why are people congratulating this??

stinabear13

im on 1,200 cals a day but tending to my two extreamly demanding kids its hard for me to sit and eat uninterrupted and im not a grazer. but its not okay to be congratulating that or promoting that as a healthy choice. i ussually do not eat back the calories ive burned, i got alot of fat to burn off so if i do eat some back so i have energy but not eat all of them back, currently the calories i do burn is from cleaning the house im trying for a steady weight loss of no more than 2 lbs a week, it might take longer but the results will be much sweeter

chylom

I feel exactly the same, I don't congratulate people on their diary completion unless a. I can see what they ate and b. they ate well.

I wont call people up on their bad choices as sometimes we have the occasional bad day where we don't eat enough or the wrong things etc, but if they asked I'd tell them.

AGREE !

OSUalum

If you get to know your friends on here, their eating habits and beliefs, then your comments can be sincere. Very few take the time to make real comments or get to know the other person.
Are your friends on a special diet? Vegetarian? Diabetic? Do they eat whole foods? Think if you can answer those questions.
This site is for support, not judgment.
No reason to ever comment if you don't feel it. But so nice to encourage others when you know they're doing their best.

FearAnLoathing

I know I don't eat enough cals quite a lot and I expect to be told by my friends on here . but I have seen people on here congratulating young girls for eating 400cals who's target is 300a day

Did you ever think that if someones target is 300 and they are eating 400 maybe they are struggling with an ED and are making an effort to up their calories? Just a thought

LorinaLynn

I think the majority of the congrats are people who don't look at the page. I've seen friends accidentally finish their day too soon, say after just having breakfast, and gotten kudos.

Lizzy_Sunflower

I generally try to congratulate people on completing their journal for the day.
I am not here to judge, and in the case of eating disorders, the very act of journaling what they are eating could help them realize their pattern and improve.
So to me, it's all in the wording.

Heather75

If I can see their diary, I look at it before commenting. If I can't, I congratulate them for logging. My diary is private, but I log everything.

jhoffman27

The people who are congratulating this are probably young girls who are doing the same thing. We all know this is dangerous but until they mature and educate themselves they will keep doing it. I seen a commercial on tv promoting some kind of weightloss supplement that Kim Kardashian endorses where the girl say's she went from a size 8 to a size 0 and she loves it. The girl looks and probably is anorexic. She looks scary skinny. It's sad that young girls think they have to look like this to be beautiful.

Young girls shouldn't be stereotyped as the only people that have eating disorders.
I agree that the media does effect them but it also effects all genders and ages.

nurseaim

On my "Cleansing Days" and "Cleansing Days" only, I will only consume ~300 calories that day. On this day, my MFP friends will not congratulate me, but will ask things like "how do you survive off this amount?" or "be careful only having this many calories in a day.". I know that they aren't judging me, but are truly concerned. Again, this in NOT a daily thing...it's only 1-2 days a week, every other week. So, I can't speak for others, but hopefully this isn't a routine thing that the 400 calorie a day people do.


***Please don't judge my post, it's part of the ISAgenix cleansing program. Thanks in advance.

yummy♥

If you get to know your friends on here, their eating habits and beliefs, then your comments can be sincere. Very few take the time to make real comments or get to know the other person.
Are your friends on a special diet? Vegetarian? Diabetic? Do they eat whole foods? Think if you can answer those questions.
This site is for support, not judgment.
No reason to ever comment if you don't feel it. But so nice to encourage others when you know they're doing their best.

^^ this is very nicely stated.

it seems that anyone on this site deserves support and respect for the journey *they* are on, which may look very different than your own. size 16 or size 0, we are here trying to make positive changes in our lives. sometimes the first steps are hard and may look foreign to someone outside of the situation, but it is unfair to judge without knowledge or understanding of their circumstance.

someone could easily judge the 2-3 glasses of wine i log daily without knowing that just a few months ago it was a full bottle. (whew, that was harder to type than i thought!) the process of journaling/logging, and yes, the supportive comments at the end of the day, are huge tools in *my* process, so thanks to any one who has supported my and/or continues to support all those who need your kind, non-judgemental feedback.