Why the harshness for adding friends?

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  • emd0019
    emd0019 Posts: 179 Member
    I don't understand why someone would turn down the opportunity for more encouragement, but some people just don't appreciate what they are being offered. Everyone who has requested to be my friend usually sends me a little message with it. I appreciate all the support I can get. I like hearing comments from men too because sometimes they have a different view of cardio or lifting and can help you to try something new out in your workout
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,412 Member
    Damn!! I make one little cleavage remark and I'm singled out for a time out.

    Poor Road Dog, I enjoy reading your comments. ;-)
  • FORKDOWN
    FORKDOWN Posts: 1,754
    I am use to getting rejected for sex.

    :laugh:
  • FORKDOWN
    FORKDOWN Posts: 1,754
    I have far more lady friends here then men but the guys I do have are cool and fun and just as supportive of the ladies as they are each other.
    Sure there is some flirting and teasing back and forth but doesn`t take away from what great true friends they all are.:smile:

    Carl, your a true freind and a great flirt.

    *smack on the butt*
  • Thomasm198
    Thomasm198 Posts: 3,189 Member
    I am use to getting rejected for sex.

    :laugh:
    Well you were warned not to numb your hand too much :laugh:
  • xXxKayleighxXx
    xXxKayleighxXx Posts: 103
    Aww, that's a shame the guy feels like he has to put that on his profile.

    It is understandable that some people prefer to not to add members of the opposite sex, but only half the guys on here are sexual deviants :tongue:

    Honestly, i have male and female friends and there is a little flirting and teasing, but nothing creepy or over the top. I've accepted every request and if i felt like we weren't really helping eachother, or i felt uncofortable, i'd just hit the delete button. No big deal.
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    I have seen those complaints as well. I'm just a really crappy friend IRL and online so...... *trailing off* Yeah, I'm not so supportive.
  • writtenINthestars
    writtenINthestars Posts: 1,933 Member
    I get what you're saying...and have seen it on the boards here and there.

    Frankly, I'm open to have the guys and gals on my friends list...
  • Imsojen
    Imsojen Posts: 192 Member
    Damn!! I make one little cleavage remark and I'm singled out for a time out.

    LOL - Was that on my before picture?



    Haha your cracking me up...
    I have male and female friends I enjoy. I notice that my male friends are more tough love, I appreciate that. The girls are awesome as well, but sometimes I need to hear "quit yer whining and get back to work". I really love a well balanced friends list :)
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    I have far more lady friends here then men but the guys I do have are cool and fun and just as supportive of the ladies as they are each other.
    Sure there is some flirting and teasing back and forth but doesn`t take away from what great true friends they all are.:smile:

    Carl, your a true freind and a great flirt.

    *smack on the butt*

    :blushing: :blushing:
  • hllamaster
    hllamaster Posts: 137 Member
    He'll im old fat and act like a 13 year old....I here to pick up women half my age...and if I get lucky I might just get fit chasing them.....ha
  • VeganGal84
    VeganGal84 Posts: 938 Member
    Interesting! I have also seen some "Don't friend me without a message and/or picture" requests...

    Anyone who wants to be my friend, I will take you. :-)
  • angryguy77
    angryguy77 Posts: 836 Member
    I am use to getting rejected for sex.

    :laugh:

    marriage is a great primer for this site
  • NewVonnie
    NewVonnie Posts: 683 Member
    Damn!! I make one little cleavage remark and I'm singled out for a time out.

    LOL - Was that on my before picture?



    Haha your cracking me up...
    I have male and female friends I enjoy. I notice that my male friends are more tough love, I appreciate that. The girls are awesome as well, but sometimes I need to hear "quit yer whining and get back to work". I really love a well balanced friends list :)

    I agree. I like that the guys arent afraid to tell it like it is. I sometimes need to be kicked in the butt. The girls are great and encouraging but guys are more direct, less afraid of how they are percieved...or not..IDK..And yeah sometimes the guys are a wealth of knowledge..why not have access to that.
  • Saruman_w
    Saruman_w Posts: 1,531 Member
    I won't be sending anybody any friend requests anyway.
  • kristarablue
    kristarablue Posts: 702 Member
    Damn!! I make one little cleavage remark and I'm singled out for a time out.

    LOL - Was that on my before picture?

    See, I actually like having guy friends on here for just this reason. It's been my experience that the comments that make me laugh the most generally come from the guys.


    I thought I might get dropped for flirting....

    What!! Mike you flirt...wow, I am feelin....all kinds of bad, I have not gotten any Mike action....little verklempt I am.

    But I have gotten dropped because a wife was jealous and let me tell you I was not even being flirty, just supportive but it secretly gave me a boost that someone would actually be jealous of me...lol....but was sad to lose such a good friend for really no reason.
  • PegasusDeb
    PegasusDeb Posts: 665 Member
    Dam... where are these flirty guys??? LOL :laugh:
    I have several guy friends, and they ROCK!!
  • koosdel
    koosdel Posts: 3,317 Member
    I agree, Jodi Foster does have nice shoulders.
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    I am willing to add anyone dumb enough to send me a friend request. I ask for a message, but as you can see on my profile, it isn't too demanding. Besides I figure they will learn their lesson after the 5th irrelevant post.

    As to the OP's point, I do not think I have been turned down by a female yet, even asking about what they were wearing. I have subsequently been deleted by hundreds.
  • jessimacar
    jessimacar Posts: 291
    I am willing to add anyone dumb enough to send me a friend request. I ask for a message, but as you can see on my profile, it isn't too demanding. Besides I figure they will learn their lesson after the 5th irrelevant post.

    As to the OP's point, I do not think I have been turned down by a female yet, even asking about what they were wearing. I have subsequently been deleted by hundreds.

    This doesn't even justify his awesome and irrelevant posts. Lol.

    BUT I can imagine some women not accepting or adding men as "friends" if they are very open about they're female problems, and may not feel comfortable posting things if men could read them. It might just be a 'TMI' thing. Lol.
  • spiritcrusher
    spiritcrusher Posts: 326 Member
    I'm too lazy to add people but I'll accept every add.
  • JennieAL
    JennieAL Posts: 1,726 Member
    I welcome the friendship and support of the opposite sex... I find it refreshing they aren't caught up in the "perfect body" type as lots of women are... guys keep it real.... well, not always :) But it's cool to interact with men and women. And I laugh at those girls who type that oh-so-*****y you must do exactly as I say or you won't be added message... f that :) Not every guy wants you that bad, chickies.
  • WomanPower79
    WomanPower79 Posts: 37
    I deleted a guy for his sexual/come on in a PM sent to me. it happened on more than one occasion. He even sent his number. However, i do have other great male friends. PLUS for a moment I had vowed 'NO more Guys" . I've had 2 new male friends since then. That didnt last long. lol . But i make it known its about fun and fitness. we are adults.. adults talk trash but don't send me your number and when i re-explain im in a devoted relationship....you reply.. no for real call me... NO NO BABES!! this is not the strip and Im not a little girl! No mean NO! lol...So maybe these women have had multiple experiences with this non-sense.. I mean.. yes.. i showed my boo-tay and boobs but don't flirt with me! LMAO!!!
  • Adrianamdelacruz
    Adrianamdelacruz Posts: 67
    i add anyone that requests me. Innocent until proven guilty.
    Very well stated! I totally agree.
  • brewingaz
    brewingaz Posts: 1,136 Member
    No one wants to add a male unicorn.
  • StaceyRN07
    StaceyRN07 Posts: 27 Member
    Damn!! I make one little cleavage remark and I'm singled out for a time out.

    Hahahaha!
  • Heather75
    Heather75 Posts: 3,386 Member
    Everyone wants to add a male unicorn.


    There you go! I fixed it. :)
  • brewingaz
    brewingaz Posts: 1,136 Member
    Everyone wants to add a male unicorn.


    There you go! I fixed it. :)

    You're my bff.
  • Heather75
    Heather75 Posts: 3,386 Member
    Everyone wants to add a male unicorn.


    There you go! I fixed it. :)

    You're my bff.

    I know.
  • songbyrdsweet
    songbyrdsweet Posts: 5,691 Member
    I have seen that a lot from guys and girls. They're like, 'Don't add me without a legitimate reason or else I won't be your friend, arrgghh!!' To my knowledge, there's no limit on the number of friends we can have. Plus, what if I don't have what I think is a legit reason? Is it good enough to like one post by this person? Or am I moving too soon? Do I have to buy them dinner? Will they be offended by my forwardness? Ugh, this is COMPLICATED! :ohwell:

    Anywho...I accept all my friend requests. I hope people don't expect me to reach out to them a whole lot because I just don't think about it. :laugh: But I like all you guys.
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