I'm the same me...

sd101483

A much needed rant: To start, I am almost 50 lbs down from my heaviest...I am still the same person on the inside (tho, I will add I do have a lot more confidence), but much changed on the outside. I now get tons of attention where I never got any before. I don't necessarily MIND the attention (Tho, I'm not always sure how to respond, since I'm not used to it) but, in some ways, it offends me. I AM THE SAME PERSON - just a smaller version. Granted, these people don't have any idea that I was ever heavier - but odds are good that when I was, they wouldn't have given me a 2nd glance - it kind of toys with my emotions a little bit - as psychotic as that may sound - but, you wouldn't have given me a chance before, but now, I'm worth talking to. At the same time, I know we are a vain society, myself included in a lot of ways...so...I guess I'm torn on it - I appreciate it, but sometimes it really gets to me. *End Rant*

Anyone else find this to be the case?

aymetcalf

I totally understand! I was just talking to a friend about this yesterday. I almost get upset when I get attention from a guy and think to myself "you would have never been nice to me a year ago"... i'm still the same person, same charm, same smile, same thoughts, but now people notice me... nice and frustrating at the same time!

sla0814

I've toyed with those emotions as well...There are times when I get sad because I am the same person with the same heart as I was 70 lbs heavier yet I'm getting way more attention then I've ever gotten! However, as you stated, I am more confident in life, in myself, in my health and people are attracted to that. The Sara before, still a great person, tended to hide behind her weight, had little to no confidence...you know what I mean??

AmandaDrews

Yeah, I know what you mean. I've only lost about 20 lbs myself since I started, but I have noticed that I get more attention than before. Not that I mind the attention, but why now? Because I'm slimmer than before? Whatever! Luckily I still have those same friends from before and they still want to hang with me and encourage me. They help keep me focused. Also, I sometimes like to think (convince myself really) that now those other people just couldn't see past my weight, but now they can and are wanting to be friends. I still have a long ways to go, so this thought helps a little. But at the same time, I know the truth and it makes me want to mean back, though that isn't in my nature, so of course I take it with a grain salt. Oh look, I ranted too... lol We are in the same boat. I understand, completely!

emilybender

I definitely hear you on this one. At my chubbier I get stupid comments (from my family no less), of how there is more to grab on to.. (I know, fodder for the therapist!) And when I'm thinner, I get "ohh you look much better, how much have you lost, blah blah blah" ... my mantra now is. I'm beautiful now and I will be beautiful heavy or thin(and my hubby backs that up). And importantly I drew the line with my family. "you don't talk about my body, period! It is hurtful". Once they realize that it comes across as rude and that their words cause pain, they think twice. I would say, focus on how you feel. Confidence is infectious. People pick up on that energy you give off. Congrats on your hard work! You have a lot to be proud of.