This has nothing to do with weightloss, I just need advice

nicolerah

I really wish neither one of them had gotten me involved, that way my perception of them both had not been changed. To answer someone's question here, she self-admitted that she did it because she was unhappy. She said she didn't love him anymore and that the only reason why she stayed with him was because he begged. She insisted he is a great dad to their kids and a good husband, but she doesn't love him like she used to. Since then they have almost split up again and they both called me to tell me the story again. I gave them both the best advice I could and also told them I didn't need to know more.

I also agree with many people on here that it's best I stay out of it because in the end I will be the bad friend who ruined everything. My dilemma is not whether I should tell him or not because he had the proof in front of him and chose not to act on it. If he wants to live his life with such distrust towards her, then it's his to live. I just feel like I'm letting her down as a friend by not wanting to hang out with her anymore and it hurts me because I never thought it would get to this.

I've read through each person's comments here and it seems people think you're trying to decide whether to tell him or not! Thanks for clearing that up in the above second post.

My advice would be to follow your heart on whether or not to continue your friendship. I'd say that maybe you could continue to be friends but try to stay at a comfortable distance without being too obvious that you're pulling away. If you believe that this friend is doing something that you are not comfortable with (namely cheating on her husband), then its ok for you to distance yourself.

missfitp

Every one of your comments made me think about the situation in different perspectives and I think I know what I need to do.


Thank you everyone for your input.