Just don't know

Needthisforme

I have been trying to loose weight for over two years now. My boyfriend is not very helpful with this and well just the over all stress in my life does not help either. I work a long day I am up at 4:30 and have to walk to the bus stop and then walk to work after i get to town. I then proceed to work a long day from 7:30 til 5-5:30 some times I catch a ride home and well to try and help he makes dinner most of the time. Nothing healthy however. My boyfriend also has 4 kids and of course the X which puts a lot of stress on us as a couple, which in turn leads to mood eating and not wanting to do anything. I am not sure if i can do this or how to do this i want so bad to drop the dang weight and look better for me and feel better but I can not get it in my head that i don't need others to want it like i do. How do i fix this and how do I fit more into my schedule with work getting up as early as i do the house cleaning and well the over all every day stuff? I would love to have 48 hours in a day 24 for me and then 24 for the rest of the world but we all know its not going to happen.

any ideals or suggestions would be greatly helpful. and thank you if you took the time to read this.


Sincerely,
Need this for me

Heatherbelle_87

Take it from other mommis (of 1 or multiple kids)::: Do what you can in any given day that rest WILL be there tomorrow.

That being said you do need time for you. It sounds like you also need a stress reliever. A cheap MP3 player and a good evening walk (even 30 minutes) can help with that.

You are going to need to plan ahead for meals and eliminate the cheap/quick/unhealthy "bad foods" from your house all together (less temptation = less bad decisions) If you dont have a crockpot itll be a great $30 investment You can set it before you leave for the day and come home to a done (or just needs a finishing touch) meal.

Not having support is hard, no matter how much you want it for yourself. Thats why ALOT of us love this site so much!

Are the kids ever in the house? If so that adds to your cooking stress im sure depending on their ages and food likes/dislikes.

Is the boyfriend atleast supportive of you wanting to lose? Is HE holding you back or are YOU holding you back from making these changes?

skinnymeinaz

Hmmmm. I don't know where to start but I will try and maybe something will be useful. I too get up early 4 to 4:30, work 2 jobs(part-time), and have a 5 year old. Squeeze anytime in for exercise it will allow you to have some more calories, eat less of whatever he cooks and add a salad or more veggies, big thing is logging calories. That was my problem ~ I never realized how many calories I was consuming. Btw.... add friends on here and anytime you feel weak talk to someone! Hope this helps.

shonasteele

Just start making small changes. Add in one new habit or change each week. Drink more water. Eat more veggies. Change one snack a day to something healthier. A few situps and pushups before bed each night. Just a little bit at a time will help to get the ball rolling. A big key for me in that I have to do things that don't stress me out too much and that I know I'll be able to keep up long term, so it's all about baby steps. Good luck sweetie!

BettyMargaret

Hi, I do know how it feels to have very little support at home. We have seven kids which are all grown now (angel singing here). You do get exercise with all the walking. I just eat whatever is on the menu but make the best choices I can. I'm vegetarian, but my family is always trying to "reform" me, now that I'm losing weight and they can SEE it, they are trying to "fatten me up". So yeah, no support here. However, this site has saved my life! The people on here always know just what to say to change my outlook! Add friends who have similar goals, for me it's anyone trying to lose weight, lol, you'll see! I love this site and the folks on here. You will too! You really can discuss ANYTHING with them and they will try to help you! Good luck and feel free to add me!

nataliestarnes

A wonderful quote by Ralph Marston said "A very effective way to achieve whatever you desire is to detach yourself from the need for it." You have placed losing weight in the need category, because your focus continues to be on the other people in your life as well as your circumstances and realities with work. That is why you need it... your energy is going to everything else but you. Whether you notice that or not, your subconscious does, which is what leads you to the emotional eating. My suggestion is to look deeply within yourself and realize that you deserve and are worthy of making your health and eating habits a priority. You have just as much value as all of the other facets of your life. Once you see that in yourself, it will become something you "want." When our energy is directed into what we want in a positive way, it becomes a priority and then the old saying "where there's a will there's a way" comes into play. Begin small, so that you don't overwhelm yourself... You might start with a simple 20-minute walk each day, which will help you decompress from your stressful day, while burning a few extra calories at a time.

Until you build your confidence, support is imperative. Because it sounds like you aren't finding much of that at home, continue to reach out as you have done here. With a proper support system and a little belief in yourself, you will begin to see everything about your life differently and can then focus on the technical aspects of a nutrition and exercise program that works for you.

I know I'm just a random throwing advice your way, but I wish you the absolute best. Good luck in your journey! {HUGS}