Your view of yourself versus other's view of you

Amy_B

Why are we so hard on ourselves? My husband tells me all the time how hot I am, but I just don't really see it. I have lost over 100 pounds, and I know I am smaller, but a lot of the time when I look in the mirror, I see things that still need work. Why can't I just be happy (happier) with what is there? I think others think I look good, and I wish I saw myself more that way instead of thinking "well, I look okay with clothes on" or "if only I could just tighten up X and X" or something else along those lines.

Are any of you truly happy with your body, especially if you're at or near your goal weight/body? If so, how did you make the mind change to get there? I need to do that myself.

thedreamhazer

I go through love/hate cycles with my body. While I'm working out, I'm very happy with it, and very forgiving of it "flaws". I've come a long, long way in how strong I am, how much endurance I have, etc. When i'm moving my body, I'm very happy.

It's when I'm lazing around and looking at the fat on my belly that I get the negative thoughts. "Why can't I be thinner NOW?" My boyfriend tells me I'm beautiful, but he also tells me that if I want to lose the belly fat, then he knows I can do it.

Whenever I get down on my body, I just remind myself that this is something I'll always be working on. It's not a tragic thought, but an inspiring one. I will work my whole life to improve myself, and to be a better, stronger person. I remind myself of how far I've come, and what amazing things I can do now.

The down moments will probably always be there, but if you refocus on the positive, they get to be fewer and far between.

Goal_Seeker_1988

I know exactly how you feel. I was always called the fat ugly girl. Now that I am 85lbs lighter everyone says I am pretty and guys always hit on me. But I still have no self esteem. I don't know what it feels like to be pretty. I guess we all have self issues bout ourselves. Idk.