Opinion Seeking Rant!!! ;-)

LJV1031

When people see me and say, "you're too skinny", is it cuz I'm too skinny, or because they're too fat... and not doing anything about it??? Granted, I started at a healthy weight when I got on MFP, but I'm STILL at a healthy weight now. (according to BMI & body fat percentage AND my mirror). I haven't even lost more than 15lbs, all together (pre & post MFP), so it is kind of annoying. I was REALLY annoyed when a coworker "jokingly" asked if I throw up after eating (because I DO constantly eat). *ugh*... Okay, rant over... thanks for "listening"!!!

If anyone here would like to give their input, I'm going to put a pic with a white dress in my profile pix, which is from like 2 or 3 days ago. Since I'm ASKING for this input, it will not be taken negatively. I'm NOW curious if they're right and I'm being sensitive, or if they just don't want to see me change for the better. :flowerforyou:

FYI: My weight is at "maintain" right now, and before that was only 1/2lb at a time. Never really aspired to lose much weight. Thanks again.

ladybug1620

I don't think you are too skinny at all. You look great!

MJLavaty

You look great. As long as you feel healthy, don't let what they say bother you.

Cherese1983

I think you look great!!

Sugarchef

You look really good and healthy!

jlsAhava

You look healthy to me... At least in that one profile pic!

Elizabeth_C34

Jealousy and insecurity are two ugly emotions. FYI you look awesome! :-)

kdrumeler

This is one of my biggest pet peeves...."you're too skinny" or "you don't have to work out" UGH. I'm thin because I work out and I'M NOT TOO SKINNY...Thinner folks have body issues too and people like that just say these things to make themselves feel better. I'm all about maintaining a healthy weight and a healthy lifestyle

christy_frank

I get that all the time. I am not overweight. My BMI is 24.5% (approx) I think society is warped and I think people are jealous. Myself and another girl even had shirts made up "I'm not too skinny....You're just fat...."
I once had a coworker comment that I was starving myself. I had to approach her regarding her comments, that I took offense to the comments.
It does not look like you are too skinny. You look healthy. I am working on bringing down my body fat percentage. I want to be closer to 22% and currently am closer to 30% so I have a ways to go.
You still have your curves, you look amazing! They are just jealous!

sophjakesmom

You look great! people just have a hard time accepting a change. Good job!

Scoobies87

You look amazing. I have had a lot of this too, 'you don't need to lose weight', people putting you down. It is just jealousy, as mentioned above.

dmoses

IMHO it's because as a society we've forgotten what 'normal' looks like! everything and everyone is supersized, and we've started to think of the larger sizes as 'normal'.

sas16

I don't think you look too skinny. You look healthy & great by the way!

ShaeDetermined

mmmmmm
i love rants, they make my day worthwhile :drinker:

you do not look too thin, you look great.
as long as u FEEL healthy, keep doing what you're doing.

there are lots of haters out there. don't let em bring you down.

Elizabeth_C34

IMHO it's because as a society we've forgotten what 'normal' looks like! everything and everyone is supersized, and we've started to think of the larger sizes as 'normal'.

This is SO true!

LJV1031

Thank you all, for your kind words. :flowerforyou: :blushing: Although I've known and agree with what you are all saying about society and jealouse (as well as people becoming accustomed to a super-sized population), it just seems like this past week it has been coming at me triple speed with the "you're too skinny" comments, so I had to make sure it IS them and NOT me!!! LOL. Thanks again everyone, your feedback has made my day!!!

EDesq

I have a question...When people come on here and "Rant" about "People" saying they look to skinny, what are they asking for? Are you asking for affirmation or do you want/need to be told that you look good (because NO ONE can tell if a person is HEALTHY or have Well-being from looking outside.)

My response to topics like this is, " Only YOU know what You are doing, ONLY you and your health care providers know if you are healthy." Yes, there are haters out there (in Everything) but YOU have to be Secure enough in Yourself to keep living healthy or to affirm YOURSELF. Love, Respect and Value You, then maybe what "people" say or don't say will not matter so much.

My Opinion to the Opinion Seeking Rant.

Be Well

Soziberry

I know exactly what some of you mean. After losing 6 stone friends and family are now saying I should stop now. I am still not at perfect BMI but I wasn't aiming for anyway. Unless we don't have a goal and just want to keep losing, tell people to mind their business.

LJV1031

I can't speak for everyone, but I wanted an opinion of how I LOOK to others who are aiming for a common goal, NOT looking for anyone to tell me I'm healthy. It is about encouragement, and it my seem like fishing for compliments, but sometimes that's what people need. Trust me, I'm very secure and have a great self-esteem, (depending on who you ask, too much at times) but every so often, if you hear something enough times it CAN make you wonder if you're being delusional about yourself.

I look in the mirror (and in anything that I can see my reflection in) tons of times a day, and I see a happy, healthy, great looking person. There are other people who look in those same mirrors and see someone who is too fat, too skinny, unattractive, or any other adjective you'd like to put in there. Those opinions of oneself are NOT always correct, hence having 90lb girls, who are anorexic, because they look in the mirror and see a fat girl... or those who look in the mirror and can only see their "imperfections", and get tons of plastic surgery. So, while I see someone with a healthy image in the mirror, I don't want to be one of those delusional people who goes too far, because they can't see what others see. From the words of a lot of people that I have encountered lately, my self image appeared to be off, and though I didn't think that I was going crazy or going too far, I decided to get some input from those with like minded/health conscious goals. THAT is where MY post came from.

kirstiey

I can't speak for everyone, but I wanted an opinion of how I LOOK to others who are aiming for a common goal, NOT looking for anyone to tell me I'm healthy. It is about encouragement, and it my seem like fishing for compliments, but sometimes that's what people need. Trust me, I'm very secure and have a great self-esteem, (depending on who you ask, too much at times) but every so often, if you hear something enough times it CAN make you wonder if you're being delusional about yourself.

I look in the mirror (and in anything that I can see my reflection in) tons of times a day, and I see a happy, healthy, great looking person. There are other people who look in those same mirrors and see someone who is too fat, too skinny, unattractive, or any other adjective you'd like to put in there. Those opinions of oneself are NOT always correct, hence having 90lb girls, who are anorexic, because they look in the mirror and see a fat girl... or those who look in the mirror and can only see their "imperfections", and get tons of plastic surgery. So, while I see someone with a healthy image in the mirror, I don't want to be one of those delusional people who goes too far, because they can't see what others see. From the words of a lot of people that I have encountered lately, my self image appeared to be off, and though I didn't think that I was going crazy or going too far, I decided to get some input from those with like minded/health conscious goals. THAT is where MY post came from.

Good response! I think you look the right side of slim. Not too skinny not too chunky. You could even lose up to 7lbs more and still not look too skinny OMHO. Not that you should / need to, just trying to give some perspective.

LJV1031

Thank you kirstiey. Trust me, no offense taken at your comment at all, like I originally said, comments are welcomed, because I ASKED for them. I actually agree with you, so I wouldn't mind if I lost a few more pounds, but right now, I'm more focused on toning, so we'll see what happens.

lunamare

I totally get where your rant was coming from. When DH and I started dating his mother was about half the size of me. 16 years later, the tables have turned quite a bit. I workout and I eat healthy because I enjoy it. Yes, right now I'm trying to lose a few pounds so I feel good in my summer clothes, but, I've been working out and eating healthy for years, this is nothing new. I hate when his family starts in on me about being too skinny. I'm not. At 5'8" 140 - 145lbs is normal for my body type. Just because they have gained weight and are uncomfortable with it they want me to be uncomfortable with being healthy. Ain't gonna work. I have a 9 year old little girl and I need to set a good example for her. I want her to enjoy physical activity and eating healthy. I don't want her being obsessed with looks and sizes. When people say something like that to you give them a comeback like, "Well thank you for your opinion, I'll ask my doctor about it the next time I see her" and see what they say.

LJV1031

That sounds like an excellent reply lunamare!!! :laugh: Good luck with your goals, you look great and from what you're saying, you're right on track to being a good role model for your little girl.

Thanks again everyone for your kind words, encouragement, opinions, and constructive criticisms!!! :flowerforyou:

rv88

It kills me that people are also telling me I am losing too much weight. I am going to continue regardless but why are people so interested in m looks. It is my body, not their body so there is no need to be concerned... :bigsmile:

LJV1031

EXACTLY Renee!!! That's what I told one of my coworkers. (The one who asked if I puked after eating). I told him, he needed to pay more attention to HIS body and worry a LOT less about mine!!!

lunamare

Actually, funny story now but not back then. I was sick a few years ago and lost a ton of weight and I really was too thin. A moron friend of Dh's commented on how much weight I had lost (mind you, this jerk used to go on and on about his bimbo trophy wife who left him after about 1 year of marriage) and I shut him up by telling him I had been sick and yes I lost too much weight and no I still wasn't feeling well. Another friend at work made a comment to me a little while later of "Okay, are you going to stop losing weight now?" And at least the way he said it I knew he meant well. I explained to him in a kinder manner that I had been sick and yes, I was trying to gain some weight back. It's funny how the situation and the way it's stated to you can change the way you respond and feel about the comment.

LJV1031

*sigh* People are so inconsiderate at times. There is a reason we are taught to be tactful and not blurt out the first thing that comes to our heads, but I guess people just don't get it!!! Like the coworker I mentioned... asking me if I throw up after eating. This is the SAME guy who a year ago, told me I need to stop eating so much before I get fat!!! LOL... maybe he thinks he's the reason I've shaped up. Too bad for him, I didn't even think of his rude comment until 2.5 seconds ago, since he first said it! ;-)

Actavella

I read this poem once that said when your light shines it blinds others and they want to tone down the light because it bothers them. People are jealous and threatened when someone else is a SUCCESS AT ANYTHING. Even with education or relationships. I am a pre-med student, and I even find that people get offended when I tell them I want to be a doctor. They say "why don't you want to be a nurse?". Miserable people are threatened by happy, ambitious individuals as yourself! SHINE YOUR LIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

berniemay

You look great. As long as you feel healthy, don't let what they say bother you.

elinger

You look great I hope to look that skinny LOL
I think people get use to seeing people at a ceartain weight and when that changes they find it different and they say your too skinny, but theyll get use the new you just as much as you like the new you .

LJV1031

Thank you ladies. I'm back to being my normal, confident self. Screw the rest! I'm awesome... as are all of you!!! =D Thanks for all the kind words and encouragement!!! :flowerforyou: