The difference between failing and FAILING

JRRCLR

I gotta say...it breaks my heart to see people beat themselves up because their choices in the day weren't perfect. When I have a rough day, it's rough...it's over the top and what made me the weight I am. To me THAT is the failure. To hear someone say "I failed" when their numbers say otherwise, or if they had mayonnaise on their turkey sandwich or only burned 200 calories today is hard.
I can't get my eating under control. I wish I could "fail" like some of these people.

withchaco

Have you tried not allowing "bad" food in the house, leaving only healthy options available? It's gonna be difficult if your household members all eat different things, but it does make it much easier when you don't have unhealthy but tempting food choices within reach.

hopebuck

thanks for putting it in perspective, you are very right!!!!! hard part for me is if I "fail" one time...it is a down hill spiral and it lasts for days...i'm on day 3 of splurging and not tracking... but,you are right...NOT failing... just tripped

thanks!

maureendonahue

You have lost 11 lbs. That's not failing! It will take some time to get your eating under control. It took quite awhile to get out of control, and it will take a bit to bring it back.

You can do this! One day at a time!!

emmaleigh47

Getting the eating under control is the hardest part for me. For right now, I balance it by increasing my exercise and I plan, plan, plan. Thus far it has been working for me. Keep red light foods out of your house... or teach yourself portion control!
Good luck!

JRRCLR

Thanks everyone! I know my biggest problem is it has to be all or nothing...either I'm perfect in my food or I'm absolutely out of control. If I have a slip up I say "well, today is shot" and I just gorge. I need to let the small slip ups just be that...small!

withchaco

Getting the eating under control is the hardest part for me. For right now, I balance it by increasing my exercise and I plan, plan, plan. Thus far it has been working for me. Keep red light foods out of your house... or teach yourself portion control!
Good luck!

Golden words. If I don't plan at LEAST one day ahead of time, I usually won't make bad choices but will spend at least 30 minutes (sometimes well over one hour!!) before each meal, trying to decide what to eat. This can be very bad, especially for breakfast, or a meal following a workout when I'm starving. I usually have 2-3 days planned out; that way I know when I'm going to have tasty treats, and how I'm going to balance everything out.

Portion control is also a lifesaver When it comes to food that has to be weighed for accurate portion control, I pre-weigh everything, put each portion in separate containers, and stick a post-it note that says "[my] food, X grams, X calories." That's how badly I need planning!

emmaleigh47

Thanks everyone! I know my biggest problem is it has to be all or nothing...either I'm perfect in my food or I'm absolutely out of control. If I have a slip up I say "well, today is shot" and I just gorge. I need to let the small slip ups just be that...small!

Oh yes ... get rid of that all or nothing attitude. Its that attitude that made WW fail for me because since everything was weekly it was too easy to say ... well I will do better next week.
Here its daily... be more gooder than badder (yes I know thats bad grammar) but thats what it is all about!

januadiaboli

I *so* hear you ... being a perfectionist certainly doesn't help, and I've (more often than I care to admit) just completely let things slide after one small slip up.

I'm getting better, but it's slow going. I have to remember that one slip doesn't have to mean that the day is a complete write-off. It just means more time exercising and better food choices later. I've also stopped letting certain foods into the house, at least in quantity, and that seems to be helping.

I didn't notice a big change, but things are starting to change, albeit not nearly as quickly as I'd like.

So, take a big breath, give yourself a mental hug, allow yourself to be fallible, and (most importantly) let yourself move on. Personally, I have to remember that I'm making some pretty major changes, completely upending our way of life and way of eating, so slip ups are only natural.

Sending hugs and positive thoughts your way!

JRRCLR

Here its daily... be more gooder than badder (yes I know thats bad grammar) but thats what it is all about!

Daily...one day, heck, one MEAL at a time...I like that

withchaco

Here its daily... be more gooder than badder (yes I know thats bad grammar) but thats what it is all about!

Daily...one day, heck, one MEAL at a time...I like that

:flowerforyou: You can do it!

When I feel like stopping in the middle of a long cardio workout, I look at the timer on the machine and keep saying to myself, "one minute at a time"... and when one minute becomes too long, I just go "10 seconds at a time."