The loss of a pet

PlanetVelma

I'm so sorry for your loss.

You are NOT nuts. My dogs are my best friends, and I would be devastated if something happened to one of my puppies!

nomoreplaying

Four years ago I had to put my 9 year old cat, Etharoo, to sleep. I've had my darlingTortalu for almost four years, but I still grieve for Etharoo. So does my grand-daughter. So no you are not nuts. We grieve for our family when they leave us.

jenna324

I'm so very sorry for your loss. It's not nuts or crazy at all. Our pets are essentially our children. We take care of them & love them. I had to put my sweet Eddie down right before Christmas and that was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. He was only 3 when he died (he had FIP, a fatal feline disease). I loved that cat so much and I miss him everyday. I still cry when I'm alone or when I find one of his toys that was stuck under the fridge. The only comfort I can offer you is that you gave your sweet dog a great life that he might not have had if you two wouldn't have found each other. My vet gave me a poem called the "Rainbow Bridge" that sums up everything a pet owner feels after the loss of their pet:

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

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estinson79

What you're going through is completely normal. I had a black lab who lived to 14 years, and I decided to put her down after her health started failing quickly. This was 6 years ago and I still cry about her. I miss her, and I have such vivid memories and dreams about her, I tell myself it is her way of visiting me and checking in on me.

I think it took me a few days to get back to basic "functioning", like get back to work and make it through the day without crying... Then it was a few months of bouncing between complete sadness and then peace. They will always be a part of our lives, and you will still remember your golden retreiver years down the road. Try to focus on the great live that you gave him/her and remember the good stuff.

I decided to get another dog 2 years ago, and she will never replace my first dog, but she is loved just as much and in a different way. It will get easier as the days go by, take care of yourself

Judyph6

so sorry about your pet...I cried out of the blue for a month after my dog was hit by a car years back....I would sit down and look out the window and see her running up the walk way and jumping up into my husbands arms....it will get better with time...maybe long walks with music might help your pain.... and still help with weight loss...take care

mzhokie

Last year we found out our cat had a tumor on her cheek bone. There wasn't much we could do but ease her pain. So I spent two months watching her, giving her meds, making sure she was eating, etc. It just tore me up to watch her melt away. At least one of the meds made her feel almost like a kitten again. It had some anti-arthritis meds in it and it made her old bones feel new again. But eventually you know the time has come and you have to make that decision. I can feel your pain.

The stress was horrible so I didn't worry about my diet but I did get on the treadmill, pretty much every day. Some days it was a slow walk, some days it was more. I had to burn some of that stress off or it was going to do some damage. It actually did me a lot of good.

Find a way to let it out..... and when the time is right, you might want to add a new four legged friend to the family. We now have a dog and she means the world to us. We take long walks together.

but on a lighter note.... we swear our cat's ghost sometimes haunts our dog. Our cat's bed was on a shelf in the corner of our living room. Once in a while our dog will jump up and start huffing at that corner. I haven't figured out a logical reason for this. She even goes over to the corner and barks at the shelf. The thing is.... our cat would totally do something like that to mess with our dog. It made us smile the few times we have seen it happen. I like knowing she is looking out for us and testing our new pet to make sure she is worthy to be ours! hehehe

WickedGarden

"May the warm memories of the times you spent with your pet fill your heart with joy rather than sadness"

Buddhasmiracle

I am very sorry for your loss. It is very natural to grieve the loss of an animal companion. My Bridget passed two years ago and since then I adopted another pitbull from an animal shelter. As much as I love my Bonnie, I still miss Bridget. I kept her color (still has her hair and her smell on it) and her ashes in a beautiful box. Don't hesitate to look in your local newspaper or search on the internet in your area under "pet loss" or "pet grievance." Sometimes animal shelters, even trainers and boarders volunteer grievance therapy to help people through their loss and help them see t hey are not alone. Take care.

Buddhasmiracle

I am very sorry for your loss. It is very natural to grieve the loss of an animal companion. My Bridget passed two years ago and since then I adopted another pitbull from an animal shelter. As much as I love my Bonnie, I still miss Bridget. I kept her collar (still has her hair and her smell on it) and her ashes in a beautiful box. Don't hesitate to look in your local newspaper or search on the internet in your area under "pet loss" or "pet grievance." Sometimes animal shelters, even trainers and boarders volunteer grievance therapy to help people through their loss and help them see t hey are not alone. Take care.

Loislaine61

I'm so sorry to hear you lost Fletch.

No you are not nuts. You go through the same grieving process losing a beloved pet as you would losing a family member, because he was a family member. You can't hurry the grieving process so give yourself time and you'll know when it's time to move on get back to your life. Take it one day at a time and sometimes it's one minute at a time.

I lost my cat in January 2010 and I still miss him. I got him when he was 4 weeks old and he passed away of old age when he was 18 years old.

I understand your sadness.

tageekly

You're not nuts at all! I just lost my 11-year-old cat a couple of weeks ago and I still miss him every day. I actually took some time off from worrying about calories and exercise after he passed away.

I'm so sorry about your pup - many people know what you're going through and I wish you well. Take care of yourself the best you can and remember all the good times!

pipcd34

i'm sorry for your loss, as you can see i have 3 goldens, we just lost our cat after 16yrs. the oldest is having issues and it is very hard to stay on track. but i keep doing it because i have to for me and my sanity. keep at it.. even while you're crying... don't stop

treetop57

Am I nuts?? Do others take the loss of a pet this hard.

No, you're not nuts. And yes others do take such a loss this hard.

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Give yourself time. It takes time to learn to live without someone who loved you so unconditionally.

TeachTheGirl

Pets are family. You give to them, they give to you. You're going to feel something when they're no longer with you.

I lost my babies in November of last year. I had bonded parakeets who'd greet me with wolf-whistles whenever I came home, blew kisses and nibbled my fingers for kisses. Shu passed away suddenly and Sox passed away around 10 minutes later. We think he died because he missed his friend. And now I miss them both. I'll find a way to tribute them someday...

goforkissy

I too had to put my pug down in October of 2011. (see profile pic) I was lost for days. It was very hard to try and stay on track and not eat everything in site. I did end up ordering a small pepperoni pizza the day he was to be put down (for cancer) and we both ate it! So my splurge turned into a lasting moment for the both of us. It will get easier. Just try and work through it with friends or family. You can always get back on track. Just go through the greiving process on your own terms and time. Sorry for your loss.


ETA: A small poem someone sent to me that I put on a frame with my beloved Tank's photo.

If love could build a stairway
And memories a lane
I'd walk on up to heaven
And bring you home again.

*hugs to you*

PANZERIA

On Monday I had to put my Golden Retriever, Fletch, down. I am completely crushed. I feel like I could burst into tears at any moment.... and everytime I'm alone, I do. I'm just heartbroken.

Paying attention to eating right and exercising is totally out the window. What little energy I have is focused on just getting throught the day.

Am I nuts?? Do others take the loss of a pet this hard.

You aren't nuts in the slightest. Over the past three years, I've lost 4 animals that are precious to me. My first puppy, Echo, was 6 months old when she was hit by a car. One of my cats was killed, the other died of old age, and my old family retriever was put down last March. =( Each one is hard. The worst was Echo - I spent three weeks crying.

JanetLM73

I have 5 animals in my house, they are part of the family. You are not nuts! Big hugs to you!

melinda200208

I am truly sorry for the loss of your pet. I have a 2 year old Puggle and I NEVER thought I could love her so much! I would be devastated if she passed away. I am sure I would be crying a lot for a while. I just can't imagine. It's ok to cry and grieve. I hope you find peace and comfort within time and try to remember the good memories you had. My thoughts and prayers will be with you. ;(

iuew

On Monday I had to put my Golden Retriever, Fletch, down. I am completely crushed. I feel like I could burst into tears at any moment.... and everytime I'm alone, I do. I'm just heartbroken.

Paying attention to eating right and exercising is totally out the window. What little energy I have is focused on just getting throught the day.

Am I nuts?? Do others take the loss of a pet this hard.

really sorry to hear you lost a pet. it has been a bad year for pets in my own family, as well.

cornfritter22

Had to stop reading 3/4 into the first page because I started crying. Big animal lover here. I hope my doggy is with us for a long long time. I still think about and miss my childhood dog that passed away ten years ago.

misalillstead

So sorry for your loss You are not nuts at all! Pets are family too, and its hard when they're gone.
::hugs::

Crystalclear22

Very sorry to hear about your loss. This just happened to me 2 weeks ago. My dog was in and out of the vet for 2 weeks - nothing working - and finally an ultrasound found a rare cancer that was making her suffer pretty badly. I had to have her put down right there at the ER and was just devastated. I barely logged into MFP for a week and am just now getting back to it. All my exercise and good eating habits went out the window. In my case, I had lost my appetite completely (unheard of), i was just so upset. In a not so good way at all I did manage to maintain my weight loss progress - but in a very unhealthy way.

It's true - losing a pet really takes a toll on your general aura. For so long, you have this routine with your pet and then suddenly it's gone.. I have struggled the last 2 weeks because I walked my dog for 2-3 miles every night. On weekends we ran around in the park. It turned into part of my workout and it's hard to reach my exercise goals now because working out with my dog was what I enjoyed doing, and it was working quite well for me (and her!).

Just know that your dog was very lucky to have a person like you in his life. It's because of you that he was a well-balanced, good dog.

I will be getting a new puppy in May. Not to replace my Stella, but because I love dogs, have always had them around, and know I can give another pup just as good a life as Stella had. It's been lonely for me - and I'm starting to look forward to having a walking partner again and get myself back on track.

Again, very sorry to hear such sad news. I hope you can take comfort in the fact that you did what you could and he had a good doggy life. Then you can celebrate it, smile and look forward.

Bunnybeesweet

My heart goes out to you. Losing a fur baby is devastating, and if anyone tells you you're nuts, THAT person is nuts. I'm no longer friends with someone because of this very issue. She was full of judgment and even had the nerve to tell me my "grief dragged on too long". I had so much trouble sleeping (even months later) that eventually I decided to train for a half' marathon, and i used that as a platform to raise money for an animal rights organization in my Goudie's honor. I raised over $3600! I still miss Goudie every day, but I am so grateful for the time we had. And you know what? I don't miss that "friend" who thought I was nuts.

May time and happy memories bring you comfort...

nikki_starr

On April 15th 2011, at 3:15 pm I found my baby boy (Boots Alexander)(cat) having sezures. He had them in my arms until 4:00 pm when he passed away. I had him for almost 16 years. He had heath problems but always pulled through. He was a fighter. It is going to be a year on the 15th, and what bothers me the most is that I buried him in my (ex)finance's backyard, and now I can't visit him. I love him so much and many ppl think I am crazy too, but you are not, they are our lives, our babies, our everything. I will pray for you. :brokenheart: :sad:

BlueJue2

Oh my gosh! When I put my dog of 13 years down, I cried for 3 straight days. You have your cry and your grieving, it is okay! So sorry for you, I know yiour pain!