Do others view you differently then you view yourself?

realtreegirl

Do you think that others view you differently then you view yourself? How do you view yourself?

I am sure that others view me differently then I view myself. I honestly would love to view myself as my family and friends do because I would like to see what they see! I think that it could be very enlightening to step back and try to analyze myself from a “third person” perspective. I do not have a very good self image of myself and have been told that I am way too hard on myself and that I am perfect just the way I am, but I have a hard time believing this. I am always thinking that I could be better, or thinner, or prettier! I hate having feeling like this about myself and that is one reason why I have joined MFP. I want to look at myself in the mirror and love the person looking back at me! I want to see myself the way that my husband, kids, friends and family do! I want to feel that I am fine just the way I am and I know that the only way I will ever feel this way is to lose weight and get in shape! I love my life so very much and am very happy with it but there is one thing missing and that is that I don’t like myself and it has an affect on my life! I am tired of having days where I just break down and cry because I am so upset with how I look! I am bound and determined to change but it is so hard and I get so depressed every time I look at myself! I know it takes time and I cannot give up! I will look in the mirror one of these days and think to myself, “I look good”!! I know that I am not the only one that feels this way and I know that sticking with MFP will help motivate and inspire me to lose the weight and feel better about myself!!


"You can tell me that you choose not to. You can tell me that you choose to quit, that you choose to be less than what you are and less than what God intended but don’t ever tell me that you cant do it”! - Jillian Michaels

DrBorkBork

I've been a fat girl all my life, so I still kind of look over my shoulder when people call across the room to tell me I look great & super skinny. They MUST be talking to someone else. Hubby says he's proud of all the hard work I've done, yet when I look in the mirror, I still see me at my starting weight.
Embracing a new self image is the hardest pill to swallow.

deannarey13

I know that I view myself differently too. My family and friends constantly tell me how great I look and when I look in the mirror, all I see is the fat that I still want to lose.

MFP is definitely a great place to be to get to your goals. So much great support here.

kimmerroze

I so totally feel the same way... all I see when I look in the mirror is what needs changed.

I am REALLY hard on myself, and its so frustrating. If I had three wishes one would be to beable to look at myself from third person point of view. and then remember how I looked.

MoniDoug73

We live in a country that constantly defines what 'beauty" is. I sent you a friend request and I hope that you and I can become 'MFP's... This country is a mixture of cultures and races, and in every aspect that is sometimes a trying characteristic. It's daunting for African American women who have features such as dark skin, full lips, round butts, big breast and high cheek bones all of a sudden become what is now fashionable. In the 80's and 90's if I fell into the trap of what "society" thought was beautiful, I would have hated myself or at least have a complex (well i think I did have some complexes) because my look was not the "fashionable" look. I watched a program recently that showed how even models have their features "doctored" up by computer programs, we will never be able to achieve the things we see in the magazines because it is not realistic. I see the one picture of you and "yes' you are a pretty woman, Look deeper within yourself for the things that make you unhappy, ask yourself why and until you cannot answer another why to hopefully get to the root of your issue. But I want you to stay encouraged, don't fret too much over weight, because you can loose the weight...but don't fall into a depression...surround yourself with positive people who love you...and work toward your goals!

MoniDoug73

prettypain

i can totally get this one...im viewed as a really great and beautiful person to so many people in my life, and yet i can not see that in myself! All i can see is the unattractive, somewhat over weight, person who constantly makes mistakes. do we ever get over this??? Feel free to sent friend requests, if you so choose.

realtreegirl

It is so wonderful to meet all of you and to know that I am not the only one that feels this way!! You are all so amazing and I hope that I can get through this and start to feel good about myself!! Please feel free to add me if you'd like! I can use all the motivational incouraging friends that I can get :happy: Thanks for the words of encouragement and I know that I can do this but it is going to take time!