Fear of Dying

Katy009

I went through a period like that, too, where I thought constantly about dying because I smoked so much. Everytime I lit a cigarette I would start to imagine dying of lung cancer and how I would suffer and how miserable I would be. My eventual goal was to quit at age 30. Well, I didn't do it. But I also didn't give up. I finally managed to quit six years later. Not only did I imagine myself dying of lung cancer, but my daughter having to watch it. I turned 37 YESTERDAY and I have been smoke-free for a little over a year. Thoughts about dying still cross my mind because now I'm afraid of leaving my daughter without a mother......

My only trick is to really.....REALLY.....focus on what you have going for you NOW. I think that eventually it will lessen once you refocus on something else. But right now you are really trying to change your life and of course, death is going to be floating around in your mind, too.

As far as turning 30....I wouldn't go back to my 20s for anything. Life always brings new challenges and each year only gets better! Once you turn 31, those thoughts will be completely vanished!

Katy

pecksun8

30 for me wasn't a big deal, which I guess was a little surprising. But for some reason 33 was a little bit harder and I don't know why but it hit me pretty hard. And well I don't have a fear of dying, it's how I die that can worry me sometimes. I really don't want to be brutally murdered or shot by some punk kid, mainly because I don't want that punk kid to live a life like that, and sheer brutality is a reaction to not being able to fit your square life in a round peg hole, and trying your whole life to fit into it, then what do we expect to happen. It's so senseless.

I don't have a fear of dying because I have a small partial inclination of what it's like, and I have to tell you, it was the most peaceful, quiet, fearless, and serene sense that I have ever felt in my life.
I don't know what it's like to have a real disease like cancer, or kidney failure or anything else like that where people want to fight and live. I have a mental illness, which seems like such a cop-out, such a joke of a problem, because it's all in my head. It's something that I have to deal with on a daily basis and there are some days where I still feel the pull downward and think to myself why bother? And I have to tell you, a lot of the time I can't come up with a very good reason. But for some reason I am still here and I don't know why.

calatibo

My friends fear me dying more than i do, they know i have them all listed to do karaoke songs at my funeral.

:laugh:

meh, i'm 29 in November, not achieved a great deal in life (yet) but to be honest i really could not care much about how old i am. The only issues i have with age is losing my facilties, and i doubt that will happen (more) before i "pop myclogs" in a freak sport related accident.

heartshapdworld

I can't wait to turn 55 in November because I found out I can get a discount at the gym. Also I can move into a 55 plus community. :bigsmile:

That reminds me of my mom and uncle-they were hella exicted to receive their Senior Discounts! Have you ever noticed that more mature people begin to start things with, "I am 85 years old..." My grandma loves telling people her age-she an active person. She will only date younger men-she tells me no old men for her! :laugh:

I want that spunk at 85!

johnD

I had tripple bypass surgery the week before i turned 40. I thought I was scared, and then 1 month after the surgery, one of the graphs failed and I had a small heart attack, THEN i got scared, and depressed. Everytime a felt any pain at all, I thought I was going to fall over dead. 14 cardiac caths, 9 angioplasties, and 5 stints later do I still think about dieing? Sometimes, but not as much as you might think.

You learn to focus on the good parts of life. How happy your are about things you used to take for granted. You care more about how you live every day and less about when you might die.

We will all die, there's no question of that. The question is how many of us will really live!?
Getting and staying healthy is a good place to start.

kleimola

30 was my best birthday ever. I had just had my first child one month previously, I have a nice home, a loving husband and a good job. I couldn't ask for anything more! Yes I am overweight but that was okay, I just had a baby and now I am working on that. The only time I was truley afraid to die was two months after my daughter was born i had surgery and I was afraid I wouldn't wake up and ever see my daughter again. Other than that 30 was great. You will be just fine, know that you are doing good for yourself now and that is what is important.

kleimola

I can't wait to turn 55 in November because I found out I can get a discount at the gym. Also I can move into a 55 plus community. :bigsmile:

My dad got carded at 55:laugh:
I think the store clerk didn't look up before he asked because my although my father looks good, he had grey hair. But the clerk held firm and demanded to see his ID.:laugh:

I wish I'd witnessed that.

Hey I was born with grey hair (that is my birthmark) and I am 31 and I still get carded.