Calling All You Single Ladies!!

Metamorphasis555

What size (clothing) do you need to be able to fit into in order to feel most comfortable with dating?

Also, are any of you not dating right now because you currently feel too self conscious about your weight/size & you want to lose more weight before dating again?

I'm currently in a size 14 & although I've gone out on a few dates recently, I just didn't feel very comfortable/confident due to my size. Ideally, my long term goal is to get back into a size 6 like I used to be a long time ago. But...as far as dating goes, I think in order to feel truly comfortable with dating again, I'd probably have to be no bigger than like a size 10. In order for me to feel truly comfortable having someone see me naked again, that's a whole different story though. In that case, I would feel my most self confident being anywhere from a size 6 to a size 8.

UCFLauren

I have never had the confidence to approach men or go out on dates, and I am 21 years old! I am in the prime of my life and should be having fun!

Instead, the fact that I ballooned to almost 300 lbs. and currently wear a size 26W is holding me back.

One of my biggest motivations for losing weight - I want to feel comfortable and, dare I say it, sexy!

stephaniezoundi

I'm not single, I got married a month ago but this thread interested me.

I can completely understand wanting to feel confident but at the same time, any man needs to be interested in something besides the way you look. I was a size 28W when I met my husband and ballooned to a 32W. 17 months ago I started this trip and am down to a 22. I feel great and more confident than I have in years....but I'm happier knowing I have found a man who loves me despite my weight.

aaaaaamyyyyyyy

From what I can tell based on TV shows etc, 'dating' in New Zealand is a little different from dating in other places, especially the US. I'm definitely not venturing into the direction of any males until I think I look awesome naked - can't expect anyone else to love your body if you're ashamed of it.

Metamorphasis555

Thanks for your input ladies.

I went to this place the other day to get a sunless spray tan. They had a full length mirror in the tanning room & when I saw myself in the full length mirror, that was like a HUGE wake up call to me that it's really time to get my a** in gear with my weight loss efforts! Needless to say, while standing there in my bra & undies, I did NOT like what I saw staring back at me in the full length mirror! I haven't had a full length mirror at my place for quite some time so it was kind of a shock to me. I mean sure I see myself naked in the shower every day, etc. so already had a pretty good idea how I look but the full length mirror....yikes. I've actually been feeling pretty depressed since that day I went sunless tanning as it just made me think if I even I can't stand the way I look in my bra & underwear or naked right now, then how the heck can I expect some guy to think I look good? I'm NOT one to just jump into bed with random guys. But...if I'm going to date, it would be nice knowing that if/when I turn down an opportunity to sleep with someone that I really like & am really attracted to that it's for reasons OTHER then the fact that I'm totally self conscious (for good reason) about being seen naked.

danssmith

A male point of view.

Dont let your current size stop you getting out there. If you are looking for some one who will love you then your dress size wont make a difference. We will all get old and wrinkly and unattractive by the standards that you are using to judge what people will think of you right now. Will your dream man leave you for a younger woman. Of course not.

I used it as an excuse myself. Finally I decided to get out there. I met some lovely people and dated quite a few over the years I did it. I met my wife when I was 2 stone over weight, I am 5 stone over weight now but trying to get back down.

Be brave, be honest and go out there. You'll get knock backs but you'd get those if you were size 8, every body does.

Metamorphasis555

Thanks for your input Dan. It was geat to get a guy's perspective on this.

RoadDog

I'm willing to overlook fashion for a certain relaxed moral attitude.

BEERRUNNER

Single ladies......feel free to message this big brown man!!!

porcelain_doll

I'm willing to overlook fashion for a certain relaxed moral attitude.

:laugh:

Seriously, I'd like to be down to a 10. Right now I'm a 12. So damn close. 12 isn't so bad but I've been stuck here FOR A YEAR.

The other reason I don't date is fear. I don't know what the hell I'm doing in the dating world. I haven't had a boyfriend in 15 years.

Here, let me be more specific. I want a guy to be able to do this with me. This was 15 years ago; I was 16.

MrsM1ggins

Single ladies......feel free to message this big brown man!!!

LOL, hey casanova...

:blushing:

BEERRUNNER

Single ladies......feel free to message this big brown man!!!

LOL, hey casanova...

:blushing:

Whats going on babycakes!?!?!?!!? Hold still cause im about to send you a message!