We're so used to seeing it. There are times when I have to step back and see my progress pictures to really see the difference.

You've come a long way and you're doing wonderful!

knelson422

Wow, 36 is really great!!! It may feel like you aren't losing it fast enough, or that you have a long way to go. I feel that way sometimes too. Sometimes I think, "If I could just lose 10 more than I would be happier" - but really that is not where my happiness should come from. We need to celebrate the victories we are having and have them motivate us to keep going. We can do this, it just takes time!!

EricaSno28

I have lost 43 so far ... && is really feeling down today. I know that I've come a long way becasue I am able to work out like I never did before .... but for some reason i feel really bummed that i have JUST as long to get to my goal....

almondbliss

Yeah, I know exactly how you feel. It depends on what I have on as to how sexy I feel a lot of the time. But my Hubby took a picture of me the other day and I hated it...I was kinda fussing cause I thought to myself Geezz, you could have tried to catch me at a better angle or something...I hate pictures cause that is Definitely not what I see in the mirror....and it made me feel like Gosh, i've come a long way and thought I shouldn't still feel like I look like a bag of potatoes....so I go put on something sexy and look in the mirror again for a few mins. put on some heels that makes all the difference in the world! Just try your best to think this is about being healthy and your body will catch up!

tammeygail

Think of 36 lbs as 36 lbs of butter that you were carrying around. Thats alot and you are doing an awesome job if anything you should be so proud of your self, cus your a great inspiration to me who has only been on this site a week or so. Thanks and keep up the great work............

Marjorielk

I know, I've lost 19 & nobody noticed ! That's ok, I'm NOT quitting ! I'm doing this for me. Nobody else. You hang in there.

slainger

I'm in about the same weight loss range as you, and I wonder too if what I've lost is something to get excited about. Has anyone you haven't seen for a while noticed the loss? I don't see it in myself much, but others have commented on how much smaller I am, and that boosts my confidence. You are doing fantastic and even if you don't see it now, you will! Keep up the good work!

blueillusion3

you are doing great! i've only lost 19 lbs but i feel the same way. just stick to it and soon enough you will see the difference you are waiting for. try to pay attention to some of the NSV and/or how you are being much more conscious of your eating & exercise habits. but so far so good! you're already 36 lbs down!

i also read somewhere that when people start losing weight there is a lot of emotional baggage that goes with it, and so maybe it's just yourself fighting the weight loss, you are slowly getting out of your comfort zone. but keep posting on here and stay motivated, you're doing an awesome job! you'll reach your goal soon enough!

fortworthbret

36 lbs is awesome. I bet if you looked at some before and afters you'd be very pleased.

twooliver

Okay....it's time to put up some pics...before and after! The ones you have posted are hard to see and turned sideways...so go and find a good photo that captures you before and one of now and let us be the judge!!

I'm down 31 now and when I recently posted pics, I was amazed at the difference!

What an amazing thing to accomplish!!! Celebrate!!

sbwood888

If you have lost 36 pounds, I assure you people can see it! 36 pounds is a LOT!

eates

I was feeling the same way about my 21 lbs. Then after seeing a post on here I was carrying around my 23 lb 20 month old little boy and realized that I had almost lost as much weight as I was carrying around. Then I started thinking about how tired I get carrying him around and how much better I feel not lugging that much fat around on me all the time. So that helped snap me out of it!

kld4239

You are getting it done and have made HUGE progress! I know what you mean though... Sometimes I look in the mirror and say to myself "Really? You still look like a cow to me!" Then I see old pics or someone that I haven't seen in awhile and realize how far I've come and it feels great. Best of luck to you and your continued success.

Lunarokra

You have done great, I hope you pick up your spirit because it's an amazing loss.

I am and have been between 214-207 for a while and can't seem to lose much.

So pick yourself up that your accomplishment is awesome.

foreverloved

That's the downside to starting out so heavy, the heavier you are the less you can see the change but you KNOW you have changed and you're not going to stop until everyone can see the huge difference!!

rjs3455

I feel the same way... Started at 234 down to 207. People are commenting on my weight loss but I still feel very very large when I look in the mirror. You just need to remember not only did you lose a ton of weight but also think of the little things... like how your clothes fit different... how you can now see your thigh muscle indentations better... for me its how I can wear rings and bracelets now!! You have accomplished more than most.... keep it up girl and don’t let that image society portrays get to you... your beautiful 36 pounds is amazing!!

SLaw4215

Did you measure your waste and legs/arms and stuff when you started? Did you take any "before" pictures? Keep your chin up! Dress for the body you have right now and own today. Tomorrow will be here and soon your old image will be just something in your past.

dieseljay74

That is excellent weight loss....it took me 3.5 months to lose around 25 lbs. Nice job and stick with it!

bcrawfoot

hey thats great and yr clothes must be far too big for u now i have lost 4lbs and things are too big wrong my waist got a size 12 waist but got big tummy so have to wear size 14 i have another 2.5 stone yet maybe more as idea weight is very wide so not sure what to work towards, i like some numbers in kgs and then some in pounds but saying your weight in pounds sounds all so much as over 110 sounds terrible to me, does anyone else have these issues lol
keep up your hard work and remember who you are doing it for a healthy life is coming your way and a new wardrobe too xx

Brandicaloriecountess

Good job.

And you are not alone. I struggle with this also. I am annoyed that I got so fat. I'm mad that I have lost 46 pounds and I am still SO fat. But I use that as my motivation to keep working at it.

IndigoFlowers

I get feeling like this too.. But I look at it this way: I would rather have lost my 43 pounds, than gained it. And I know full well that I would have noticed an extra 43 pounds on me, so I am just being too judgemental towards myself and not noticing the 43 pounds lost.
I really should have taken before pictures, but even in older pictures I can see a huge difference, even if they are not full body pictures.

MsLaurie65

That's amazing, Congratulations on the lose. But don't feel so down, you have accomplish so much, go out and enjoy yourself, buy yourself an outfit, get your nails and toes, and hair done. You deserve it MsLady, keep your head up and keep going strong. You have to see the change in yourself first before you can appreciate the compliment of someone else. You look hot I just know it!

Mtsidad

Nice job.

Feelings come and go. Don't kick yourself more that you're down, if you know what I mean. ("I should feel better.")

Accept that sometimes your feelings don't match expectations, and then let it go. Do something else. At some point, the feelings will catch up. Sometimes it has more to do with exercise and sleep than with actual change.

And yeah, it SUCKS when people don't recognize it. But that's people. YOUR FRIENDS can tell. They might just be reluctant to ask, or they might be waiting for you to say "Man, I am so glad to hit my last milestone. Can't wait to celebrate and then get ready for the next one."

Remember, though, talking about diets and weight loss with people is like telling them about your AWESOME VACATION. The discussion might not be that interesting to them, so keep it light.

Keep it up. You're doing great.

jannapurna

You should feel very proud of yourself. No, really! Give yourself a hug!
I took a quick look and I saw that you're a mom, likely a mom who's used to putting everyone else before herself.
Please, do yourself (and your confidence) a favor and reward yourself for all your hard work. You ARE worth it, and 36lbs is amazing and inspiring.