Keep Getting "I am glad I don't have to do that"

wicklessgal

GRRR.... You would think people would be more supportive. My husband and I measure out EVERYTHING we eat, even if we go to family functions we measure out our food. When we were at a family function recently one of our family members stated "I am glad I don't have to do that" Can't people see we are doing what is best for us? We haven't got the hang of what serving sizes are by sight yet so we measure! We also went to a store and were just curious about what the calories were for something in the Deli, my husband asked for the nutritional information and the people that were standing there looked at him like he was an alien because he didn't purchase what he was looking at because they couldn't produce the caloric value and other nutritional values. Just venting here!

SheilaSisco

I get that sometimes too... SO irritating!!!

Helice

Its ok, people look at me like im a nut job when my fiance grabs something from somewhere like macdonalds. And i have calories left, so i decide il treat myself. And i ask for the calorie contents for the mayo chicken burger, etc. lol. People just dont understand!

Mindful_Trent

I would just respond cheerfully, saying that it's really not that much trouble and that you really enjoy all the healthy changes you are making in your life. Turn their put-down into something positive. I measure almost everything, and I don't find it bothersome at all!

bunnysone

so being the abrupt person I am with the ones i ove (tough love it call it) i would probably turn around the next time they have to change their lifestyle because of a weight-related disease and say "glad I dont have to do that"

Karma comes around. Hold on to your beliefs.

I asked a muffin store the other day for the nutritional information card. The girl blankly looked at me and said she they dont have them. I told her that the previous management had them so they had perhaps better go and get some printed. Needless to say I didnt buy a muffin ...

DrBorkBork

I don't think I've ever gotten that. Instead, I kinda feel like "Psst! Trish is making a fist over that bowl of salad. Maybe I should do that too!" (fist = 4 oz, roughly)

Sweetcheeks278

My Mother-In-Law means well, but everytime I see her she says to me, "If I had to eat that I would be in a bad mood all the time! I couldnt do that!" Well, if you want to be healthy and feel good about yourself then you do what it takes, right?! So don't worry about what anyone else thinks. Do what YOU need to do and forget the rest. :happy:

charmsangel13

I find it really frustrating that most places don't have how many calories are in their food. I went to oportos (chicken shop in Australia) a few weeks ago for lunch and wanted to make a healthy choice. I guessed as I didnt have the info in front of me and when I looked it up later via google there is no way I would have eaten there! Now I take my own lunch as I know whats in it!

PlanetVelma

I would just respond cheerfully, saying that it's really not that much trouble and that you really enjoy all the healthy changes you are making in your life. Turn their put-down into something positive. I measure almost everything, and I don't find it bothersome at all!

That is great advice! I vote for this suggestion! LOL

Seriously, though you could say something like that and totally be super sickening cheery about it.

On the part about the deli not having the nutritional info, I would call the store and talk to the manager and ask what is up with that?! LOL Its been my expereience when you contact the manager and let them know you are not happy or have questions about something - they'll really take the time to resolve whatever the issue is to make sure you keep coming back! It can't hurt!

robin52077

I was at Longhorn's Steakhouse a few weeks ago and I asked the waitress for nutritional info and she had to go ask the manager. They didn't have it on hand but she went online and printed it out for me. I would have done that before I left the house but I didn't know we were going there.
The 2 things I was deciding between...1 was like 1400 cals and the other was like 400...yeah, that made my decision a lot easier!!!:laugh:
(it was awesome too...if there's one near you, go there!)

damonmath

I feel that when people feel compelled to make a comment they are most likely jealous that you are paying attention to yourself. Words like "I could never do that..." means that they have thought about it, which means they are not strong enough! Same is true about people that say, "If I had to do that...?" or "That seems so bland...".

I have also noticed that when you are ripped up like me, people do not question you about what your are asking, but how the hell you got so fit... Amazing how appearance alone can make people perk up or even change their stance on something.

Keep it up people... one day those same people will be asking your advice!!!

poustotah

People used to do that to me and I'd just come up with something snide to respond with. My step-mom was FAMOUS for it and I'd just tell her, "Yeah, well I'm glad I don't have to be fat."

She quit after a while.

jane130

Wait till you have lost a significant amount of weight and people start saying how great you look. They'll start to rethink everything they thought before, and will be asking you for tips.

Pebble321

Wow, measuring your food at a family function seems pretty extreme to me .... I get measuring at home while you are learning about the right kind of portion sizes, but can't you judge it by eye when you are out? Honestly I think if you do this (which you have to admit is pretty unusual behaviour) you will just have to put up with the comments.
To me its all about making choices - I choose to be discreet with choosing what and how much I eat when I'm in public because I don't want comments!
Having said this, I think their comments are rude, some people just have no idea. I think though that they are probably saying it in self defense because seeing other people making healthier choices makes them feel guilty about the junk they are putting in their mouth!

StephanieDuckie

I know! I was a vegetarian for 8 years, and I always got people who would say "Is it because you love animals?" or would say "You know, PETA stands for people eating tastey animals". Your choices are yours, and nobody should judge. It's not like I was telling them "well, statisically, I'm going to live longer than your *kitten*, so don't bother me". Some people are so unsupportive...

StephanieDuckie

People used to do that to me and I'd just come up with something snide to respond with. My step-mom was FAMOUS for it and I'd just tell her, "Yeah, well I'm glad I don't have to be fat."

She quit after a while.

HAHA! That is perfect! How freaking funny. I'll remember that line. ;D

jujudot

I had a co-worker tell me to "be careful about watching your calories so closely-or you could get obessed with it". Um, better that than not ever looking at the calorie content!! :huh:

sunshinesonata

I had a co-worker tell me to "be careful about watching your calories so closely-or you could get obessed with it". Um, better that than not ever looking at the calorie content!! :huh:

I get told this ALL THE TIME!

TakeOne

People used to do that to me and I'd just come up with something snide to respond with. My step-mom was FAMOUS for it and I'd just tell her, "Yeah, well I'm glad I don't have to be fat."

She quit after a while.

Bahahahaah!!!! That's great! Good for you for standing up for yourself

Sometimes people just don't think before they speak or even consider how what they say might affect someone. Sad but true, I agree with the other folks who have said its b/c they are insecure themsleves. Hang in there girlie; they'll be wondering how you did when you get to your goal. And can tell them it was by ignoring those nasty remarks from other people and actually DOING something for yourself!

Cletc

I would just respond cheerfully, saying that it's really not that much trouble and that you really enjoy all the healthy changes you are making in your life. Turn their put-down into something positive. I measure almost everything, and I don't find it bothersome at all!

I agree, good idea.
Also, they are just exclaiming they are Glad not to be doing that.
I would certainly give them permission to be Glad about it.
Hey, I'd be Glad if I didn't weigh and Log everything too :-)

tatiana_13

People should be more understanding, that's for sure. Some people are trying to lose weight, but some folks are on special diets (low sodium, celiac disease, diabetes etc) and need to know certain things about the food that THEY are paying for. While restaurants cannot always accommodate every request, both the servers and the other customers should certainly be polite and act like they have some manners!

Yet...while I hear and appreciate your anger, people are also going to be imperfect, and some time in the future, you are going to have to figure out how you will deal with the world as you find it. Such as...looking up nutritional information for corporate establishments ahead of time, deciding not to patronize places that can't be bothered to serve you in the way you would like, learning your own rules of thumb when eating away from home, and eating before going to family events so you only have to nibble on a few standard items while there.

Because sometimes, just sometimes, you will have to be the one to accommodate in order to get along in the world, rather than others accommodating you.

mrk34

I live in the big city where life goes on fast and many people are impatient. I can easily imagine people’s reactions, if someone asked a calories related question before ordering in the deli. I would probably have been one of those people, if that had happened more than a year ago at my deli.

At that time I did not want to deal with my weight issue. Similar reaction to the one you described would be my way of suppressing the thought that this issue actually concerns me, too. It would be a kind of psychological self-defense against an unpleased thought.

Those who don’t have to deal with weight loss issue will never fully understand our state of mind and our behaviors. We can understand them, because we used to be them, but they don’t understand us.

I think we get the best support from people who are dealing with the same challenges that we are. Family and friends should be the most supportive, but as you experienced at the family function, sometimes it happens differently.

My experience is that the acquaintances I met online provide the most valuable support.

wicklessgal

Wow, measuring your food at a family function seems pretty extreme to me .... I get measuring at home while you are learning about the right kind of portion sizes, but can't you judge it by eye when you are out? Honestly I think if you do this (which you have to admit is pretty unusual behaviour) you will just have to put up with the comments.
To me its all about making choices - I choose to be discreet with choosing what and how much I eat when I'm in public because I don't want comments!
Having said this, I think their comments are rude, some people just have no idea. I think though that they are probably saying it in self defense because seeing other people making healthier choices makes them feel guilty about the junk they are putting in their mouth!

As I stated we are still trying to learn what each portion size might look like so we do measure if we go to families houses to eat. We have not been eating out yet because we want to do this right and not knowing serving sizes by sight yet is not helpful. If someone had to give themselves an insulin shot before they eat to keep themselves on track with their diabetes I wouldn't say "I am glad I don't have to do that". I would figure they are doing what they have to do and not try and embarass them by saying something like that. I honestly don't feel that measuring is extreme or unusual behavior when you are really trying to make a difference in the amount you are eating.

Pebble321

Wow, measuring your food at a family function seems pretty extreme to me .... I get measuring at home while you are learning about the right kind of portion sizes, but can't you judge it by eye when you are out? Honestly I think if you do this (which you have to admit is pretty unusual behaviour) you will just have to put up with the comments.
To me its all about making choices - I choose to be discreet with choosing what and how much I eat when I'm in public because I don't want comments!
Having said this, I think their comments are rude, some people just have no idea. I think though that they are probably saying it in self defense because seeing other people making healthier choices makes them feel guilty about the junk they are putting in their mouth!

As I stated we are still trying to learn what each portion size might look like so we do measure if we go to families houses to eat. We have not been eating out yet because we want to do this right and not knowing serving sizes by sight yet is not helpful. If someone had to give themselves an insulin shot before they eat to keep themselves on track with their diabetes I wouldn't say "I am glad I don't have to do that". I would figure they are doing what they have to do and not try and embarass them by saying something like that. I honestly don't feel that measuring is extreme or unusual behavior when you are really trying to make a difference in the amount you are eating.

I didn't mean to put down what you are doing, but I have never in my life seen anyone measuring how much they are eating when they are at a family function. It's not a bad thing to do, but you have to admit it is unusual! Which unfortunately means that people will comment.
If it's working for you, that's great, go for it, hopefully the family will get used to it and stop being so rude.
And soon you will have to get used to the comments of "wow, you are looking so great, how did you do it"

rcochnar

Don't let anyone make you feel bad about what you're doing. "Glad I don't have to do that?" Well, you probably should be doing it. Who is acting more foolishly in that situation? The person who is monitoring what goes into their body, or the person who isn't? Keep with it, don't let people get you down.

TrainingWithTonya

I've had several people over the years (generally family based on what and how I eat at family functions) who make snide remarks about my eating and exercise habits. My favorite was always, "With all that exercise you do, you don't need to watch your fat intake, so just eat _____ and quit with all the measuring and asking questions (about how it was made, contents)" or the "glad I'm naturally skinny so I don't have to do all that work to get there like you do." Being the blunt person I am, I point out that more unfit skinny people die each year then fit slightly overweight people. And if they don't believe that, all they have to do is look at our family tree. (Both my Mom and my Grandmother died in their 50's from cardiovascular issues.) So while they are *****ing about how I eat and exercise, I'm planning on how peaceful my life will be when they kick off early from not eating right and exercising. Shuts them right up! :laugh:

DebiP10

The girls and guys i work with say that to me everyday " oh i dunno how you could just eat that or i dunno how you can be bothered to go to the gym at 6am every morning" i now just say back " it keeps my weight down, it makes me healthier on the inside as well as the outside, it sets me up for the day cos im feeling refreshed and above all, i can sit comfortable at my desk all day without the waistband of my trousers cutting me in two it shuts them up at least lol

blakgarnet

My Mother-In-Law means well, but everytime I see her she says to me, "If I had to eat that I would be in a bad mood all the time! I couldnt do that!" Well, if you want to be healthy and feel good about yourself then you do what it takes, right?! So don't worry about what anyone else thinks. Do what YOU need to do and forget the rest. :happy:

my future mother in law called my weight loss efforts "fanatical" yesterday. I wanted to point out that if she went to the same efforts, she might be able to loose the extra weight she complains about along with lowering her cholesterol and other medical issues she is now blaming for her weight issues.

blakgarnet

ps - I held my tongue

Sezmo83

The girls and guys i work with say that to me everyday " oh i dunno how you could just eat that or i dunno how you can be bothered to go to the gym at 6am every morning"

I've been guilty of saying the gym one but it wasn't meant as a put down. I've tried it and I STILL don't understand how some people can go at daft o clock in the morning and manage to get through the day without falling asleep on their feet. I'm just sooooooo not a morning person lol, getting up early leaves me exhausted all day even without going to the gym. I used to force myself to go after work instead and I'd get the same sort of comment from people who'd go before work "I don't know how you can be bothered going to the gym after a full days work". We all figure out what works for us and use it I guess.

The whole "Oh I couldn't do that!" when it comes to calorie counting and watching what we eat baffles me. Yes, you could do it if you had to or wanted to, the fact is you just don't want to. Well I don't particularly want to either but I'd rather count calories than take a load of medication for blood pressure, diabetes and any other health problems my weight is causing. Oh, and I'd rather be fit than fat of course.

mirapaigew

My Mother-In-Law means well, but everytime I see her she says to me, "If I had to eat that I would be in a bad mood all the time! I couldnt do that!" Well, if you want to be healthy and feel good about yourself then you do what it takes, right?! So don't worry about what anyone else thinks. Do what YOU need to do and forget the rest. :happy:

my future mother in law called my weight loss efforts "fanatical" yesterday. I wanted to point out that if she went to the same efforts, she might be able to loose the extra weight she complains about along with lowering her cholesterol and other medical issues she is now blaming for her weight issues.

hahahah I can relate to this.

Mine will say snarky comments just to piss me off. I don't know what world she is living in, but she seems to think that she is smaller than me. And she thinks that because she lost 30lbs in 2 months (because she ate nothing but pudding while her FALSE TEETH WERE BEING MADE), that makes her a health guru. Right. lol

When I was in her daughter (my sister in law's) wedding last year, I left my bridesmaid's dress at her house. My MIL tried the dang thing on and was like, "Miranda, that dress CANNOT fit you. I am about 3 sizes smaller than you are and I couldn't even get it zipped. You need to get another size!!!" ... She shut up pretty fast when I put the dress on and it zipped with no problem.