Is there anyone who has a lack of support from family?

hexxkitten

My partner is 100% with me on this journey and is not only supportive, he is right there with me every step of the way and looking forward to a better life for us both.

But my mother on the other hand - I have gotten to the point now where I just plain avoid her.

If you want all the story its on my blog here on MFP http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/hexxkitten/view/weigh-in-time-june-2011-118782

I learned all of my bad habbits for food from her, all my views of portion sizes are skewed from growing up with her and yet she cannot support me on this. What is worse is that she gets worse as I shrink - and trust me, she is not coming from a motherly worry I am making myself sick - because if I do not do this I will stay sick and will kill me.

Please tell me I am not alone with family like this.

If you have family or friends like this how do you deal with them?

lstnlondry

OMG first of all you made me miss Little Britain soooo bad!! I don't feel the support that I would like to have. My husband and diabetes & thyroid problem, I don't have any health issues now, aside from the fact that I could stand to lose about 40 pounds and would like to stop the cycle for my kids. Do the best you can, don't fall often like me.

RainyDayKelli

You're not alone! I've found that a lot of my female family members react one of two ways. They either 1) ignore it, or 2) try to feed me cake. I really think they feel threatened by it. You could always mention it to her, she may not be aware of her behavior.

My husband, on the other hand, is constantly trying to tell me what I can and cannot have, while being unwilling to make any changes in his own life style. I'm trying to change my eating habits to save my life: I have high blood pressure, high cholesterol AND diabetes. I already know what I should and should not have, but trying to put limits on me is only going to make me rebel (and get a resentment).

SarahWrittenThin

Sorry about the struggles with your mom, its hard to understand her point of view. I would think in her situation she would want you to regain your health and not end up in the situation she is. perhaps she is resentful that you are doing it and she maybe thinks she can't? If you're looking for some friends you can add me I'm supportive.

Cougargirl50

I'm in the same boat as you. I have been doing this since the beginning of May, so far I have lost 33 lbs. Not only is my family non supportive but neither is my husband. I have seen family now more than once and not one has said oh you look good, or wow what are you doing to lose weight or dang your clothes are getting baggy. My husband hasn't said anything either. The only ones that are showing me support or helping me through the times I would like to give up are the girls at my work in my office. They have been so supportive through this and I love each and everyone of them. As far as my family I don't get anything from them...

barbiecat

:flowerforyou: :laugh: My mother encouraged me to lose weight all my life.....she told people that I had two grandmothers with big rear ends and that I had inherited both of them, but when I noticeably reduced my portion size or turned down food at her house she would repeat the story of the man who tried to save money by feeding his horse a little less every day, but unfortunately, when he got the horse down to one oat a day, the horse died..........when she didn't tell the story she would just look at my plate and hold up one finger to remind me about the one oat...........I had to distance myself emotionally from my mother in a lot of ways because she wasn't healthy for me.......I lost weight years ago when she was alive and then put the weight on for reasons that had nothing to do with her ...........now I distance myself from anyone who is not supportive of me........I follow my heart and my plan......I stay away from events where food is served or tell the host "I ate before I came".........I have distanced myself from friends who tell me that I am wasting away to nothing.......I post on two great threads where I have supportive MFP friends who are interested in my eating and exercising and weight loss and don't share any of that with my face to face friends......many of whom feel compelled to defend their own eating habits when they talk to me.