Re-establishing Chubby Twenties?!

ilookthetype

Sweetsaphire - Congrats on losing!

All - thanks for the support. She did apologise, which helped, she doesn't live around me (we're now states away *college sucks*) but interestingly enough she decided today that she needs to run and watch what she eats so it might have been jealousy. It was annoying but thankfully fairly short lived.


About the weighing in every morning: I want to add, if I didn't weigh in every morning I'd never let myself have any kind of cheat. I need to see the number or I kind of freak out mentally. I've got that 'fat girl' mindset where I can't see the weightloss on my body so I track it differently and I need the constant motivation. And I know I have to eat my calories, all of them and my exercise calories, and log them or my mother (who is on MFP) will hunt me down and make me eat them. For some of us, watching the scale go down (even if it's the water weight and we know it) IS what keeps us eating. I know all to well how weight gain/loss works, I also know how my brain works. I also JUST got the scale and haven't been weighing myself the first month I was doing this so it's exciting (for me) to see the number, like Nat said, curiosity.

penny_eclipse

Well done to everyone losing, and keeping strong and on track!

Sorry I've been a bit rubbish at checking in - it's the final week before a coursework deadline so feeling snowed under and unmotivated about that and trying to focus on that, get through that and then deal with all the other stuff!

As for weighing in - I try to only weigh in once a week. Sometimes I might sneak onto the scales midweek, but I don't take that as an accurate thing at all. I definitely don't use the scales as a way to know what to eat/how much to exercise...I *know* I'm eating right, and much better than I was, and the exercise is paying off - I can see it in my body/fit of my clothes/finding a collarbone/arm muscle, so the scale number is more of a bonus. I'd prefer to be a slimmer heavier person than bigger and lighter...
I must admit, when I've got a tight piece of clothing or taking measurements I have had moments where I've had to actively stop measuring myself/putting the clothing on to see if it fits yet...so maybe that's just as bad as hopping on the scale all the time!

On a completely unrelated subject...
Do all your friends know you're dieting and exercising etc? I'm in a weird situation where only those I have a talk-about-everything regularly relationship with know about it, whereas I've barely mentioned it to any of my other friends.
The ones that know are all really really supportive and can't believe how well I'm doing, how much healthier I am and that I'm enjoying the exercise and being so good when it comes to eating etc.
However with the other friends that we don't stay as in touch with....when we've spent time together sometimes it's come up that I now go jogging, or whatever, but with lots it hasn't, and they've not really noticed that I'm not having the massive portions and unhealthy choices anymore... I don't really know what this means, whether I'm really not so close with these friends, or that they're I bit scared to mention it/bring it up. It's all just a bit weird. I look massively different to the way I did over xmas/new year (and of course for ages beforre that). i just don't get how they've not noticed...
Sorry....I'm not really looking for *answers* to this, it's more that I was just wondering if many of you had similar situations...I know it's something that I just don't get right now.

Selly7749

Hello!

Please may I join this group? It really does look lovely! I'm 21 and I'm looking to lose 113lbs. I am blessed with some wonderful, but almost unanimously skinny friends, so it would be so nice to make friends on here to support and to maybe be supported by a little bit too. I'm going to go back now and read through everybody's posts, and I hope to speak to you all lots over the coming months!

x

0flynnstone0

Do all your friends know you're dieting and exercising etc? I'm in a weird situation where only those I have a talk-about-everything regularly relationship with know about it, whereas I've barely mentioned it to any of my other friends.
The ones that know are all really really supportive and can't believe how well I'm doing, how much healthier I am and that I'm enjoying the exercise and being so good when it comes to eating etc.
However with the other friends that we don't stay as in touch with....when we've spent time together sometimes it's come up that I now go jogging, or whatever, but with lots it hasn't, and they've not really noticed that I'm not having the massive portions and unhealthy choices anymore... I don't really know what this means, whether I'm really not so close with these friends, or that they're I bit scared to mention it/bring it up. It's all just a bit weird. I look massively different to the way I did over xmas/new year (and of course for ages beforre that). i just don't get how they've not noticed...
Sorry....I'm not really looking for *answers* to this, it's more that I was just wondering if many of you had similar situations...I know it's something that I just don't get right now.

I don't really tell people either, but it's due to a variety of reasons. It makes me sad to say this, because it shows the world that we live in, but one of the biggest reasons that I don't want to say anything to a few of my closest girlfriends is that they have body issues too, and I almost feel like they would want me to fail, almost as a competitive thing. I mentioned it to one of my friends and she just wasn't very supportive, so I just do it sort of privately and with my MFP friends for support.
And don't feel about about your friends not noticing, it's hard to tell the difference when they see you often, and like with my dad, after he saw me after I'd lost some weight he didn't mention anything until my grandma did and then he admitted he'd noticed but didn't want to say anything because if I hadn't actually lost weight he worried that I would've taken it the wrong way that I looked fat last time he saw me or something! haha....men.
Another reason I don't like to tell alot of people, is because I've done that whole thing before "Hey I'm on a diet!" and then given up 3 days later, and never lost weight and felt like an idiot. So I was worried that's what would happen when i started MFP.

To all you ladies: it sounds like you're doing great!

I've been having a pretty good week, have been good on food and good about going to fitness classes, til today. My brother and his girlfriend stopped by and we went out for Mexican food. I am so stuffed and don't even want to think about how many calories I consumed. It's only one meal though, so as long as I get back on track I'm not going to freak out about it. Plus most of my friends are out of town this weekend, which takes the temptation of drinking away, which is usually what gets me on the weekend.
Hopefully once I digest this food and am able to move again I can get a nice run in or something. (indoors unfortunately since it's like 90 degrees out)

Hope you all have a good weekend!

SkinnyjeanKathleen

As far as weighing daily goes, I weigh myself daily, but if I gain a pound I'm not the type of person who would freak out or punish myself for it. I know that weight can fluctuate from day to day, but I feel like if i don't weigh myself then I won't focus on my diet. I feel like it's an "out of sight, out of mind" type of thing for me. Plus, I am also just curious.

I'm really excited about dinner tonight. I am trying out this vegetarian recipe that was posted on MFP: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/TheGoktor/view/recipe-involtini-di-melanzane-aubergine-rolls-lots-of-photos-107335. On Saturdays my boyfriend is vegetarian (he's Hindu and it's a religious day where he is from) and I wanted to cook us a nice vegetarian dinner.

@Selly: Welcome to the group!

@Penny_eclipse: I am pretty open with my friends, but right now I don't really know many people (moved to a new city for grad school).. But I don't think there is anything wrong with keeping your dieting to yourself.

To all of you, I was wondering.. When you lost weight, like around 10 pounds, could you tell a difference? I just hit my 10 pound goal today, which I am super pumped about. It's just that I can't really tell any difference.. Maybe it's because I have so much weight to lose (80ish pounds)?

penny_eclipse

To all of you, I was wondering.. When you lost weight, like around 10 pounds, could you tell a difference? I just hit my 10 pound goal today, which I am super pumped about. It's just that I can't really tell any difference.. Maybe it's because I have so much weight to lose (80ish pounds)?

After my first 10lbs...no I don't think I did at all...I mean I felt less sluggish and happier, but to be honest I didn't really even get excited until I'd lost 1stone (14lbs) and I actually started noticing a real difference in clothes at about 1.5stone (21lbs). I think this is because 23lbs lost was 10% lost - and I think that first 10% is always where I notice the real first difference. But I'm the kind of person that holds their weight really well...most of my friends simply would not believe that I was *actually* 16st8 (132lbs). they just refused to believe it as I was only a (large) UK size 18...
After that first 21lbs I started noticing differences a lot more though, and the differences are speeding up too...

gemfox

Hi all,
Big thank you to penny....I have had a bad weekend and a kick from her made me get on here!!

Well done all of you on the losses.
Welcome to the new members LOVE to have you here!!

As for me - HORRIFICLY emotional at the moment, was doing ok with eating wise, had a bit of a splurge on sunday but nothing too bad...until this evening were the emotions took over and I turned to some dark chocolate!!

I have done some huge huge huge damage to my ankle again which is making it crazy hard to walk, having a boy issue and feel like crap!!

In relation to to 20lbs loss...I didnt see ANYTHING I was gutted...I still cant see it clothes wise or measurements wise and ive lost over 20lbs!!! However I was looking back at old pics...I do look way different...when I can figure out how, I will post pics!!

I promise to start being better soon! Keep up you amazing work girls!!

Littlenatt

Hello ladies!

I think i'm going to need to pushing to get in the gym again. I'm just so tired when i finish work at 7am all i do is jump in the car and come home.

Anyways, I havent lost 10lbs yet but im close and i cant tell where its gone, i keep thinking my scales are lying to me somehow!

Nat xx

deannalu89

Hello lovely ladies! (please excuse my scatter-brain post)

Congrats to everyone on their weight loss! and to those who are struggling... keep pushing foward; Rome wasn't built in a day! (I have to remind myself of that OFTEN)

This entire weight loss journey has been a day to day struggle and I'm hoping to find some support here. Not only do I complain about going to the gym but I mostly worry (have questions) about what to eat! I would have to say the hardest thing is that although SUPER supportive my hubby WILL NOT eat any of the foods I want to try. (if its green or has less than 300 calories in it, its a NO GO) This results in me making 2 seperate dinners or giving in and eating hot dogs and mac n' cheese! ( I'm not much of cook anyway so if anyone has some simple recipes PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE let me know!)

What do you ladies eat for breakfast?? I have oatmeal EVERY morning ... and I'm craving something salty and completely naughty. The oatmeal has just gotten BORING.

As far as the weighing yourself everyday ... I only aim for once a week. I think I would be one to get depressed because I didnt lose a pound over night.

Another question ... I heard that the first 13 pounds you lose is only water weight?! is this true? if so ... that's kind of depressing! I thought i was doing so well...I'm i going to plateau now?? My anxiety is getting the best of me!

@Nat what helps keep me motivated is how AWESOME i feel after a work out. I'm way more energized at work the next day so I try to keep that in the back of mind while I'm laying on the couch whining about going to the gym. Also on days where I am just exhausted after work ... I take a little power nap and then go to the gym!




p.s a little bird told me to NEVER deprive yourself of the things you want (chocolate, pizza, tacos) it will make your weight loss THAT much easier if you give in every once in a while!

Littlenatt

Deannalu: I know that going to the gym gives me energy, and having a power nap isnt really an option, well it is, but i work near my gym and it would mean going home, to go back to the gym. I've actually swapped my morning shifts this week, for evening ones so i might go straight from one job, to the gym then start my other one.
As for breakfast, i vary it between cereal (kellogs crunchy nut), chopped tomatoes on toast, and some kind of egg on toast usually scrambled or poached. And its wholemeal bread ive been having. I occasionally will have a bacon and tomato sandwich because like you said, depriving yourself completely doesnt help!
As for simple dinner recipes - I like pesto chicken. Basically, i boil abit of chicken, cook some pasta, have LOADS of vegetables (courgette, broccoli, peppers, onions, mushrooms, cherry tomatoes) which i steam, then put them all together with some pesto. Ooor do the same, but instead of pesto i use chopped tomatoes and oregano or basil to make a bit of a sauce.
I also lke having chicken fajitas, theyre really simple to make! stir fry some chicken in a tiny bit of oil, with some onions, peppers and any other veg you like, put in some fajita spices (we buy them from the dried herb/spices isle) then stick in a wrap with some lettuce and some salsa if you have any!

As for the 13lbs being water weight, ive heard 9lbs can be, but then again i know when its that time of the month i have put on about 10lbs before.

deannalu89

@nat well thanks for the info!! the fajitas sound like something i can handle without having to contact the fire dept! haha!

quitmakingexcuses

Hi everyone!!

Sorry to hear about your emotional roller coaster gemfox.. hope everything is getting better for you!

And good job/good luck to everyone for their weight loss!

I weighed this morning and I back in the 160's!! 169.2 to be exact. I'm down about 6 lbs in a week, which I'm sure is just my body dropping all the garbage I was eating before. I'm not expecting a huge loss next week but I am excited to start off so well

diferenc3

SO i signed up in august but never really dedicated myself to doing all this. Im 25y.o. i weigh 240lb. and i fear getting diabetes and hypertension before the age of thirty and not begin able to see my nephew grow up if i keep on putting on the weight. Since graduating college 3 years ago ive put on 22lb. I need to do this for myself, but im my worse enemy. Need all the support possible!!!!

jessicadawn86

Hey Everyone! I'm a newbie to MFP! I'm 25 yrs old and am currently trying to lose some pounds so that I'm at a healthy weight before getting pregnant. I previously used WW online and lost 30 lbs, but I've been doing the diet plan half-*ssed for a while. I did come back and lost some more, but then wasn't having any success with the new pts system. I feel like I have lost and gained the same 10 lbs this last year!!! I'm just starting calorie counting for the first time and so far I really like how MFP is set up (it might be better than WW, but don't tell them that!). Feel free to add me and I look forward to sharing in your successes!

gemfox

Hi ladies....
SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO back officially! hurrah!!! get me on here all the time ladies. I now have a focal point and smething to keep me going which I have found is the key to my weight loss so far!!!
I have until the end of August to get trim..not a massive weight loss but a deffo toning session and a huge push for me.
come on ladies lets do this!!!
xxx

PS welcome to he new posters!

Littlenatt

Waah, i fell off the wagon. Again.
So last week was a good week because my friend from cambridge came to visit, and while i love her to death, its all about booze and food, i did well though. Until the weekend. I went out with her, and a load of our mutual friends, including a guy i've liked for well over a year, anyways, things were awesome until the end when my friend told me she'd spoke to the guy about me and him, and he told her what i already know, which is that he wants to be able to put 100% into a relationship with me, but with his uni work and work work he just cant do that, and he doesnt wanna hurt me. I already know this, ive known it for MONTHS, but for some reason it really affected me.
I think its because the "old nat" came back, my ex was basically mentally and emotionally abusive and turned me into this insecure, jealous, paranoid mess. And he used to say stuff like that all the time, "i love you but i dont wanna be with you because your too insecure, youre tired all the time, youre depressed, you never smile, youre paranoid" (basically, anything you could think of he'd use as an excuse not to be with me) he would then go on to compare me with whatever girl he was seeing, while still telling me he loved me. He was the epitome of mind-****.
Anyways, i think that all came back when my friend told me what the guy had said and on top of a mountain of other problems in my life it just set me off and i broke down. At which point i ran away, drove to the countryside and sat for an hour until i calmed down, then went home to bed (all this at like 3am). Anyways, the next day i felt sick, as i always do after crying, went out and just ate crap. I know it sounds extreme but i really do have an addiction to chocolate, and recently ive managed to get over it and havent really touched any for a while, but this weekend has ruined me. All ive eaten is chocolate, and cakes. However, i'm back on track now because ive got less than 4 weeks until my holiday. I didint manage to make it to the gym this week, but next week I AM GOING!!

I WILL feel good about myself on holiday!

Nat xx

sweetsapphire85

Hang in there Nat,

I've had the same experiences in previous years. (Been single for the past 4 honestly) I had to get into a fight with every guy i've liked because they liked me enough to want to go out and have a good time, just never enough to really take it into a semi serious direction (but didn't want me to see other guys either). It was some horrible manipulation and it really damaged my self esteem because i never thought i was good enough. (I still battle it at times) I get depressed and want to eat sometimes, others i get so depressed just the idea of food sounds disgusting.

But I've gotten to the point that I know I'm a good person with a lot of things to offer, and it may sound harsh but I don't need anyone in my life who doesn't love me for EVERYTHING I am. I'd rather be alone than guilt-ed into wanting to change myself. If i want to make those changes like i am right now they are because I (and only I) want to make those changes.

You are a beautiful person inside and out, don't give away your power by allowing them to change how you feel about yourself!

jenny_91

I'll be 20 in a few months, can I sill join?

spyro88

Hi everyone! Another newbie here. I've been having a nosy through this thread and it's really inspiring to read about all your ups and downs, I would love to share mine here too as I go along with my weight loss plan. I'm 22 years old and have been overweight most of my life, just want to lose some weight now to look and feel healthy for once I lost around a stone at the beginning of 2011 but put it all back on when I went on holiday, and now feel terrible about it!

Good luck to everyone here!

sweetsapphire85

Welcome guys! post when you need it seems like the thing we do here, We all need support and motivation! I'll add you guys!

gemfox

Oh my little Natstar!
That story makes me sad!! As sapphire said you are gorgeous! I know who you are talking about and how you feel about him and how silly hard it is....Think how amazing you feel after a loss and things. In the year ish we have been talking you have grown soooooooooooooooooooooo much mentally and had a lovely steady decline in weight. I am so proud of you and want to see you smiling!!!

Jenny...of course you are welcome...this was set up as a way of people of similar ages to talk about their ups and downs and to generally have a giggle!

Spyro...I am glad you like the group, welcome!!

as for me....I have had an good ish week, got back on the wii and after a very upsetting start involving a very painful ankle I realised I have gained the bit I lost which I expected but I hadnt gained as much as I thought. Have done a HUGE tesco shop so I now have LOTS of healthy food in the house...Nat I am using the Special K thing as a guide...thanks for that!!!

keep it up girls! and keep me motivated please!!!

rbmeyer

Hey there 20-somethings!

I would love to join up in this group. I feel like you do a lot of growing up in your 20's... and I have also done a lot of growing out. I am a 24 year old grad student, newly wed and new home owner in desperate need of motivation and support. I make up a lot of excuses for not working out and feel completely exhausted at the end of each day. I recently tipped over the 200 mark, weighing the most I ever have in my life. It's time to get health, happy and confident. Thanks so much, and I look forward to following all of your progress!

*Randyl*

rbmeyer

Hi Ladies!

I felt pretty good about what I was eating today until I got home from work and put it in MFP... yikes! Only 270 calories left for the day... and I still need to eat some dinner. I'll need to figure out a different plan for spreading out my calories evenly throughout the day. I'm worried because my husband made plans to go to a wine tasting with friends tonight and he wants to just "pick up" something for dinner. He is very supportive, but sometimes doesn't consider what I may or may not be able to eat/drink while making plans. So, now I have to rush to get ready and go and entertain friends when all I really want to do is get a workout in, make a nice dinner and hang out. Does anyone have a similar problem where your husband/significant other/etc. doesn't consider you before making plans with others? I know he doesn't do it on purpose, but it is frustrating to me becuase it is partially due to his bad eating habits (which I 100% adopted on my own) that I am to the weight I am now. I've never been thin, but I've never been this big.
Sorry- it's just been a long week and I needed to vent. Thanks for listening!
xxxx

gemfox

Welcome Randy!
I have to be honest I lost all motivation when in a relationship and then it took me about 2 months after the relationship ended to get my act together!!! So yep, I am with you there on the significant other affecting your losses, not in a bad way as if they dont care because he really did think about me, (we had a pact about when he was in the gym I had to be working out) but in a not realising the plans they make kinda screw up your workout/eating plans!!

But to be fair....1 day going over your goal....not going to make a major difference...yes it may mean you have to try a little harder the next day but it wont mean you gain 10lbs!!!
xx

mrsmitchell0510

Hi everybody! I would love to be a part of your group! I am 26 and have struggled with my weight and body image since high school. Several months ago I was diagnosed with polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) and it was so nice to finally have an answer as to why even though I was doing everything right (like eating right and exercising) but still was unable to lose weight. It's time to get my weight under control and be healthy. My highest weight was a few months ago at 185. I am now 175 and would loveto get down to 140. I would love to be in a single digit pants size! I need lots of motivation, so add me as a friend and we can help encourage each other!
Thanks!

allybally6

I'd love to join. I'm ally. I'm 22 and want to lose like 10 more pounds. I look forward to the support.

Littlenatt

Hello lovelies! i'll reply to everyone properly when i get home, but i just wanted to let you all know that I'M AT THE GYM! Lol, not a big deal i know, but i manned up and came here straight from work like i've said i'll do for the past 4 weeks i've got 3 weeks til my holiday with my skinny friend, and seen as i've come be a bit of a stand still with the actual weight loss, i figured i should knuckle down and try some inch loss! Nat xx

penny_eclipse

WOOO NAT! GO YOU!!!

(I'll reply properly again later, having a bit of a downer at the moment, and finding it hard to not sit around moping, and also not to eat the entire contents of the fridge...I genuinely feel like I could eat an entire horse the past few days!) xx

futurekilousky

Hey everyone, I would love more motivations and support so please feel free to add me. I am definitely a chubby twenty year old, haha. This sounds great!

SW: 287
CW: 275

Goal 1: Under 250
Goal 2: Under 200
Goal 3: Healthy BMI

Age23, 5'6"

futurekilousky

Gemfox, I totally empathize with you on the Wii! I also have one which I love and would much rather use that to weigh myself than an actual scale! I have Wii fit, and my fiancé got me Wii fit plus but when I went to use it there was like a 1 pound weight difference( which is hardly anything but was still discouraging) so I have just stuck to regular wii fit, lol.

I also know that weight fluctuates a lot but being overweight, any extra pounds is just somewhat unmotivating for me.